Hurtful things - page 2

I'm angry at the hubby right now for a comment he made. Nothing big, but it did bother me. so now were playing the silent treatment. Who lasts longer in your disagreements..without speaking? I guess... Read More

  1. by   shygirl
    We don't do the silent treatment to each other. If we're mad, we say so, scream about it and then have make-up sex! LOL

  2. by   NurseDennie
    My hubby and I rarely argue, but that's just because he can't stand confrontation in most forms. He does quite a bit of manipulative type control stuff, but I've got that sussed out and I'm not sucked in by it any more.

    He follows me around and SIGHS at me. He also pouts, but that gets him out of the house sometimes, so that's fine by me.

    I'm very slow to anger. Very seldom yell (that would be impolite) or use that nasty tone of voice. You know what I mean.... But when I do get angry, it's very bad, because I have a really good memory for what has been bothering me all along. The worst argument we ever had was about the cause of an argument we'd had the week before. I mean it - it was WAY worse! I'll never do that again.

    PS - my best friend says that, if for some reason, you WANT to argue with your spouse.... just hang wallpaper together.


  3. by   RNinICU
    We don't argue often, but when we do we both are screamers. I like to let him know what he did to pizz me off. After I've yelled at him enough, then he gets the silent treatment. I have gone as long as two weeks without talking to him. He hates the cold shoulder. He has tried the silent treatment with me too, and it makes me nuts, but I never let it show. He almost always gives in first, even if he was right, which of course is almost never.
  4. by   2ndCareerRN
    I'll tell you what, I'll take the blame just so we don't have to fight anymore ok? It's my fault honey, I'm sorry"
    She hates it when I do that...hehehe
    Isn't that the truth. In some perverse way it gives me satisfaction saying that, knowing she will just get more pissed. Then it is the silent treatment for a while, but, I am better at it than her. So, it usually doesn't last long.
    Then we make up till the next round.

  5. by   CountrifiedRN
    I'm not very good at the silent treatment, I have to say what is on my mind, then I feel better. Usually my husband will bow with hands clasped in front, and say "yes, your meanness, whatever you say, your meanness". (ya know, instead of your highness) Can't help it, I laugh every time.

    My husband rarley gets mad, he's very easy going. But it's pretty funny when something does get him riled, he usually can't even form a sentence!
  6. by   whipping girl in 07
    I just can't do the silent treatment thing...I can't keep my damn mouth shut for that long.

    Since my husband doesn't say that much anyway, if he's silent, it's not that much different.:chuckle

    We actually don't really disagree on that much anymore, and when we do, we just agree to disagree.