I'm in a semi-fix and I need some advice.
Many of you may not know it (some do), but since I graduated school, I've been living with my aunt.... since I was flat broke, had a mountain of debt (still do
) and no job.
So I relocated from the Northeast to the Midwest to stay with my aunt till I could pass the boards and find a job.
Now, I've been working steady for 6 months or so and I figure - "It's time to find a hole in the ground and move out", yeah?
Besides my burning desire for independence, I'm increasingly finding it "difficult" (to put it mildly) to live under someone else's roof and thus toe their house rules.
My uncle and aunt are wonderful folks and try to give me all the privacy they can - but some things just aren't meant to be. I find some of the rules aggravating and some of 'em silly. Some of the 'requests' require me to temper my lifestyle and behavior because I need to be a "good example" to my 13 year old cousin [which I think is futile nor the proper approach for this kid. But I am no parent and since I am only a guest at their home, I abide by their request].
My own parents seem bewildered by my desire to move out on my own. They can't comprehend why I would want not want to live with family. They question why I want to add on more expenses (rent, utilities, food) at a time when I already have a ton of debt.
I've tried explaining as reasonably as I could that I am used to living by myself. Making my own rules (in accordance with my own values). I've tried telling them that I particularly resent having to "answer to someone" every time I need to leave the house. I try telling them that it makes me feel like a child and it's aggravating.
Besides, I do not share the same "values" and "world outlook" as 99% of my family (some examples: I'm not religious, I'm not a teetotaler, I love to eat non-vegetarian food, I don't always think "family first and always first" as there are some people in the family I don't really give a wooden nickel about etc.). I won't even bother getting into relations with the opposite sex and their opinions on the "correctness" and "proper way" of it all :uhoh21:
I don't ask for an explanation and I don't question their lifestyle choices - and I'm tired of constantly being met with disapproval of mine and having to defend it.
I love my folks - as quirky and as different as they are.
But I can't "stay with them". My Mother takes this as an implication that she is not welcome
to my house
Nothing could be further from the truth! I think there is a world of a difference between "Me staying at my parents house" and "my parents staying at my house".
Sorry for the long post.
I'm kinda stumped :stone
PS: I've already picked out an apartment and am signing the lease tomorrow (and moving in too!) I'm just trying to figure out how to reconcile my parents to the whole thing.