I have no clue what he's talking about

  1. Do you ever have this problem with your guy? I love him to death, but between the train clubs and the millitary and the ham radio (not to mention the fact that he's a techie), I don't know what he's talking about when we're out with his friends. See medical jargon isn't a problem for him because his mom is a nurse and he worked as hospital security when he was a student.

    This is a silly thread, but do you have any advice?
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  2. Poll: what do I need to do

    • Go with the flow

      37.50% 3
    • Get more into his activities so that I understand the lingo

      50.00% 4
    • Incessantly ask questions about what he means

      12.50% 1
    • Ignore him

      0% 0
    8 Votes
  3. 7 Comments

  4. by   UM Review RN
    Yes. To keep from being completely bored, learn as much as you can when you're home with him. It probably won't be too hard to get him to open up about something he's interested in.

    When you're out with his friends, listen carefully to the conversation and then ask questions when you and he are alone. You'll show him that you're interested, that you're paying attention, and that what matters to him, matters to you.

    It'll also give you huge brownie points when trying to get him to do something he's not terribly interested in doing.

    Also, you might find that you develop a fascination for his interests too!
    Last edit by UM Review RN on Oct 23, '06
  5. by   Tweety
    I vote for asking questions to understand his hobbies (not incessantly however). Or if you truly aren't interested ignore him.

    My spouse is real into cars and can talk about cars all day long. I let it go in one ear and out the other. I'm sure he does the same when I talk about music.
  6. by   adrienurse
    No I am interested in his stuff. I don't necessarily understand what it's about, but I like him to have his hobbies and it really is part of him that I love. It's just a funny quirk in our relationship that we speak different languages. It doesn't even really bother me.
  7. by   donsterRN
    Quote from Tweety
    I vote for asking questions to understand his hobbies (not incessantly however). Or if you truly aren't interested ignore him.

    My spouse is real into cars and can talk about cars all day long. I let it go in one ear and out the other. I'm sure he does the same when I talk about music.
    Boy, you two sound like Fred and me...
  8. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    If Matt talks about his job at length, it's all i can do to not get bored.

    But he couldn't see himself being a nurse either.
  9. by   Spidey's mom
    Marie - love your avatar! I keep those "Clorox" wipes on the back of the toilet since my 5 year old forgets sometimes to lift the seat. See, I'd much rather the seat was left up than to sit on the seat covered in pee.

    As to the subject of this thread, my dh talks about logging truck mechanics and trees and I listen to the tree stuff but the mechanics stuff goes in one ear and out the other . . . you should see me when he sends me for parts to Peterbuilt. . . I need to buy a thingamajib for the whatsamacallit . . .

    steph
  10. by   CHATSDALE
    i knew this nurse who didn't care a whit about football but really tried to get interested in it because of the guy she met
    he is long gone but she is still a football nut

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