Just pondering here. . . .

  1. I "surf" to about four different bulletin boards. "Allnurses.com" is the only nursing related bulletin board leaving the other three forums music/recording related.

    I've met some pretty cool people at these bulletin boards. Some I've corresponded via email . . . some, I've just read their posts. . . some, I've even talked to on the phone. . . one bulletin board member (from "Allnurses.com" as a matter of fact!), is coming to my house for a home-cooked meal! (She's doing a "camp-nurse" gig for a "Summer Camp for Rich Kids" that's located about 1/2 hours drive from my house!)

    I go to the music/recording-related bulletin boards to learn the tricks of producing good-quality recordings as well as to learn how to better use some of the computer software/hardware "toys" that I own. I go to "Allnurses.com" usually ignore anything nursing-related and unwind here at the "Off Topic - Just Conversation" forum.

    What's interesting is that I wasn't doing any of this stuff a few years ago. I met people the old-fashioned way. . . face to face. We'd go out, have dinner, watch a movie, go hiking, play music together, go shopping, watch a Broadway show, go to church, go on a picnic, and/or sit around and just talk.

    Here's my thought:

    Cyber Friendships

    Interesting how technology enables us to meet people who literally lives thousands of miles away from ourselves. At times, we share some fairly personal stuff here. I've shares thoughts on some topics that I haven't even shared with my own church pastor (remember the thread, "Do you Believe in Life After Death" ?) Sometimes it just seems easier to share things to people via "keyboard" than it is share thoughts to a warm-blooded human being who's actually standing (or sitting) next to me.

    On one hand, I find "Cyber Friendships" pretty cool. Without a doubt, I've grown to appreciate and respect several individuals from this "Allnurses.com" bulletin board. Without this form of "meeting" I would have never had the pleasure to meet these wonderful people. It is nice talking to a "cyber crowd" about topics I may not have otherwise had a chance to discuss. . . whether it's nursing related, music related, or just plain life related. It's easy to learn about other cultures and be exposed to different and new ideas from people around the world via the internet. . . this is way cool!!! Finally, I find if fun to goof around these "cyber halls" for a harmless way to unwind.

    On the other hand. . . I enjoy meeting people face to face. Can't do that over the internet. No real hugs; no opportunity to see how people may be really reacting to a comment posted via "cyber conversation"; can't see the eyes. . . it's important for me to see eyes - the "gateway to the soul".

    Will the internet ever replace "up close" relationships? No, at least not for me. But I can't deny the realness of the "cyber friendships" founded at these "computer-based meeting rooms". It's interesting how technology can expose a person to new things and wonderfully different people.

    . . . and yet, there's nothing like a real, warm hug where people can see "eye to eye" and view eachother's souls.

    I have a modestly large computer-based music studio. Thanks to modern technology and the computer, I can compose and record music where I am the "lone" musician playing the drums, the bass, the piano, the strings, the woodwinds, and even the "guitar". (My wife says that I'm playing with myself whenever I do this . . . but that's another topic for another thread!). We use this technology-produced canned music for live gigs, actually, as well as for albums and other things.

    But there's nothing like playing with live musicians!!! No matter how sophisicated modern technology can be for musicians - even to the point of recording a whole album that sounds like a 100 piece orchestra with only one musician. . . there is nothing like playing with a live band!!! Computers and other high-tech gadgets will never take the place of live musicians playing real instruments!!!

    And no matter how many wonderful people one may meet at the "Allnurses.com" bulletin board . . . . nothing will ever replace the actual touch of one's hand holding another person's hand in friendship.

    Long live technology!!! Long live friendship of all kinds!!! Long live real eyes seeing real eyes just a few inches away during a caring and heart-felt hug.

    Peace. . .

    Ted
    Last edit by Ted on Jul 10, '02
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  3. by   pianonurse
    Yep!!! And nothing like a real live kiss, too!
    Last edit by pianonurse on Jul 10, '02
  4. by   Cindy_A
    The internet is a pretty awesome tool. I have "met" several distant cousins through the internet that I would never have met otherwise. Hopefullly, I will be able to actually meet some of them, since they live fairly close. But, even living faily close, I would never have met them if it weren't for the internet!
    BTW, I met my hubby online! :kiss
  5. by   Ted
    Originally posted by Cindy_A
    The internet is a pretty awesome tool. I have "met" several distant cousins through the internet that I would never have met otherwise. Hopefullly, I will be able to actually meet some of them, since they live fairly close. But, even living faily close, I would never have met them if it weren't for the internet!
    BTW, I met my hubby online! :kiss
    Cool, Cindy! Met your hubby on the 'net!. Way cool!


