How do you make a Blue Christmas White?

  1. A lot of us suffer from holiday depression for one reason or another...

    What do you do to pick yourself up?
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  2. 20 Comments

  3. by   Love-A-Nurse
    for me, i am being thankful for what i have right now. i am not letting what i could do, could have, etc. take the joy out of a blessing today.

    this is an interesting topic because each person's depression will be different yet some may be similar.


    by the way, i love your avatar.
  4. by   l.rae
    l think about why I celebrate the season....When l think of loved ones who have passed, l try to remember that they are in heaven BECAUSE of the meaning of Christmas. I remember that my loved ones left a piece of themselves here on earth through me because of their influence on my life, and l try to live in such a way that honors that. I know they would not want me to be sad and depressed, but joyful and happy, especially considering the reality of what Christmas means....l try to count my blessings..........LR
  5. by   BellaTerra2002
    I'm not into Pop Psychology, but there's a new book out (not Pop Psych) entitled "Loving What Is" but Byron Katie (a woman). It's helped a great deal with my normal holiday depression. In fact, I haven't been depressed at all since I started this book.

    Anyway, I picked it up mainly because I'm familiar with her husband's translations of sacred books of different religions, and I know he's not a jerk. So if he married her and endorsed the book, I figured there might be something good to the book. There is. Get it today. ) (No, I don't get kickbacks. )

    PS: I always heard "do something kind for someone else" over the holidays and it will lift your spirits, but I didn't do it for years. Well, now I do. I have relatively little family, and I spend little of the holidays with them. I started volunteering at a homeless shelter years ago, and for the past 6 months I also weekly visit a man who is on house arrest until his trial comes up. I'll tell you -- it is HARD to be depressed when you see homeless women and children happy with seemingly so little in their lives.
  6. by   BellaTerra2002
    Why does this blue face come up when I check a smile face?? This has happened more than once.
  7. by   LasVegasRN
    There is a friend of mine here, Ava, who refuses to let Emma and I spend Christmas alone. If my family isn't here or we aren't in Toledo with my family, she invites us over to spend Christmas with her family. She does the same for Thanksgiving.
    We always have a great time and feel like part of her family.
    I think that's what Christmas is really about - the true goodness of the human spirit. Not just during the holidays, but all year long.
  8. by   Sleepyeyes
    Thanks for your answers!


    I was thinking about friends and relatives who've passed away as I was doing my Christmas shopping this morning, and I thought, Gee, I'll bet ______ would've enjoyed that....so I bought it and I'm gonna donate it to the Salvation Army.

    Surely someone out there could benefit from my nostalgia-blitz.
  9. by   Q.
    I'm actually having a difficult time this year myself.

    I try to think that the holidays are about family, and kindness, and giving - and we (my husband and I) love to give. We always open up our home and provide tons of food, presents, treats, and we always are doing something for someone. My sister is living with us (has been since July) to help her get through her marriage difficulties. We are watching her dog, Sparkie. We are also watching the neighbor's dogs. I buy groceries for my father, we provide financial support to at least 3 family members, emotional support for everyone.

    I guess while the spirit of the holiday is about all of this, sometimes I sit and wonder...what about me? What about us? My husband and I have been giving, giving, giving. We give so much that I think no one is taking care of us. We are tired, irritable, and sick, but yet, we managed to hold a Christmas family party last night and I cooked the entire meal all while throwing up in between making the sauce and making the dessert. I didn't eat; instead, I let my guests feast on everything we had to offer. Even our most expensive wine at their request.

    I guess, this holiday, I am blue and have to wonder - when is it my turn? I'm tired, I'm weary, I'm depressed, and I just want to be taken care of once.
  10. by   Sleepyeyes
    ((((((((oh, suzy)))))))))))

    i don't know what to say.....
    I pray you will have a beautiful, bright, and joyous Christmas this year.
  11. by   nursegoodguy
    You have to love yourself first... I know it sounds so.... But it is true!
    Do something for you!
    Don't do more than your able to do for others.
    Know your limits.
    Recognize when others are manipulating you.
    Do what your heart tells you to be right.
    Set attainable goals.
    Make a list and check it twice! (really! Important stuff that you don't want to forget!)

    If you break... then you won't be able to give anything to anyone financially or emotionally or however!
    Remember, the people on this board are caring people many of whom work in health care and as "caring people" there is always that opportunity for sadness when you are helping someone who is sick or dying but you have to turn potential depression into something positive...
    Know that regardless of your patients circumstance or condition, they are better with your caring then they would be without you.
    You make a positive difference for your patients and you need to feel good about that!
    Remember...
    Just do a little something for yourself...
    be that a quiet moment standing alone in the bathroom with the lights off to clear your mind and compose yourself...

    Much time the holidays spark emotion... We tend to remember things that bring on sadness...
    (I remember how much my mom loved the holidays and now she's been gone for nearly 20 years!)
    Try to not only remember those who we've loved who have passed on but also those who we love right now that are still in the physical world.
    I also try to keep in mind that those who have died aren't really gone...
    I just can't see them in a physical way anymore but they are still here...
    I CAN feel their spirit and their love all around me and I know I haven't really lost anything... they ARE still here with me...

    I hope I don't come across sounding completely insane but just a little insane...
  12. by   LasVegasRN
    Giuseppe? Insane? I was thinking I was insane and you were sane! :chuckle
  13. by   renerian
    When I get down I sometimes make a list of the good things I love in life like summer, the beach, candy LOL and of course hubby and yes probably in that order! I go to the library and get books I like such as short stories which are quick reads. I light candles and lots of them. This time of year I love the holiday trees. I go to the mall and even if I am out of money I window shop and have a cup of coffee at starbucks.

    Are you okay?

    renerian
  14. by   spineCNOR
    Sleepyeyes--your idea is a wonderful way to remember a loved one who has passed on! Thanks for the idea, I plan to use your idea myself next Christmas.

    Suzy - bless your heart! I have to second Guiseppe's advice, as he has the right idea regarding caring for yourself and having attainable goals. I wish you the best.

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