Let's see ... what did I see (or not see for a while lol). I don't mind sharing... it's kinda funny to me now.
He says he charged lunch for everyone in his dept (there's 5) and says they paid him back in cash in return but then he hits the ATM the next day cause he's out of money.
He's accessing email accounts that you haven't seen before & he won't give you the password - he "needs his privacy" (gotta love Ziggy's bit about cracking the passwords & finding stuff - been there!)
You're typing away at the computer - cutting and pasting - and this one time you paste and it's a personal ad.
The computer's cashe & history are cleared out every time you get on the computer.
He suddenly claims lack of privacy around the house
His outside volunteer interest requires more and more time
You go to open the study door (where the computer is) and it's locked, when he opens the door it's obvious that he's just zipping up his pants. Says he was making you a sexy bday card (which isn't that far away) ... but none arrives.
His once very high sex drive crashes to nill & there's no other explaination.
He's late for your after-work date constantly - by about an hour.
You call his work & nobody knows where he is and doesn't for quite some time (this lasts for hours - wonder how in the heck he's still employed there).
He becomes obsessed about his looks ... for my ex it was his weight (he has always been on the thin side.)
He stops doing the loving things (mine actually told me he stopped doing that after we got married cause he didn't have to anymore.
) - He's a really good actor & a great lier!
I trusted him 100% up till the last year, but I'm growing wiser now and hopefully won't make the same mistakes. Will surely make some new ones, but hope not repeat the old ones. :chuckle