Infertility?

  1. Is anyone else out there dealing with infertility?, I just had my first visit this week with a fertility specialist, I never imagined things could be this difficult, it's frustrating so I thought if anyone wants to share stories or compare notes, it might be comforting.
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  3. by   BuffaloLPN
    I wouldn't say we are dealing with infertility, yet, but we have ben trying for 1.5 yrs and nothing yet. We have both had a workup done, to rule out major problems. I am not urgent to get to pregnant NOW, but went off the pill on my wedding day in hopes of an anytime soon baby. I am okay with waiting a few years, but I know how scary the idea of not being able to conceive is. For me, the only thing I ever wanted to do was be a mom. Nursing is what I do for money, but my childhood dream was always just to have babies! Doesn't it infuriate you when you see a young girl, or multiple babies/multiple fathers kind get a baby. Maybe that sounds mean, but it hurts to see so many "mistakes" when some of us actually welcome pregnancy.
  4. by   oceanblue
    Thanks for replying Buffalo LPN, and YES!!!! It is so annoying to see young unwed mothers or "druggies" having baby after baby to different men & we're having so much trouble having one. I did have a miscarrige in Jan. '03, but the doc says I was probably only about 2 weeks along. We also have been trying for 1 1/2 years, but no luck, my regular ob/gyn ran some tests on both of us, but his answer was just "be patient", I ran out of patience so decided to consult a specialist who is going to be running numerous tests on me & a few on my husband. I'm 33 yo & we don't have any children yet so as I said, I can't be patient anymore.
    Good luck & thanks again for your input, it helps when you know your'e not alone. :kiss
  5. by   ?burntout
    Hi there. I haven't been home from work long, so this will be short.

    I have been dealing with infertility for a total of 5 years now. Just wanted to tell you that you are not alone.

    I will reply more later...

    (((HUGS)))
    Ginger
  6. by   Shotzie
    I had mucho problems getting pregnant..and this after I was such a good girl all though high school!!...
    We both went through the workup and they found no real problem, except I had a bit too much testosterone. I was on various combos of estrogen, progesterone (sp?) dexamethasone, clomid, shots and insemination. I had one miscarriage at 4 weeks and anothjer at 18 weeks - this one was bad!- and then I got pregnant and carried to full term. Then we weren't being careful because, of course, I can't get pregnant, when much to our surprise, I am pregnant again!!...so then I have TWO babies only 14 months apart (who says God doesn't have a sense of humor )
    Years later, we decided we wanted another child. We went back to the same infertility specialist and I was able to get pregnant again...but lost it at 14 weeks... another insemination and I got pregnant and it stuck.
    We now have three children and are more blessed (and aggravated than I ever knew I could be. My husband had the best attitude throughout this. he said we just had to keep practicing and practicing and eventually we would get it right!!(my answer was always "we'll get it right or we'll get callouses)
  7. by   NeuroICURN
    Well, I'm dealing with a similar problem. We're having "secondary infertility".

    I had my first child when I was 17 (and that time I think I was just in the same room with sperm :chuckle ).

    Years later when my husband and I decided it was time to have more, I went off Depo Provera. After over 2 years, and even Clomid, I still couldn't get pregnant. We decided to take a break for a while and that's when I went back to nursing school.

    Now I'm done and we've been trying for several months now, to no avail. Actually once, I got a positive urine pregnancy test...went to the MDs office and he sent me for a blood HCG, just to be sure.....that came back negative. I was SO heartbroken.....I thought there were no "false positives" when it came to pregnancy tests! Then my period never started so I had to take provera to get that started! Ugh!!!

    I just get so frustrated when I see couples like my husbands brother who, after his wife went off the pill for one month (and she's in her 30s, I'm only in my mid 20s), they got pregnant after the first month! Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them....it's just frustrating! P.S. My nephew's 1st birthday party is tomorrow! :hatparty:
  8. by   bigjay
    Quote from oceanblue
    Is anyone else out there dealing with infertility?, I just had my first visit this week with a fertility specialist, I never imagined things could be this difficult, it's frustrating so I thought if anyone wants to share stories or compare notes, it might be comforting.

    My wife and I have just finished our battle with infertility and won thankfully. We have a nine month old son and daughter to show for it.

    It all started when my wife came off the pill and didn't get her period back. We wanted to have kids and she's very pro-active so she immediately get our family doc to refer her to a specialist. We were lucky enough to get one that didn't take the usual approach of "try for a year or so and come back to see me" so he was quite aggressive in terms of testing and treatment. Part of his initial approach was to suggest we do a procedure where they inject dye into the uterus to see if the fallopian tubes are blocked (the name of it escapes me now). He was a bit hesitant as he didn't think it was really a possibilty and we had to pay about 125 bucks (not covered by OHIP). We decided to do it and initially at the appointment were joking with the tech about what a waste of time and money this would be. Lo and behold though, both of my wife's tubes were blocked... she was devastated.

    We went on and did some research on the pro's and cons of doing a laproscopic procedure to assess and possibly clear the blockage vs. going straight to IVF. The literature showed a quite poor success rate with the lap so we decided to just do the IVF since we were ideal candidates, young and with no fertility issues aside from the mechanical blockage of the tubes.

