If you had the chance to be young again.....

  1. Would you want to? Why or why not, and what would you have done differently?
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  2. Poll: If you could, would you want to be young again?

    • Of course, it was the best time of my life.

      31.82% 14
    • It depends on what you call "young".

      29.55% 13
    • Probably....it's been so long, I can't remember.

      2.27% 1
    • What, are you NUTS??!!

      40.91% 18
    44 Votes / Multiple Choice
  3. 25 Comments

  4. by   KaroSnowQueen
    Not for all the tea in china. If I had the knowledge I have now, I'd like the chance to go back and make some different decisions without having to relive it all. But some decisions however wrong would not be undone, because if I didn't marry my first husband, I wouldnt' have the children I have now -- might have some but not THEM, if you understand.
    I'll just stay the age I am and try to be smarter for the next forty years!!!
  5. by   Spidey's mom
    Karo . . . . too true. If you do get to go back and change things, you could end up changing the positive things you have now. The children I have might be different because I probably wouldn't have quit school over their Dad and ended up making THEM in particular. Even though they are a challenge, I wouldn't trade them.

    It would be nice to have the knowledge I have now and to be able to take it back to that "young and naive" me. I do regret some of the choices I made in regards to raising my kids.

    I keep telling my kids to get their education first, then marriage and then kids. If I had been a nurse first, I wouldn't have had to spend so much time away from them while in school. I can pinpoint the time when my 2nd son started veering away and making bad choices and it was right then. I was too busy.

    I hate that.

    steph
  6. by   renerian
    NO way I would go backwards. NO way in you know what LOL. I would have chosen the men in my life more carefully and heeded warning signs.

    I also would have spent more time in my early 20s with my parents. Since they have both been gone since I was in my early 40s, I am 46 now, I missed alot of time.

    renerian
  7. by   sjoe
    Once was more than enough.
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    Its funny . . my husband and I have this conversation occassionally. He would go back to high school in a flash. He loved high school and sports and especially football. He was really smart but didn't crack a book because he didn't have to and got good grades. I think his heart was broken once but he would still go back.

    But me? No way, no how . . . .as sjoe says:

    "Once was more than enough" . .. .

    steph
  9. by   maureeno
    I was too nervous and perfectionistic,
    age has so far been my friend
    so maybe I could just hang out here in my fifties for the rest of this century?
  10. by   Spidey's mom
    How about the option of staying the same age but having the skin of a 20 year old?

  11. by   live4today
    Originally posted by mjlrn97
    Would you want to? Why or why not, and what would you have done differently?
    Answer to your first question is NO!!!

    Answer to your second question is because childhood was "ugly" for the most part for me. I always felt like my parents' "fourth mistake" since I'm their fourth child. Actually, their FIFTH mistake if we count them gettng married in the first place.

    Answer to your third question: The things I would have done differently is I probably would have gone ahead and given myself permission to have a long overdue mental/emotional breakdown and get committed as a child into a facility that would have recognized my need to be placed in a "nice fostercare home". I soooooooo wanted to be loved by my parents, yet I never felt their love.

    I made sure my daughters "felt" my love was real for them. We are very close today because I literally grew up with them. Their childhood was my childhood.

    So........being able to be a child again would NOT be something I would jump up and down about unless I had some really neat parents who made me feel special.
  12. by   VivaLasViejas
    I share your feelings, Renee, and I did much the same with my own kids, because never having received it as a child myself, I wanted them to know what unconditional love was.

    NOW.....if I could combine the body I had at 20, the looks I had at 30, and the smarts I'm growing now that I've reached my mid-40s, I'd be dang near perfect!
  13. by   Brita01
    Sure! There's no way I would do high school again though. I'd pick age 25. Any age before that, I was too young and stupid.
  14. by   Ted
    There is one time in my life that I wish I could re-live over again AND make some changes!!!

    This period is during my music college days. During that time I was dating (very seriously) my high-school sweet-heart. We had a lovely time together. BUT!!! I missed out on a lot of opportunities to practice my craft (piano and writing); missed out on opportunities to network with other musicians; and missed out on opportunities to take chances on music gigs. We did finally break-up just before my senior year of college. Although the break-up was painful, that last year I really lived in terms of attempting to get my music stuff together . . . and just meeting other people.

    Whenever any high school senior askes for advice regarding "what to do" when going to music college I say:
    1) practice like crazy
    2) network like crazy
    3) don't date!!!!

    Ted
    Last edit by Ted on Aug 3, '03
  15. by   Tweety
    I might want to go back to my 20s, but definately not any younger than that. Definately not back to high school days. **shudder**

    What I would do differently is make it through college the first time, save more money, act more responsible. But then again, I wouldn't have learned the lessons I've learned be who I am. Or maybe I'd make it through and be just who I am today and wonder "why did I even go back and do it again?"

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