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  1. Okay, I don't usually bring up personal issues but this really irks me..

    This weekend we are doing a family weekend thing at a Lake Cottage, all the SIL's , MIL, BIL, everyone, our kids and all.

    Well my BIL's girlfriend told my husband and I that she was "sending" my BIL along with us to the Lake because she wanted to go up earlier" She didn't even ask if we had room for him, she just basically said "she was sending him with us".. like he was a piece of baggage.

    This really bugged me so I called her and told her that we would love to bring him but we didn't have room.. She then offered to bring some of our stuff up with her so we would have room for him .. THE NERVE ! I said "no thanks" I would prefer to keep all of our stuff together so I know where everything is when I get there. I'm just anal about stuff like that.

    I don't mean to sound picky but really, why couldn't she wait until he is finished working and drive up together. When my husband and I were dating, I wouldn't dream of driving up to the cottage without him, but then we didn't live together.

    It's like she is "acting" like they are married and I think she just really wants to "suck up" to the in-laws because they are driving up early too. OK, you guys tell me if I shouldn't be making such a big deal out of it. Did I do the right thing? or should I have just made room for him and let her push me around???

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  3. by   LasVegasRN
    grumpy hag, here! :chuckle If you're BIL wanted to ride up with you, HE should have been the one to call and ask. So, no, don't let her push you around.
  4. by   CATHYW
    Hey girl, I get another take on this. Perhaps I am just too cynical, but maybe she wants your BIL out of the house and out of her hair for nefarious reasons? Hope not, but you never know!
  5. by   night owl
    I,like you wouldn't have dreamed of going without him. Living together or not, I'd say no way, wait for him to get out of work and go with him. Then I'd ask her why she just had to go earlier... without him...Keep your luggage...tell her to Fed-ex him!
  6. by   Rustyhammer
    HE should have been the one to ask if it was ok if he rode up with you.
    Does he not have a tongue?
  7. by   Mkue
    i know, it's like she is treating him like a child, they are both 50 yrs. old. of course, she went after him after his divorce, she likes to latch on to people who are needy, now she has got her money sooo wrapped up in his finances that he couldn't get rid of her now if he wanted to. so there is more to it.. i don't think he wants to marry her really.

    she is so co-dependent and i really don't want to be involved in that mess. she's usually so lovey-dovey around him in front of the mil, i was surprised that she was not more considerate of waiting for him or sending him fed-ex..lol.. as night owl mentioned.

    cathy, i had thought about that too. since her divorce, this is the closest she has come to a long term relationship, she needs to have someone need her, but you never know, maybe she has found greener pastures or someone that needs her more.

    to all the rest who wondered why he didn't ask for a ride himself, i agree, he should have been the one to ask us. he allows her to do everything.

    thanks for your replys, i appreciate the input.
  8. by   Love-A-Nurse
    the polite thing she should have done was ask if he could ride, but i feel he could have avoided all of this by asking himself.
    Originally posted by Rustyhammer
    Does he not have a tongue?
    Maybe she's keeping his tongue the same place she's keeping his balls?

    Don't worry Marie, you did the right thing. I can't figure it out, but I get the feeling she's got motives for this behavior. Something just aint right there...