    Cheers
    Ted
  6. by   Mary Dover
    Ted, I met my husband on the net too. Specifically, on August 4th, 2001 at about 0620. I wasn't even looking, lol. We just 'clicked' during a chat.
    I've made some other really wonderful friends online as well. Unfortuneately, some live too far away to visit. But I chat with one regularly enough that she's almost like my next door neighbor.
    Re the music, I play piano, and used to be quite an active church musician. I love playing with others too. Some family members and I used to get together for 'jam' sessions. They're all just too busy now.
    Have you ever read the book, "The Prayer of Jabez"? I had just finished reading that book last summer when I met my husband. I find it awe inspiring how technology has allowed us to 'expand our borders'.
    Mary
  7. by   delirium
    I can't say I met my significant other online, I met her at kind of a seedy place actually, and I won't say where.

    I will say that the internet is cool, and I have made some close friendships that transitioned to 'real life' rather seamlessly, and some people just turned out to be unscrupulous f*cks. But that's the way it is with real life, I suppose. Some good people, some not.
    The internet is a great place to harbor people with inadequate social skills.... I imagine if Lovecraft were alive today, he would be a chat guru. Its nice to meet people online, especially creative people, people I may not ever meet otherwise, but it will never replace human interaction, in my opinion.
    Reaching out to others, literally and figuratively, is an integral part of the human condition.
    Just my .02.
  8. by   thisnurse
    i treasure some of the ppl i have met online. they mean a lot to me. some of my internet friends i have had for years and we still stick together. they have gotten me thru some really tuff times in my life. we gather on a small message board which my honey calls "the support group" lol
    ted...my guy is doing the recording thing too. he has some music on mp3.com
  9. by   Ted
    Originally posted by thisnurse
    ted...my guy is doing the recording thing too. he has some music on mp3.com
    Cool!!! Where can I find his music. Give me a PM if you want!

    Cheers!

    Ted
  10. by   donmurray
    Nothin' like a good long ponder!...What a good word!
  11. by   l.rae
    Ted, what kind of music do you perform??? do you have any on the internet??? just curious....this is a neat way to socialize(sp), and not too many social skills required. Anyway, you are right about the eye contact thing....l miss the face to face...on the other hand, l can turn off my computer anytime l want..l guess it is the best of both worlds.....LR
  12. by   CANRN
    My first encounter with net buddies was awesome! I met Missy, she had cancer and a journal. We became friends and talked on the phone several times a week until she passed away in 1997. Through her I met some wonderful people. others who frequented her journal and messageboard. Several I have met, we arranged a meeting in Chicago after Missy died. One gal is from Texas and we still talk on the phone, email, etc and the other from PA now in Michigan.
    The internet has made me realize just how small our world really is. It's awesome!
  13. by   shygirl
    Ted,

    What a nice post. You seem very thoughtful today. Here is a long distant (((((((HUG))))))) Shygirl
  14. by   Ted
    Originally posted by l.rae
    Ted, what kind of music do you perform??? do you have any on the internet??? just curious....this is a neat way to socialize(sp), and not too many social skills required. Anyway, you are right about the eye contact thing....l miss the face to face...on the other hand, l can turn off my computer anytime l want..l guess it is the best of both worlds.....LR
    Well . . . I've done a lot of show-type music. My wife and I used to have a cabaret act, known as The Act . . . :imbar . . .we did music/comedy, dinner theater. Done full-time cruiseship gigs as a "lounge musician". Amy and I currently own a small production company and produce musical/comedy based shows and albums.

    I used to be in a rock band playing southern rock type music. That was the last "human-bodied" band I was in. We were hot!!! I played keyboard. The guitarist was probably the best around the area. . . a real talent, he was!!!

    When ever we do our live show, now, it's canned music with my wife and two other partners singing/performing. I'm the soundman who pushes the button to make the music go! (It's also my music, my recording, etc . . . I do alot of "behind the scene stuff. . .) Someday, when we make tons of money (hopefully!!!), we'll hire live musicians. Like I said, there's nothing like playing with live musicians!!!

    With regards to talking via "keyboard and internet", one of the plus-sides is the minimal amount of social skills needed. Only me and God knows the amount of times I've burped and farted while typing to you guys here at "Allnurses.com"!!!! Yep!!! I could have just let one go now . . . and you never even knew!!!

    Ahhhhhhhhhhh. . . . Cyber Friendship!

    Cheers,

    Ted

    P. S. Shygirl . . . thanks for the cyber hug! One back at you! I sure was in a pondering mood last evening.

    Peace, folks!
    Last edit by Ted on Jul 10, '02

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