Kaknurse, I totally understand!

  1. i totally understand! (((((hugs)))))

    my husband & i have been trying to conceive (ttc) since may 2000. in august 2000, we were diagnosed with severe male factor infertility. our count is around 30 mil, but our morphology & motility are only 1%. our only option is in-vitro. after many hours of internet & phone research, we chose dr. sherman silber's clinic in st. louis. he specializes in male infertility. he is one of the doctors who invented & perfected icsi (the procedure where the place the sperm directly inside the egg), which is what we need to get pregnant.

    to top it all off, last fall i started slowly gaining weight & my periods started getting more irregular. my ob/gyn sent me to a re. to make a long story short, he found a mild case of pcos. so, now we are dealing with that also.

    most people do not understand how hard emotionally trying to conceive is. if i hear, "just relax" or "just don't think about it" one more time, i am going to shoot somebody! :angryfire

    we have decided to wait on ivf until next summer (july or august 2003), because i should graduate dec 2003. i figure i can graduate a few months pregnant. positive thinking, huh?

    i just wanted to let you know you are not alone. if you ever want to "talk", i am here.

    best wishes & +++++++++++++ thoughts to you!
    Last edit by rn2b_moni on Jun 20, '02
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  3. by   Ted
    originally posted by rn2b_moni
    i totally understand! (((((hugs)))))

    my husband & i have been trying to conceive (ttc) since may 2000. in august 2000, we were diagnosed with severe male factor infertility. our count is around 30 mil, but our morphology & motility are only 1%. our only option is in-vitro. after many hours of internet & phone research, we chose dr. sherman silber's clinic in st. louis. he specializes in male infertility. he is one of the doctors who invented & perfected icsi (the procedure where the place the sperm directly inside the egg), which is what we need to get pregnant.

    to top it all off, last fall i started slowly gaining weight & my periods started getting more irregular. my ob/gyn sent me to a re. to make a long story short, he found a mild case of pcos. so, now we are dealing with that also.

    most people do not understand how hard emotionally trying to conceive is. if i hear, "just relax" or "just don't think about it" one more time, i am going to shoot somebody! :angryfire

    we have decided to wait on ivf until next summer (july or august 2003), because i should graduate dec 2003. i figure i can graduate a few months pregnant. positive thinking, huh?

    i just wanted to let you know you are not alone. if you ever want to "talk", i am here.

    best wishes & +++++++++++++ thoughts to you!
    there was a period in our relationship when my loving wife and i were activly trying to conceive. after about two years of no babies, she saw a fertility doctor who recommended that i get tested first. i did. count: zero!!! no "boys" there to be found. (i went to a urologist who said it was probably a congenital thing. . . .)

    needless to say, this news devastated us.

    that was about 8 years ago.

    we know that adoption is an option. however, since then we've become heavily involved with our small business. i guess it's become our "baby". and right now . . . we're happy with our decision not to adopt. or, put differently, we're happy with the "freedom" of not having the huge responsibilies of raising a child.

    still, though, when i hear the cry of a new-born . . . i get those "daddy urges". . . . and an extremely sad feeling in my heart. . . .


    best wishes . . .

    ted
  4. by   RNforLongTime
    Thanks moni for your support. My husband has never been tested. I'd be willing to bet that's one of the first tests that the Reproductive endocrinologist will want to do. My appt is a week away, on July 1st. Unfortunately, this guy is over an hour away and I am working 7p-7a shift the night before, so I'm gonna try to see if I can get an "on-call" that night. I don't want to cancel. I figure, I gotta leave my house by 8:30am at the latest as the appt is at 10am. If I do have to work that night and am out on the floor, I'll be like, hey I got a doc appt in Cleveland at 10 am. I am leaving at 7:25am sharp. Here's my cell phone # call me if any questions! I don't ever ask to leave early so there won't be a problem.

    Thanks for the support!

    Kelly
  5. by   shay
    Originally posted by rn2b_moni
    If I hear, "Just relax" or "Just don't think about it" one more time, I am going to shoot somebody!
    Oh, that's just horrid. Why do people say ignorant sh*t like that?? Just kills me. I don't blame you for wanting to shoot them.
  6. by   NurseAngie
    I'm sorry to hear about your situation and it was interesting to hear a man's story about infertility. You seem really nice. I hope your business is successful.

    Happy Nursing~Angie
  7. by   Ted
    Originally posted by NurseAngie
    I'm sorry to hear about your situation and it was interesting to hear a man's story about infertility. You seem really nice. I hope your business is successful.

    Happy Nursing~Angie
    Thank you. Business is slow but steady.

    Good luck with your schooling!

    Ted
  8. by   jayna
    HUGS TO YOU ALL.
  9. by   RNforLongTime
    Thanks guys! You all are the BEST!!!!
  10. by   moni rn
    totally agree with kaknurse! you guys are awesome!

    thank you all for your support!!! :kiss

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