I'm hoping to get some opinions, experiences-good & bad...for those who have lived with with a significant other (other than a spouse, you get the idea) I already know the religious stance on co-habitation, but that's not what I'm looking for in this post! (once again, you get the idea!)
Anyway, what was your experience? Did it work, not work out? Did you choose to marry, go separate ways? Were finances an issue? Were you pleased, sorry with your decision?
Probably more questions than a hyper 5 yr old I know, but hey I'm interested :imbar
thanks guys :wink2:
Sep 27, '02
Yes it worked beautifully with my husband and me. We lived together and were engaged well over 18 months before "making it legal" and only felt pressed to do that when the military was moving him. We wanted to go together and being legally married was the only way it would happen. Both my sisters lived with their s/o before marriage and have been married long term now. Many more I know have done this too, with a large degree of success. I never really looked at as trial marriage, just learning to live together and deal with one another's idiosyncracies. I would have been happy to live with him a lot longer if the military did not make matters a bit more urgent.
Many will recommend AGAINST it; Dr. joyce Brothers, Dr. Laura(sigh I wont' touch that) and other "PROFESSIONAL" counselors and "relationship experts". It really is up to you. For us, it was a great way to learn to live together and see if we were compatible; I was not eager to repeat the first mistake I made w/my first husband long ago. So yep, I recommend it. Married 14 years now, two wonderful kids later!
Just a word of caution; be aware of community property statutes and what the State you live in has to say about Common Law Marriage--- should it not work out! Unless you have a clear understanding of your rights and responsibilities, you could be very unhappy that your living together was seen as marriage in the eyes of State Law and therefore community property laws would apply. Think about that carefully, first. Good luck!
Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Sep 27, '02
Sep 28, '02
Hubby and I lived together for about a year and a half before we were legally married, and when he moved in we considered that to be a committment to each other and still consider that to be our true anniversary. 20 years for us come February.
Last edit by aimeee on Sep 28, '02