Is he flirting with me?

  1. Hello everyone,

    I am new to this website and actually just discovering it after being an RN for 2.5 years now. Anyway, I have a question and I'm hoping someone would kindly answer or offer advice.

    I have been working in a small overflow unit in a large hospital and I work with several male residents. One resident I have worked with since being a brand-new grad. Honestly whenever I interacted with him back then I was very intimidated, and it wasn't simply b/c I was brand new Lately all of a sudden things seemed to have changed. He has been getting a little "friendly". I am not at all opposed to this or offended. I'm not even one of those types that strictly won't date physicians/co-workers (but that's a different thread).

    Lately he's been coming around and asking if Pt. X is in my unit and he is very touchy-feely. I do not see him do this with other nurses in the unit. The circle of personal space is definitely becoming smaller as we look through charts! He's always borrowing my stethoscope and sometimes when I'm at the bedside with a patient he's speaking to he seems nervous and sometimes stumbles over his words. He seems to be opening up to me a lot more and smiling at me when we talk about pt.-related issues. Once another nurse was in the same room and she started being flirtatious with him and he joked saying, "Me and her have a relationship thing going." (I'm not sure what he meant by that.) Don't get me wrong, we still maintain a professional relationship but I can tell that he's 'singleling me out'. Sometimes I catch him looking at me from across the unit!

    One day last week even he asked me what days I work. Doctors don't ask nurses questions like that! lol. But I can't say I've not been flirting with him either, though! Honestly I'm loving the attention but maybe he's just being nice.

    I'm just sort of confused I guess. What does all this mean and has anyone else experienced this? What did you do?

    BTW I am a female but to get a good POV responses from the guys are appreciated as well.

    Thanks kindly in advance for your insights.
  2. 30 Comments

  3. by   Soup Turtle
    ...sounds like it to me.
  4. by   Cattitude
    I'm just sort of confused I guess. What does all this mean and has anyone else experienced this? What did you do?
    I guess I'm not too sure why you're confused? You're a woman, he's a man. You're both flirting and hopefully both available.

    Go for it if you want. Just be professional at work of course and discreet. Don't talk about your business and if you do date, ask him to keep quiet as well. Just realize though that people probably will end up finding out if you two become an "item".
  5. by   skipaway
    If you're interested in him, please make sure he's available and doesn't have a wife or a serious GF.
  6. by   olol765
    Isn't that why we became nurses in the first place??? LOL!!
  7. by   javanurse2000
    :Melody: Somebody's got a boyfriend :Melody:
  8. by   Victoriakem
    Quote from briehy
    Isn't that why we became nurses in the first place??? LOL!!
    Uh, NO!
    Wouldn't want to date a Doc, not ever.
  9. by   olol765
    Never say never....
  10. by   crissrn27
    Sounds like love is in the air .........keep us posted.
  11. by   CiCigirl
    sounds like he likes you.........and you like him too.

    i'd agree with cat, if you decide to pursue it just make sure you're discreet (for your own benefit) and that he is too.

    other than that i wouldn't put at whole lot of thought/hopes/dreams/desires etc. into it right now. if you like this guy and he likes you i'd just let things develop at a casual pace before i jumped heart first into something and spent my friday nights waiting by the phone, ya know?

    good luck with this!!! :biere:
  12. by   jill48
    Sounds good to me. Go for it honey.
  13. by   gr8rnpjt
    What's the rush? Sounds like you two are mutually interested. Let things progress. Oh, agree with other posts, make sure there is no wife or girlfriend in the picture already. Nothing wrong with it as long as no one is getting hurt.
  14. by   gitterbug
    Check out his personal stats. Is he available? Is he the sort that picks one nurse on every unit to befriend with a little more personal attention? Check your own stats, are u available? What sort of relationship are u looking for?
    Is this fun and games at work or do u feel like it could be something more?
    Whatever answers u come up with, please remember, you are both professionals and need to act accordingly around the unit.