My daughter Rachel is 10. She is plumping up right now, but I have seen her do this before. First of all, her body is changing. I think she is getting ready for puberty because she is starting to develop breasts already.
She goes through periods where she plumps up and then grows and loses it. Wellll.... she was just told yesterday by two of her "friends" that she is fat! It totally broke her heart and of course mine too! I don't want my daughter so focused on her weight right now. She eats plenty of healthy foods and she is very active. She could eat more veggies, but other than that, I am not sure that I would adjust much about her diet. Between school, rollerblading in the barn, running and sports activities with her friends, and her drama class (they have choreographed dance) she gets plenty of exercise. She wants to lose weight, though, because she thinks she has to to be valued by her so called friends. . I remember being called fat as a child and it was awful. I don't want her to feel this pain, but I hesitate to put her on a diet.
I hate it that she thinks that she is not good enough. Here's my dilemma with her. If I say, sure honey I'll help you lose the weight, then am I reinforcing this idea that she is fat and should lose weight to gain acceptance? Or should I try and explain to her that she will thin out with growth? What if that isn't good enough in her eyes? What if she doesn't thin out and then is even more hurt? I don't want my daughter to develop eating problems. I do want her to be healthy and to feel confident about her body, though. Any advice?