How did you know you were ready to have children?

  1. Good afternoon everyone My husband and I are talking about starting a family soon. It seems like such a huge step and a little scary, but also exciting :hatparty: For those of you with children, how did you know when you were ready? Is it when they say you are never going to be truly ready? We're financially and emotionally secure and have been married for 4 years. I would appreciate any words of wisdom you can offer!
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  2. 24 Comments

  3. by   traumaRUs
    I think you just know. However, I will state that I got pregnant the first time unintentionally and when you are in the delivery room - believe me - you know! My son is now almost 24, have gotten so much more than I gave to him - he is and always will be my pride and joy. We loved our first son so much that five years later we had a second son and he too is so much fun and such a joy...oops I'm getting teary-eyed...kids are the best. Good luck...judi
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I just knew...........
  5. by   leslie :-D
    i never really knew for sure for it was a scary but exciting thought for me. i was quite young when i had my 1st and then when i had my other 3, starting when i was 31, it was a purposeful consummation. but i was very nervous/anxious with tiffany and suffered from pp depression, big time. however the instincts to protect and nurture my baby were there, perhaps too much. i didn't want her leaving my side, leaving the house; i didn't want others touching her....there are some women that are just SO ready to have children; then there are others that experience very normal reluctance, which does not mean that you're not ready...best of luck.
  6. by   Mandarella
    [font=Arial Narrow]My husband and I talked about it and decided as soon as we got married we would try. But...2 weeks before my wedding I was DEATHLY ill, I couldn't even get off the couch. The 3rd day I thought this is insane and bought a pregnancy test; lo and behold, I was pregnant. I'll have to thank Ortho-Cyclen for that!!! All of a sudden it was VERY real and not just talk anymore-scary, exciting and by far the best thing that ever happened until my second son the following year, they are 5 days shy of being a year apart. And yes, Ortho Tri Cyclen is to thank for that!! Strange for 8 years on the pill and zip...all of a sudden I get pregnant x2???? Was meant to be.
  7. by   leslie :-D
    well mandy, you sound like a happy momma. it certainly does sound as if it was meant to be.

    exactly 6 weeks after my dd was born, dh & i were finally intimate, using birth control and were intimate only 1 time....i was still feeling sickly and found out when my dd was 8 weeks old, i was pregnant with my 2nd child....so yes, i do believe that some things are meant to be.
  8. by   nurseunderwater
    I met the right guy....I was 29....not exactly financial stable but we had insurance. I just figured hey...what the heck! now I have 3 wonderful boys and the dh is still awesome.
  9. by   nurseunderwater
    PS - not to sound too cosmic (i believe the whole thing is though) I would say that my yearnings were somehow "feeling" the little one ready to land...
    Last edit by nurseunderwater on Jun 28, '04
  10. by   leslie :-D
    you're 'out there' anyway kate....oh cosmic momma.
  11. by   nurseunderwater
    Quote from earle58
    you're 'out there' anyway kate....oh cosmic momma.
    I bow to you O' fellow traveler on the Great Cosmic Mother path....
  12. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from nurseunderwater
    I bow to you O' fellow traveler on the Great Cosmic Mother path....
    tell me about is 'sista'....
  13. by   JUSTYSMOM
    Hi,

    I remember wanting to get pregnant 6 months after we got married. My husband was in the "NO WAY" camp (lol) So we concentrated only on the two of us (which lasted 4 years). We worked hard and played harder.

    After 4 years, some of my friends were starting to have babies. Or some of them were on their second or third child. I began to notice pregnant women all over the place. Then it was babies in strollers, babies in the store, babies in the park, babies everywhere! LOL! I was getting baby fever hard!

    I remember telling my husband that I wanted to start a family. I felt fortunate that we were able to enjoy each other for 4 long years. But now, it was time to start a new chapter in our lives. I had this strong maternal urge to become a mommy. He on the other hand probably could have waited 4 more years.

    It ended up that I suffer with infertility problems. We had to take the IVF route to get pregnant with our son. It was a hard road to follow- but one that I would do over and over again.

    Now we are looking into baby # 2. How do we know we a ready? We just do. It's time to make our son a big brother!

    :chuckle
  14. by   Quickbeam
    Some of us never have children. DH and I are married 20 years and are childfree by choice. Very happy...and we made the right decision.

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