I sound SOOOO mean, but I think it's one of those things that's quite unpleasant but necessary. Along the lines of the immunizations that everybody has to have. Well, not a very good simile, but hopefully you see my point. I just think that some painful things are required at points in your life to help you move onto another stage that you're moving into, or something.
I suppose there may be a couple in the world who met at a young age, never needed to break up and meet new people, but I've never met any of them. I (personally) wouldn't make a big production of it. I know it's hard to see your own kid unhappy, but sometimes it's going to happen.
My older daughter met a guy who was 18 when she was 14. She wasn't allowed to date, but, what the heck, she was allowed to go steady with him. I was asking about him before I met him and she said he's 18 and I started to freak, and she said "But he doesn't ACT like he's 18" Oh yeah! Imagine MY relief.
But anyway, they went steady until she turned 16, at which point she WAS allowed to date. A teeny whisper in her ear that it's okay to be going steady when she wasn't allowed to date was perfectly fine, but it seems pretty silly to be going steady when you're actually allowed to go on real dates.
She broke up with him and he (yes, at age 20!!!) was crying and hysterical and threatened suicide. So I called his mum and told her what was going on and she was SHOCKED that they were breaking up!!! That whole family thought that they would keep going together until my daughter was old enough to marry and she would *marry* this guy!!!!!!!!!!! She, in a very pained voice, asked me WHY she was breaking up with him. Because.... she's 16!
So that's it with me. I have to admit that my mother died just a couple of days after I turned 12, so I have no role model for the mother of a teenage girl, but I've never offered another bit of advice about stuff like that to either of my girls. With the older one, I avoided mentioning if I happened to LIKE any of her boyfriends, because I figured that would be the kiss of death for him. Or vice-versa, as well.
I hope she feels Much better, Soon.