Ok so, my daughter is a second year college student.
Last year she had the room mate from hell. This girl looked like
Elvira, had problems cutting herself, drank heavy and ended up pregnant and having an abortion. We made it through all of that. Well this year we get a sweet humble room mate she has a 4.0 GPA very nice, her entire family including g-maw brought her to college. I think Wow! this will be soo much better. NOT!!
This girl is dating a 15 yr. old and is hooked on porn! Whats up with this? She even had the nerve to approach my daughter and ask her if she knew another girl that would have sex with her so her boyfriend could watch!!! The boy is 15!! and even if he was older thats still warped!
Of course its too late to change roomates, so she is stuck! DID I send me kid to hell or what? It seems no matter how much we prepare our kids for the world, its never enough.
My instinct is to go and get her and say sorry but you have to come home, but I know thats not right.
Any thoughts or suggestions? Do we ever really get our kids raised?
Sep 13, '02
This may be my first post where I will get flamed!
Oh, the things I could tell you from when I lived in the dorm. Some I told my parents about, some I will NEVER tell them about. Fact is, it's life.
Please allow me to be blunt here: You are not going to be able to protect your daughter from the world. She is in college, she is living in a dorm. Life is now up close and personal. It's time for her to start learning how to deal with these things up close and personal. This is the proving ground. I'm not saying to throw her to the wolves, not by any means, but there is only so much you can do and only so much you should
Now may be the time to go from asking "What can I do to protect my daughter?" to "Daughter, what are you thinking you can do to protect yourself and how can I support you
in your decision?".
Just my thoughts from a daughter who lived in dorms and a mother of a daughter.
Oh - and the 15 year old boy? It's not your business. Stay out of it.
My $0.02 - and no chair to hide under, I'll take it like a woman.
Last edit by LasVegasRN on Sep 13, '02