Hubby's Home From Hospital!

  1. He came home yesterday. They warned me at the hospital that I probably would not be able to leave him alone.

    Well, I'm afraid they were right. So far today, he's fallen out of bed, and left the stove on with the teakettle sitting on the element. Luckily, I (a) got to the kettle before it was damaged beyond repair, and (b) was able to get him on his feet without calling for the fire department!

    He has profound left-sided neglect. This has produced some interesting moments. Last night, he asked me where the box of chicken wings we'd ordered was. It was sitting right beside his left hand, but he couldn't 'see' it! He also asked me to find his fleece vest for him. I picked it up and started to put it on him, beginning with the left side. He didn't realize that it was the vest until he put his right arm into the sleeve!


    [sigh] Looks like we've got a lot of adjustments to make, and my nursing career is on hold until I can figure out a way to go back to work and keep him safe during the day, without having to pay for the services of a full-time 'sitter'. (Whoever stays with him will have to have some nurse's aid experience, as he is incontinent of urine, and needs help to dress himself and change the incontinent pad.)
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  2. 17 Comments

  3. by   jnette
    Jay-Jay..

    I am pleased that your DH is now able to be back at home. I think this will be a great morale booster for him, and hopefully speed up the recovery process.

    I wish you and DH well... will be keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.

    It won't be easy, as you know,.. but if you keep a sense of humor sprinkled with lots and lots of love, I do believe you both can see your way through this.

    Warm ((HUGS)) to you !
  4. by   NRSKarenRN
    Great that he's home!

    Just because your an RN, doesn't mean you should do it all too.

    A. He needs PT/OT at home. I'm sure you've arranged for it.

    B. Do you have adult day care in your area? After he's stronger it would be the perfect solution, even if you have to scale back your hours.

    c. Find a reliable aide or companion. you need respite too. Anyone available from church?

    In US, we have Office of Aging programs for those over age 60. They have many great programs to keep one out of a nursing home. Now's the time to get aquainted with them. Many homecare nurses are in the dark about the sevices they provide.

    For permanently disabled adults (disability lasting greater 6 months) between age 21-62, we have seperate programs that will do home adaptation: ramps. bathroom/kitchen changes along with attendent care workers: aides who stay with patient while family works.

    Cheers to you being together again. :hatparty:
  5. by   zambezi
    I am also glad to hear that your husband is home...I agree with what the other posters have said. In addition--please remember to take care of yourself too..I know that your mind and presence is focused on your husband right now...things will be different for awhile (though hopefully they will continue to just get better). Remember to take time to grieve for what has been lost so you can focus on the future, which I am sure will bring many more treasures. Wish you and DH lots of luck--he is obviously lucky to have someone like you...
  6. by   Jay-Jay
    Great suggestions, Karen! (as always! ) I had already thought of an adult day progam. Another alternative is moving back home with Mom. The two of them can keep each other company, keep each other out of trouble, and maybe it will be safe to just have a HCA come in at noon to make lunch and help him change himself if needed.

    Though knowing my Mom as I do, she'd probably want to do it for him!! :imbar

    The hospital has arranged for the ABI (Acquired Brain Injury) people to get involved, also OT (guess which company this home care nurse requested for THAT?? )

    We'll just have to wait and see how things go! He's been very lucky in soem respects. To talk to him you'd never guess there was anything wrong.
  7. by   Brownms46
    Quote from Jay-Jay
    Great suggestions, Karen! (as always! ) I had already thought of an adult day progam. Another alternative is moving back home with Mom. The two of them can keep each other company, keep each other out of trouble, and maybe it will be safe to just have a HCA come in at noon to make lunch and help him change himself if needed.

    Though knowing my Mom as I do, she'd probably want to do it for him!! :imbar

    The hospital has arranged for the ABI (Acquired Brain Injury) people to get involved, also OT (guess which company this home care nurse requested for THAT?? )

    We'll just have to wait and see how things go! He's been very lucky in soem respects. To talk to him you'd never guess there was anything wrong.
    Hi Jay-Jay !

    I haven't been around much recently, and when I first saw this thread, I had no idea of what has happened to your DH. But I'm glad to hear you have things in hand, and your DH is home, and on the way to recovery! Your DH is very lucky indeed! God Bless and keep you both, and my prayers will be add for your and he to stay strong, and recover fully from this. And I do hope you will not forget to take care of you too, as has already been said.
  8. by   karenG
    I am so glad he is home. great news.

    Karen
  9. by   Noney
    I'm so glad he's home. Things will work out.

    Noney
  10. by   nurseygrrl
    Jane~

    So glad to hear this great news...I am praying for strength for you both and a speedy recovery for your husband. As others have said, DO NOT try and do it alone. It's a big job and you'll need help. Let us know how things go. :kiss
  11. by   Tweety
    I'm very touched by your love and commitment. How fortunate he is to have a wife who honors the vow "in sickness and in health".

    Best wishes. Wish I was there to help because I surely would love to sit with him and help.
  12. by   phn92
    It's great to have him home, I'm sure. Everyone has already given you wonderful advice! Remember to take care of yourself as well! Also remember that you have friends here to listen if you ever need to relieve stress! God Bless!
  13. by   Dave ARNP
    Congrats JayJay.

    I know you'll take wonderful care of him. Perhaps this time together will allow the two of you to grow even closer.

    You and yours will continue to be in my prayers.

    -Dave
  14. by   Jay-Jay
    You guys are SO terrific! [sniff!~] Thank you SO much for the kind words and suggestions!

    And Tweety, anytime YOU need a nurse, I'd be glad to help out!

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