Hey nancy! First of all, congrats to you! You have every right to be excited!
Let me share my experience. I was a senior in high school. I wanted to hang out, coast through the rest of my days in school, and then party all night and sleep in through the evening for a couple of months before I worried about what I was gonna do with myself. I was sure I was gonna be a nurse, but didn't know what kind, where, blah, blah, blah. I'm the type of person that cannot start something until I can see the final picture, and, well, once I see the final picture I'm too inpatient to hold out for it.
So, at my mom's urging, and against my better wishes, I crammed up on courses in the first semester so I could graduate early, so I could start college early. For what? I didn't know, but it was what my mom wanted.
Long story short, met a guy, and was 5 months pregnant by the time graduation rolled around. The situation is a little different in the fact that the father (my now hubby) was worthy of, and wanted to be a father. But I can tell you what that child has done for my direction, my purpose in life. I can tell you all the cheesy details of how after I had him, I knew I wanted to be an OB nurse, that a few months later I was a coach for someone else and that sealed it for me, that the very next day I went and "signed up" for nursing school. I can tell you how looking at him makes me want to be the best I can be, as an example to him. I can tell you that everyday, every struggle, I did it for him, and I did it for everyone who has ever knocked an unwed teenage mother.
My mom was very supportive. She sounds alot like you
She told me the same things, that she was not disappointed IN me, because a child is a wonderful gift, she was just disappointed that I was going to have to go through the struggle of working life out backwards.
That's what I tell my young patients now. I did all the same things everyone else does (school, marriage, family) I just chose to be unique and do them in a different order. I tell them they can let their children be their excuse to be stagnant, or they can let their children motivate them to do better.
I wish you tons of luck nancy! You sound like a great mom, and your daughter is lucky to have you!