How to Keep Relationships

  1. Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible. How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you? How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television?(Or Survivor!!) I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour?" She would gasp and stammer, "Ican't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain." And my personal favorite: "It's Monday." ...She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together. Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches.. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect! We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Stevie toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college. Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit." When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. Shekeeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Roller blades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord. My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy. Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you. Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flightor gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply? When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"? When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   Roy Fokker
    Thanks Fran

    I'm calling my dear friends tonight. I haven't talked to them in half a year :-(
  4. by   H ynnoD
    Something I have started working on this year.Spending more time with my family.The things of this world will past,but I believe memories will last forever.I'm trying to have as few regrets as possible.They grow up oh so fast and I've noticed that people who spend alot of time with their Families,their kids grow up to be pretty good Adults.
  5. by   FranEMTnurse
    Quote from H ynnoD
    Something I have started working on this year.Spending more time with my family.The things of this world will past,but I believe memories will last forever.I'm trying to have as few regrets as possible.They grow up oh so fast and I've noticed that people who spend alot of time with their Families,their kids grow up to be pretty good Adults.
    I can attest to that Donny, It is true.
  6. by   leslie :-D
    sooooooooooo true fran.
    often times it takes a tragedy to bring people together; or a wedding; or a birth but other than that, people live their lives according to their self-imposed needs rather than the shoulds.

    when it's my time to go, i don't want to have any regrets.

    leslie xo
  7. by   psychonurse
    I totally agree, when my parents were alive I made everyday count and I made sure that I spent as much time with them as I could. When I left their house I always said "I love You" on my way out so that if something happened to my parents during the night the last thing they heard from me was those three words. I know I spent a lot of time with my parents and my brother didn't get that opportunity for the reasons that you stated in your post and he is starting to regret it since he lost so much with mom and dad. You have to remember, people aren't going to be around forever, you must do things before you can so that you don't have dissapointments.
  8. by   SusanJean
    A very timely post -- thanks. Today in one of my nursing classes we spent 2 hours talking about humor, joy and fun -- and how important they are in our lives.

    SJ
  9. by   Thunderwolf
    Thank you.
  10. by   FranEMTnurse
    Quote from earle58
    sooooooooooo true fran.
    often times it takes a tragedy to bring people together; or a wedding; or a birth but other than that, people live their lives according to their self-imposed needs rather than the shoulds.

    when it's my time to go, i don't want to have any regrets.

    leslie xo
    For this reason, I have now decided to reduce my posts on this website; not becsuse I don't want to, I think all of you know that. But it is due to my health issues. I don't want to come on this board telling all of you about how I'm feeling, or how much pain I'm in, etc. I have decided that if I'm unable to post a thread giving as many of you as I can some encouragement, or some laughter now and then, then you will know it is because I'n unable to. I'm becoming increasingly crippled. My left arm is now in a sling, I'm wearing a cervical collar, I'm taking 2 different narcotics, a muscle relaxant, and ibuprofen to keep my pain under control. I lose a lot of sleep doing this, and in addition, I'm also anemic. Please don't ever think it's because I'm ignoring any of you, as you have grown to become my second family, and I love you dearly. So without further ado, I will now sign off with a wish for your good health, prosperity, and happiness. And please, be kind to one another. If you are unable to say anything good, then try to refrain from saying anything at all. God Bless you all.
  11. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from Franemtnurse
    For this reason, I have now decided to reduce my posts on this website; not becsuse I don't want to, I think all of you know that. But it is due to my health issues. I don't want to come on this board telling all of you about how I'm feeling, or how much pain I'm in, etc. I have decided that if I'm unable to post a thread giving as many of you as I can some encouragement, or some laughter now and then, then you will know it is because I'n unable to. I'm becoming increasingly crippled. My left arm is now in a sling, I'm wearing a cervical collar, I'm taking 2 different narcotics, a muscle relaxant, and ibuprofen to keep my pain under control. I lose a lot of sleep doing this, and in addition, I'm also anemic. Please don't ever think it's because I'm ignoring any of you, as you have grown to become my second family, and I love you dearly. So without further ado, I will now sign off with a wish for your good health, prosperity, and happiness. And please, be kind to one another. If you are unable to say anything good, then try to refrain from saying anything at all. God Bless you all.



    love you fran, as you already know. :kiss
    even when you're not on board, you have created so many memories for us, and for that, you shall always revered and loved.
    do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

    that laughing grandma picture was priceless.....xo
  12. by   Roy Fokker
    Ahhh Fran! Don't beat yourself up over it!

    We folks can't HELP but be concerned when you don't turn up once every often. But we do understand that you have a life and commitments of your own.

    Noone here will think any less of you just because you don't post as often anymore.
  13. by   prmenrs
    That family thing goes 2 ways, Fran--if you need anything from us, just ask. Prayers will be given w/o requests, don't worry about that. :kiss and (((hugs)))
  14. by   Grace Oz
    thank you fran! that was lovely.

    [color=#4b0082]very much appreciate you taking the time to post for all to see and learn from.
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    [color=#4b0082]take care and best wishes from "down under".
    [color=#4b0082]cheers,
    [color=#4b0082]grace

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