Ideas For Sympathy Gifts

  1. Ok..... My good friend just lost her mother to a massive heart attack over the weekend. My family and I attended the funeral.

    I would like to send something to the house..... but not flowers.....
    I thought about a gift basket... I found one place that does a bagel basket, with teas, coffee's, etc.


    Does anybody else have any suggesstions for a gift besides a basket...

    or does anybody have a website that has nice baskets...

    Appreciate the input!
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  2. 11 Comments

  3. by   shannonRN
    i am so sorry to hear about your friend's mother. my uncle passed a few months ago. my mom and i made a basket for my aunt. we bought a bible and had it inscribed with his name, found a nice precious moment, and a little vase with some fake gerber flowers stuck inside of it. then we arranged it in a basket. she loves it. has it out next to the urn. hope this helps!
  4. by   Beach_RN
    Thank you for your suggesstion Shannon RN!
  5. by   semstr
    bubble-bath-foam, candles, perfume and chocolates
  6. by   CATHYW
    Any kind of pampering-type gift basket (food, bath, whatever) would be nice, I think. The survivors sometimes need little reminders to take care of themselves, too.
  7. by   Jenny P
    I'm the practical one here I guess. When my friend died a number of years ago, I took 2 cans of coffee (1 decaf, 1 regular), a hot dish, and a big pan of brownies and then offered my services to her mom (whom I did not know) and hubby. I took care of the youngest kids while they made the funeral arrangements, went grocery shopping for her Mom when unexpected company came for the funeral and they'd run out of toilet paper, and other little things like that. This was back in 1985, when I lost 4 friends to breast cancer (these were 4 moms out of 16 in my son's 3rd grade class). I did this with all 4 families that year. We lost touch with that family after we both moved from our old neighborhood.
    Two years ago I took care of a pt. and the wife started talking to me because she thought I looked familiar. It turned out she was my friends' Mom, and she remembered me because I brought "all that food!" I don't know how she recognized me after all those years (and all my extra weight!) but she said she would never forget me-- and she didn't!

    Never forget that in times of stress and when someone loses a family member to death, people still gotta eat!
    Last edit by Jenny P on Aug 7, '02
  8. by   Love-A-Nurse
    originally posted by b_matt
    ok..... my good friend just lost her mother to a massive heart attack over the weekend. my family and i attended the funeral.

    i would like to send something to the house..... but not flowers.....
    i thought about a gift basket... i found one place that does a bagel basket, with teas, coffee's, etc.


    does anybody else have any suggesstions for a gift besides a basket...

    or does anybody have a website that has nice baskets...

    appreciate the input!
    i am sorry to hear bout your friend's mother. how about doing a memory book that includes pictures, cards that were exchanged between them, favorite sayings, etc. i like the gift basket too.
  9. by   Love-A-Nurse
    originally posted by shannonrn
    i am so sorry to hear about your friend's mother. my uncle passed a few months ago. my mom and i made a basket for my aunt. we bought a bible and had it inscribed with his name, found a nice precious moment, and a little vase with some fake gerber flowers stuck inside of it. then we arranged it in a basket. she loves it. has it out next to the urn. hope this helps!
    i too am sorry to hear about the passing of your uncle. what a great idea!
  10. by   susanmary
    Small flowering shrub or tree for her yard.
  11. by   Beach_RN
    Thank you all for your wonderful suggesstions... I have decided to Bath & Bodyworks.... and put a basket together, that I will send to her this weekend!

    You Guys Are the Best!
  12. by   deespoohbear
    Bath and Body Works sounds great! My MIL died in March and I could not believe the kindness everyone showed our family. We had enough food that none of us had to cook until a week later. (And that is saying a lot because there were 30 of us in the immediate family!!) I think the sweetest thing I saw though was what one lady from church did. My in-laws wedding anniversary would have been about 8 weeks after Mom's death. This friend sent my FIL a "Thinking of you card" on what would have been their anniversary. The first birthdays, anniversary and such are always such awkard times for the family. The note was such a welcome touch. Condolences on the loss of your mother's friend.
    Last edit by deespoohbear on Aug 14, '02
  13. by   Beach_RN
    (((deespoohbear))) Thank you for you wonderful suggesstion! I will definetely do that also! We are so such good friends but we live about 1 1/2 from each other... I work, go to school.... it's just not possible for me to see her often or spend time up there!

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