Is cattiness human nature?

  1. At 4th of July BBQ where 75% of guests were men (mostly unmarried). While I expected oink talk occurred ("I'd hit that," etc.), I didn't expect cattiness.

    A good looking younger guy showed up at the party & kept the women riveted with his funny (& gross) stories from his bad boy days. After he left, some men ripped into the guy & said that they would never tell such stories & that he was probably lying, blah, blah, blah...

    They were jealous & they were making fun of him behind his back. Meow.

    So women aren't the only ones who act catty.

    I admit that I loved it. I felt vindicated... maybe cattiness is not a female trait, but a human trait.

    Hope you had a happy 4th.

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    Caroline
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    dupe post. see below please
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Jul 5, '03
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Originally posted by PlanetCaroline
    At 4th of July BBQ where 75% of guests were men (mostly unmarried). While I expected oink talk occurred ("I'd hit that," etc.), I didn't expect cattiness.

    A good looking younger guy showed up at the party & kept the women riveted with his funny (& gross) stories from his bad boy days. After he left, some men ripped into the guy & said that they would never tell such stories & that he was probably lying, blah, blah, blah...

    They were jealous & they were making fun of him behind his back. Meow.

    So women aren't the only ones who act catty.

    I admit that I loved it. I felt vindicated... maybe cattiness is not a female trait, but a human trait.

    Hope you had a happy 4th.

    ---
    Caroline
    Fancy that.....and there are people here at these boards who will tell you that nursing is in the poor state it is today because of the catty, rumor-mongering nature of WOMEN.........
    it is indeed an equal-opportunity trait, now we see. hmmmmm
  5. by   Tweety
    Honey go to a gay bar if you want to see catty men. And they are damned good at it. LOL

    Men have always been catty. The world of business is full of cattiness. Stop by any water cooler anywhere in any office, or any men's room in any office and you hear catty.

    Where have you been that you are just now discovering this????
  6. by   Shamrock
    I think it is learned behavior myself. It also seems to have the
    "crowd" mentality to it. (Once someone starts, everyone joins in until the victim is in shreds) Gender doesn't matter.
  7. by   Tweety
    Originally posted by SmilingBluEyes
    Fancy that.....and there are people here at these boards who will tell you that nursing is in the poor state it is today because of the catty, rumor-mongering nature of WOMEN.........
    it is indeed an equal-opportunity trait, now we see. hmmmmm
    Deb, I have always said that which I criticize the most about in others are qualities I really possess myself. Probably true of those guys that acuse women of ruining nursing for the rest of us.
  8. by   magRN
    I have 4 older brothers and believe me they can be very catty....so no cattiness in not only a female trait.

    Generally though I enjoy talking with the guys more than the gals because the conversation tends to be much more varried and interesting.
  9. by   Tilleycs
    I personally HATE cattiness, whether it's in men or women. I think it's a sign of a small mind and an unbelievable amount of insecurity. You want to feel better about yourself, so you tear down other people behind their backs (wow, what courage). The thing is, if they're honest with themselves, I don't think they DO feel better - how can you feel good about yourself if that's what you do with your time? What does that say about you as a person?

    Case in point - I went with my girlfriend to the opening ("open house") of the new ENT clinic where she's the head nurse. I was looking forward to meeting everyone, but when I got there, there was a group of women standing and talking to each other. They were talking low and pointing at other people in the room. My girlfriend and I went and spoke to them (they work with her), and they were basically evaluating everyone in the room. I was disgusted. When I'm around people like that, the evening can't end fast enough. We're in "the age of information", and they can't come up with anything better to talk about than THAT? Like I said, small minds.

    The thing that disgusted me the most was, they had NO room to talk about anyone else. Most of them were overweight, so they should have been using that time and energy in the gym losing all that lard, instead of pointing their fingers at other people. If you want to point your finger, point it at YOURSELF - you'll have plenty to worry about. Once you fix everything in yourself, then you can start pointing your finger.

    O.k, I'm off my soapbox. I just hate stuff like that. People could be so much more productive with their time than resorting to stuff like that. It's such a waste.
  10. by   NICU_Nurse
    "I personally HATE cattiness.

    I think it's a sign of a small mind and an unbelievable amount of insecurity.

    You want to feel better about yourself, so you tear down other people behind their backs.

    Like I said, small minds.

    Most of them were overweight, so they should have been using that time and energy in the gym losing all that lard, instead of pointing their fingers at other people.

    It's such a waste.


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    Maybe they're experiencing an "unbelievable amount of insecurity" because people keep talking about how fat they are.

    It intrigues me that someone who is so vehemently against pointing fingers at other people's flaws behind their backs would make such a comment about a group of women- anonymously- on a board that they will probably never be privy to.

    (Edited to correct what may have unintentionally come across as cattiness.)
    Last edit by NICU_Nurse on Jul 7, '03
  11. by   Tilleycs
    Um...ha. I'd feel the same if they were thin people doing the same - the "insecurity" issue is the same, and the "other people talking about them" defense doesn't make it right. Oh, and you're right, I shouldn't have pointed out their hypocrisy. Oh wait, but isn't that what you're trying to do to me? Hmm, small minds must think alike then, huh?

    Geesh, what is it on this board with everyone wanting to defend overweight people?
  12. by   NICU_Nurse
    As I said, I merely found it interesting that within your post you discussed how much you personally hate cattiness, how much it disgusts you, how it is a sign of a "small mind," a display of insecurity, and a waste of time. Those comments, paired with your personal observations, intrigued me.
  13. by   Tilleycs
    Intrigued you to the point where you felt it necessary to take a jab at me anonymously (as you pointed out that I did)...intriguing how you respond to things that intrigue you...

    Maybe you were just illustrating my point, that everyone's hypocrisy is easy to see?
  14. by   NICU_Nurse
    I apologize for my comment; I didn't mean to "jab." I've edited my post to clarify what I meant.

    Furthermore, I don't believe I need to further illustrate the point you made. You've illustrated your own point nicely.

    (Edited for further clarification.)
    Last edit by NICU_Nurse on Jul 7, '03

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