I feel like screaming at the top of my lungs

  1. Does any one else ever feel like just screaming until you pass out? today is one of those days, I have no clue what is wrong with me, well yes I do it could just be I have PMS, or the fact that I just finished working 5 14-16 hour shifts and having to take call for the rest of the night, but I just want to scream or ring someone neck. Kids and Dan are NOT I repeat NOT making it any better. I cant be alone in these feelings I am having please help
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  3. by   Rustyhammer
    I suggest going out the back door and SCREEEEEAAAM!
    I do it sometimes- It helps!
    -Russell
  4. by   whipping girl in 07
    Sounds like you need bathroom-bubble bath-trashy novel-Clinque masque-candle therapy. Go take 10 or 15 minutes away from everything.

    BTW, what kind of call do you take? Yuck.
  5. by   Love-A-Nurse
    yes, i have had to scream a time or two and it feels good!
  6. by   shygirl
    Have some chocolate and a nice glass of wine. Listen to some soothing music too. Usually if I feel like screaming, I just cry.
    Shygirl
  7. by   CATHYW
    Stressed, if you don't live in a neighborhood where the houses are closely spaced, step out in the backyard and let rip with a bloodcurdling scream. Draw it out, until you're out of breath. Or, alternatively, get your bedpillow, put it up to your face, and do the same thing. You will feel drained, but better, in an odd way. Tomorrow is likely to be better!
  8. by   bagladyrn
    Sounds like a perfectly reasonable response to the situation you describe. I'd say go ahead and do it! Make sure family is in hearing range - might make an impression.
  9. by   Sleepyeyes
    OH GEEZ!
    Hi, Stressedlpn, I'm Sleepyeyes, and I too, am a workaholic. I "had" to work all those hours to pay for tuition. But after I got outta nursing school, I started this self-care technique so I didn't burn out, and waste a perfectly good body, marriage, and mind.

    Here's what worked for me when I was so exhausted I just had to scream:

    Take a couple of days off....and spend at least one of them in bed, resting your body. MAKE YOURSELF DO THIS. soak in a hot tub and go back to bed. You've earned it.

    The second day off, plan a more human schedule and stick to it. Practice saying "no" in the mirror every day before work, so you don't get sucked into that extra shift.

    The next time you're asked to do anything that will total (including staying over to "finish up") >46 hours/wk, say no. And don't let 'em wear you down by asking you when you're too pooped to protest.

    Stick to it by screening your phone calls. If it's the job DON'T ANSWER. Give yourself a couple hours to think about it first.

    (I had to go so far as to trust my husband to tell me if I was tired or not-- I hadn't listened to my body screaming for so long, I could only tell by how irritable I got at home.

    ...and remember, it does get easier. The money is not worth YOUR quality of life. I do about 45 hours a week (because I inevitably get stuck doing that 7 am admission or whatever) and I'm a much nicer person and more alert nurse for it.

    Good luck!
  10. by   nursegoodguy
    Sleepy that was GREAT advice!
    Personally I was thinking more along the lines of boxing lessons...
  11. by   karenG
    this is why I fence!!! its amazing how much frustration you can get rid of in 2hrs fencing!!!

    alternatively, a long soak in the bath with a bottle of wine and a trashy book does the trick- have learnt to ignore the family at such times- they'll be there when I open the bathroom door!

    Karen
  12. by   Zee_RN
    ....and it's amazing how far the kids and hubby will retreat after a bloodcurdling scream....
  13. by   OHmom2boys
    Originally posted by Zee_RN
    ....and it's amazing how far the kids and hubby will retreat after a bloodcurdling scream....
    Oh so true!!!!!
  14. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I learned LONG (and early on), ago my limitations regarding what I will give my employers and my career.....and honey it ain't worth my sanity or my family's. You work WAY too hard and that will get you an early grave or a place in the local asylum. I feel for you. Try hard to scale down. meantime, go ahead and SCREAM and do NOT be afraid to ask your family for help.

    Listen anyone w/a family will love this: Once, I had to get the message across in a STRONG WAY. I went on "strike" for a night. I simply walked out, w/o a word where I was going, keys and purse in hand, and disappeared for several hours. NO dinner, no laundry, no nada. Left dh with the kids to figure it all out. It certainly got their attention. I said, I want my needs respected, too. When I ask for help, I expect an effort. I will NOT be the maid, cook, nanny, AND nurse w/o some respect and help And it worked! My dh is MUCH more sensitive to what I need and my ds was so shocked he actually took notice, also. Maybe it's what you need. Oh, by the way, my destination when I went "on strike" was: Barnes and Noble. Spent hours reading books in the quiet and peace of this place, latte in hand. Very therapeutic. I came home calm and collected. And my family was upset w/me but they got the message. I suggest you do the same.

    Oh and re-aquaint yourself w/your answering machine. you are being taken advantage of on all fronts, and this will make you a heart attack waiting to happen. Too many women are passing this way and dying of heart-related complications to stress and overwork. Please, for your health's sake, change this soon!
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Sep 30, '02

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