Instant Messenger Meat Market?!?!?!

  1. So I log onto MSN for the first time in I couldn't even tell you when. I am chatting with my DH. In the course of a few minutes I have 2 strange men IMing me, wanting to know how old I am and what I look like.
    I am asking my DH how in the world this is happening. He then explains to me how you can pull up peoples profiles and IM them. I had no Idea.
    I am very selective about any chat rooms I even think about entering to avoid those trolls who lurk in them just waiting for some "female companionship." At least in the good old days when I would be in a bar and guys would try this IRL I got free drinks outta the deal. Geez.
    Of course the other interesting part of this is how quickly my dh was able to explain it all to me:uhoh21: LOL I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt I know how much time he has always spent on the puter well before he ever met me.
    SO from now on for me it is invisible mode on MSN.
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  3. by   jnette
    Wow... see, I didn't know that EITHER !!! :uhoh21:

    And I spend a LOT of time on the puter, but the only chat room I've ever been in is ours here at Allnurses.

    I have Yahoo IM, and used to IM my dd a lot, but I never knew OTHER ppl could see what you were writing??? Is that SO ???

    OMG... that's too funny! When dd and I get to IMing, it gets pretty darn SILLY !!!
  4. by   HappyJaxRN
    Quote from babynurselsa
    So I log onto MSN for the first time in I couldn't even tell you when. I am chatting with my DH. In the course of a few minutes I have 2 strange men IMing me, wanting to know how old I am and what I look like.
    I am asking my DH how in the world this is happening. He then explains to me how you can pull up peoples profiles and IM them. I had no Idea.
    I am very selective about any chat rooms I even think about entering to avoid those trolls who lurk in them just waiting for some "female companionship." At least in the good old days when I would be in a bar and guys would try this IRL I got free drinks outta the deal. Geez.
    Of course the other interesting part of this is how quickly my dh was able to explain it all to me:uhoh21: LOL I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt I know how much time he has always spent on the puter well before he ever met me.
    SO from now on for me it is invisible mode on MSN.
    Yahoo was like that when I used to get on there talking to my friends. I had a webcam too and at times would go into the chat rooms. BIG MISTAKE! It got so old after awhile. The men and some of the women :chuckle wanted me to expose myself on the cam....and strange people talking dirty. Over and over...all the time. I finally pitched the cam in the garbage and removed the Yahoo program from my computer. That was just disgusting.
  5. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Oh, it gets worse.

    I was going to a CRAFT CHAT ROOM at Yahoo and kept getting IMs for porn. Not your average porn, i mean raunchy leaving-a-woman-bleeding porn and THAT was the stuff available for FREE. I'd be afraid to see just what you get if you subscribed. I'm not a prude, but that was some nasty stuff.

    My Yahoo profile is public, however, my email box is set up so that i ONLY receive messages from people on my address book, since i got so much spam.

    (My personal spam favorite was the one titled "Your penis the length of a firehose." Um, wouldn't i need someothing to build on first?)
  6. by   live4today
    I used to have IM too, but got rid of it. Too many jerks bothered me when shown to be online.
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Only reason why i have IM is that it's cheaper than the phone, plus i can talk to different friends at the same time, and we can gather in our own IM box. Kinda like sitting around the table at a restaurant and having a gab.
  8. by   jnette


    OMG !!!

    I have never ventured onto a pornsite.. thank GOD.. and if any site I go to just happens to look anything LIKE it might be pornrelated, I close that window IMMEDIATELY.

    I don't understand the IM deal... I never had this happen when I used to IM my dd. Are IMs PUBLIC then?
    I mean, I thought the only ppl who could see the IM was the one you were IMing.. on your FRIENDS list.

    Someone please clarify.. I don't get it.
  9. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Well, put it this way, i would not consider anything i do online to be private, unless it's a secured site. Other than that, i just assume someone can see what i'm doing on here.

    (Hence the reason i don't go to this site at work.)
  10. by   mercyteapot
    We have MSN IM, but ds must have set it for the invisible mode, since we never have that problem. I remember going into a cooking chat room at aol years ago, though, and perverts coming in. It was confusing, since there are thousands of places to go to pursue that interest, why do they have to disrupt other rooms, too?
  11. by   babynurselsa
    They are able to look at public profiles and then IM you.
    THey couldn't see what DH and I were chatting about they opened up in thier own windows.
    I went to investigate this after DH tried to explain it to me. You go to member directory and select an interest group by location, age gender whatever and addy's just pop right up and all you gotta do is click on them and start talking.
    I had no idea!!!
    And some of the screen names OMG!!!
  12. by   babynurselsa
    Whenever the pervs start in I always ask them for thier credit card number and then we can take it from there.
    Then I remind them there are plenty of chatrooms and websites that they can get what they are looking for. I am not interested. I am more of a skin to skin girl myself and a bunch of raunchy typing just don't do it for me.
  13. by   live4today
    Quote from babynurselsa
    ............................ I am more of a skin to skin girl myself and a bunch of raunchy typing just don't do it for me.
    Now you're talkin' my language. Skin to skin....cheek to cheek....
  14. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I'll get messages from male idiots who ask if i want to see a picture of their "big" parts.

    To which i say "if your penis is so fabulous, why are you having to advertise it?"

    Can you believe i get no answers to my question lol.

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