    IVF is a huge roller coaster. My wife reacted oddly to every drug she got put on, under-reacting to some and over-reacting to others. Our first attempt at ovarian stimulation caused her to develop a ton of ovarian cysts and delayed the process for two or three months. Finally we got the drugs right and got 36 eggs out of her, which is an impressive amount, but then she went into ovarian hyperstimulation which delayed things further. Once we were ready to do the implantation, her uterine lining only expanded to half the thickness it should've for it to be ideally receptive. They did a biopsy to check and it looked okay... but that still meant another month delay. Finally we did the implantation, putting four eggs in since our doc really didn't know if her lining would take or not. It turned out that this, the most important step of the journey, was the only one that went right the first time. A week later, we knew she was pregnant. A month later, an ultrasound showed that two eggs had implanted... and one had split. We were a bit freaked out at the prospect of triplets at that point. The next ultrasound two weeks later showed that one of the identical twins had stopped growing, leaving us with the twins.

    And that wasn't even the end of the ordeal! At thirty-six weeks my wife developed pre-clampsia and had to be delivered by urgent c-section. Babies did really well though and are now happy and healthy. They don't look like premies at all now.

    Sorry to ramble on. My advice is to keep at it and talk to your partner. Infertility was a huge test of our relationship but it's so much stronger now that we've been though it together. Best of luck.
  9. by   oceanblue
    Thank you all so much for your responses, Bigjay, this procedure where they put dye & air into the fallopian tubes to check for blockage, I have to have that done this month, how exactly do they do this procedure? Just curious. Like I had mentioned before, I am seeing a specialist at Magee Womens Hospital in Pittsburgh, and I am really happy that we got on the right path, it's just so frustrating because it sounds like we have a long road ahead of us. Thanks again for everyone's replies, it's nice to know we're not alone.
  10. by   Mimi2RN
    My d-i-l had the same procedure, with an exploratory lap. She had blocked tubes (which were cleared), endometriosis, and cysts on both ovaries. With a little help from Clomid, etc,she became pregnant the second month.

    Six months later, she quit breast feeding, had one period, and now they have two baby girls, 15 mos apart. No problem getting pregnant the second time around, but a big surprise... they weren't planning another one for another year or so.
  11. by   NeuroICURN
    Quote from oceanblue
    Thank you all so much for your responses, Bigjay, this procedure where they put dye & air into the fallopian tubes to check for blockage, I have to have that done this month, how exactly do they do this procedure? Just curious. Like I had mentioned before, I am seeing a specialist at Magee Womens Hospital in Pittsburgh, and I am really happy that we got on the right path, it's just so frustrating because it sounds like we have a long road ahead of us. Thanks again for everyone's replies, it's nice to know we're not alone.
    Hey Oceanblue! I had my son at Magee's! I had a really good experience there. Unfortunately because of my ins. now, I can't deliver there this time. That is, if I can ever get pregnant again too!

    Oh, and I work over at AGH, small world, eh?

    Which hospital you work for?

    Take care and good luck.
  12. by   ?burntout
    Maybe now I can share my ordeal with infertility.

    DH and I started trying to get pregnant in 1999. I knew I had endometriosis, but at the time we started trying, I was hoping my age would help. We did the ovulation predictors kits for a long time-nothing would happen. After the 1st year, I made an appt to see my ob/gyn. I was having pelvic pain so I had my 3rd diagnostic laparoscopy to check on the endo and see if I had any ovarian cysts (I have problems with those too). They also did a HSG (hysterosalpingogram) to check my tubes-all were clear. DH had tests run-he was fine.
    In December 2000, I started on Clomid-I took that for 3 cycles without any luck. I was in severe pain from the endo, so I was put on Lupron for 6 months.
    After those long 6 months, I was started on Provera and then I started on Pergonal injections. By Dec. 2001, I was finally pregnant and so happy and excited.

    I had a difficult pregnancy: at 6 weeks, we learned I was having twins; then at 8 weeks, we learned we had lost on of our babies to vanishing twin syndrome (it is a form of miscarriage). I had other problems in this pregnancy too-I won't go into all the details. Our son, Blake was born at 32 weeks because of complications from PIH; he passed away at 12 days of age from complications of a congenital heart defect. He was also born with hemivertebrae and a bilateral cleft lip and palate.

    We started trying again in Dec. 2002. In addition to the endometriosis, I have been diagnosed with PCOS (after being tentatively diagnosed before).
    I have done 3 cycles of Pergonal injections and one cycle of Gonal-F with an IUI. In the middle of all this, I have had a 4th diagnostic lap to check on the endo and ovaries and tubes-I had some endo lasered off, some cysts drained..I found out today that I am not pregnant...once again The ob/gyn I have been seeing (since mine relocated in July 2003) has a sub-specialty in infertility and he has suggested that IVF may be our next option; it is one that we would do if we were guaranteed that I would get pregnant on the first try and bring home a baby. But since there are no guarantees, we will probably be pursuing adoption. My DH doesn't want to wipe out our bank accounts or take out a loan for IVF: I don't either, but at this point, my desire to bring home a baby clouds my judgement.

    Anyway, that is all about me and infertility. And yes, I can understand the hurt, pain and anger about seeing pregnant teens, people who abuse the children they have, and others....won't go into that here. :uhoh21:
    Last edit by ?burntout on Mar 2, '04

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