I am a bio-Mom that was blessed by the fact my ex ignored his kids for 10 years (really was better for them).
This is my 3rd round of being a stepMom, 'my' youngest is 16, I potty trained him for his Mom one summer... I established and have maintained a good relationship with the Mothers of my former SO's children. I have always felt priveleged to be a part of these kids lives and even when I did not agree with things I kept my mouth shut. I refused to bad mouth their Moms and would not tolerate their Dads doing it in front of them, I have also made a point of not being the 'fun' Mom...all of my step kids continue to be a part of our lives, at most any given time there is an extra kid
here. Everyone of them knows there is always room at the dinner table, all it costs is a hug. The real test is that my 3 kids enjoy the same sense of Welcome at their step-sibs homes. I am pretty darn good at this step-Mom thing.
OK, now I'll b***h.
(names are changed to protect me from the psycho)
We picked Cody up on May 23 for a 6 week visit while we were on vacation.
bio-Mom sent 2 pair of beat up jeans, 2 pair of shorts, 4 t-shirts, 2 pair of sox and (get this) 14 pair of underwear (oh, and his Play Station 2). Really nice huh? We have sent him $500 worth of NEW clothes since September, yes they still fit him (I asked) apparently Mom told him he didn't need to take any more clothes, we could buy him more if he needed them. We were in Walmart the day we got back (needless to say we did not buy any underwear).
He flew back with us on on May 27.
He takes Adderall, Zyprexa & Paxil (long story, no I don't think he needs all ofthe meds), coming for 6 weeks...bio-Mom sent 16 days of meds...no refills on the scrips...she tells us she will get the scrips from the Doc and mail them to us...she didn't (did I mention she is an RN?). Thank God my kids have gone to the same Ped for 18 years, he has agreed to see Cody on Wednesday and write his scrips.
Cody wears monthly disposable contacts...sent him with no spares...says she will mail them...she didn't, not that it matters anyway, he lost one before we even left to come home. We got his glasses scrip faxed to me, took him to Walmart and bought him a $50 pair of glasses, not covered by the insurance as she maxed out his benefit on contacts (for an 11 year old?).
I, my Husband and Cody have emailed his bio-Mom several times with no response. Cody has called her 5 times, the only time he has talked to her was the day after we got back, yes he has left messages.
Yes, we are pretty certain she is still alive (I have the receipts that my emails were read).
She is expecting a child support check on the 10th...we are not sending it...that may get her attention.
As crazy as Cody is driving us all she will be DARN lucky to get him back at all at the rate she is going...
Washington State will assume jurisdiction of a non-resident child if a parent is a resident, the child has been here >30 days and there has been a substancial lack of parental involvement by the 'out of state' parent and there has been no attempt to conceal the child. And for some reason she sent his SS card and birth certificate with him.
My 3 kids and I have all done the rainbow hair.
I have many tattoos, 18 yo boy has 2, 21 yo girl has 3
I have multiple piercings (in addition to my ears), 18 yo has both ears X2 and tongue, 21 yo girl has multiple (again not all ears) 17 yo has eye brow. Husband has NONE...lives his body adornment fantasies vicariously through me (he finances and watches).