The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order, where your husband can relax in body and spirit.
Source: 1951 High School Home Economics Textbook
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good, hot meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take fifteen minutes to rest so that you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your fair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interested than usual. His boring day may need a lift.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and sweep you off your feet.
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimize the noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile.
Some don'ts. Don't greet him with your problems and complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day as the bread winner. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest that he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take of his shoes. Speak in a low, soft soothing and pleasing voice. Do whatever he requests as he relaxes and unwinds.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or other pleasant entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to unwind and relax.
The sad thing about this is that it was taught.
I'm going to get down on my knees and thank the feminist movement.
Dec 1, '05
It was a different time.
Yeah, lots of things have changed for the better.
But lots of things have changed for the worse.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not opposed to equal rights. But I am opposed to some aspects of it. Equal rights also means that the girls in my boys' schools these days are as equally or more sexually forward than my boys are.
Equal rights means that dating for me includes the standard of sex by the third date. If I decide to put that off because I'd like to get to know a woman first, then I'M weird. Go figure.
And knock it all you want, but the trade off of 1 bread winner and 1 family builder has become 2 bread winners and the 24 hr a day lifestyle necessary to maintain it. We have become a two-income, overtime and overtaxed, desperate and emotionally starved anti-depressant dependent, divorced prone, un-neighborly and angry mass.
No wonder so many people are on anti-depressants. We weren't designed to live like this.
When there was 1 BW and 1 FB, all those women living on the same street got to know each other and being a community meant something more.
And I just don't understand a society that thinks delegating the raising of their kids to strangers is a good thing. OK OK, it WAS a sexist society against women. But not because women were raising their kids. That was a perk. And before anybody complains about what I just said, IF you put your kids in daycare - don't you wish you didn't have to?
I'm not saying I'd like to go back to 'the good old days'. But they were more than the 'bad old days' portrayed in that fictional email.
Last edit by ZASHAGALKA on Dec 1, '05