How did people on here meet there spouses?

  1. Maybe I live in the wrong part of the country or something, but it seems as if no one around here is intersted in having a relationship, let alone gettting married. Most of the men I meet ( and that's not a lot) only seem to be interested in THAT one thing.

    Yes, I been to church and for that matter I attend a 4 year university and you'd think I'd meet someone there, but no.

    All the guys I know are so immature. Playing playstation, have no job, no goals, no ambition.

    Maybe it's just me?
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  3. by   luvmy2angels
    I met my husband totally by accident.I had been divorced from my first husband for about 6 months and to be totally honest was not looking for another relationship. I had stopped by my brother in laws garage to see if he and my sister wanted to go out that night and he wasn't there, but the guy he shared the garage with was there. I ended up staying there with him the entire night (just talking) and never did make it to my sister's house. Needless to say we are now married and have 2 children. Been together for 10 years and LOVE HIM TO DEATH!!! I truly found "the one" the second time around!!
    I believe in the saying that love happens when you least expect it, I guess because it happened to me.
  4. by   CseMgr1
    I met my (now ex-) husband through my Mom. They were both working for the same bank, and we started dating following our first meeting at the bank's company picnic. We were married nine months later, had one son and divorced after 9-1/2 years. He is now in his third marriage (I wonder why??), whereas I have not remarried...and don't intend to .
  5. by   CseMgr1
    Quote from CRNASOMEDAY25
    Maybe I live in the wrong part of the country or something, but it seems as if no one around here is intersted in having a relationship, let alone gettting married. Most of the men I meet ( and that's not a lot) only seem to be interested in THAT one thing.

    Yes, I been to church and for that matter I attend a 4 year university and you'd think I'd meet someone there, but no.

    All the guys I know are so immature. Playing playstation, have no job, no goals, no ambition.

    Maybe it's just me?
    No, it's not just you. All the guys I've dated since my divorce 23 years ago have been TOTAL losers, turning out to be either alcoholics or on the rebound from a previous failed relationship. One guy I dated was recently divorced from his wife of 28 years and had just broken up with his girlfriend who was stealing from him. Three weeks into our relationship he suffered a major heart attack and wound up having a CABG x 5. I found out while he was recovering that he had gone back to his former girlfriend...and that was the end of that. A year later he died of lung cancer at the age of 58. He was really messed up, both physically and emotionally and I'm glad our relationship ended when it did.
  6. by   txspadequeenRN
    My husband was my CNA!!!heartbeatdevil:
  7. by   cardiacRN2006
    My husband was the computer guy at work! We had a going away party after work for an employee and well, one thing lead to another. Anyway he was so well loved at work because he was so kind and gentleman-ly (he grew up with 3 sisters), and I wasn't so well liked at work because I'm such a B, that people were really mad that he had started dating me! Oh well. He thinks that we just fell for each other at the bar, but I had been secretly stalking him at work! I would always call the help desk and ask how to do this or how to do that. He was totally clueless that I had liked him. Sheesh! Some men need to be hit over the head with a 2x4 to get their attention...
  8. by   nursemary9
    Hi

    I'm married to my DH for 33 yrs. We met on a blind date. We were fixed up by a co-worker who was an ex-nun. She was dating DH's best friend.
    We dated for 5 yrs--off again--on again. He came to my front door that evening, & my first thought was Gee, he's awsfully cute--too bad he's not taller!!

    I had always dated guys well over 6 ft. tall-in fact one guy was 6'7"!!
    DH was only 5'9"!!

    My family always just LOVED HIM!!
    In fact, when we would be off-again, he'd call and ask if it was OK if he came by and visited with my folks.
    My Dad has been gone almost 15 yrs now & to this day DH says almost once a week---"I sure really miss your Dad!!"

    There are still good guys around!!

    Mary Ann
  9. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from CRNASOMEDAY25
    Maybe it's just me?
    Not just you - the women I meet are too shallow, too materialistic, don't bother about nourishing their brains as much as they nourish their bodies etc.

    cheers,
  10. by   Gompers
    When I was in college, I needed a date to my sorority formal since I had recently broken up with someone. I called a guy who went to my school that I knew from junior high and high school, and he said he'd go. We went and had a nice time. We hung out a few more times after that and I wondered if it was going anywhere. One day we had dinner in his dorm cafeteria and his roommate sat with us. We all started talking about how their dorm room was haunted how everyone had crazy vivid dreams when they slept there. We decided that I'd sneak in and spend the night that weekend. I brought some wine with me, and my friend got a liiiiiiitle bit drunk. He passed out and his roommate and I decided to let him rest in peace so we went down the hall to the lounge to chat. We ended up talking all night, watching the sun come up over the lake from the window. It was like we'd known each other forever. My crush immediately shifted from my friend to his roommate.

    It was finals, though, and summer was approaching. I told him I was sad because with school over, I probably wouldn't see him for awhile. I asked where he lived, and as it turned out, he was from my hometown! We'd gone to junior high and high school together, but had never met. He knew this but I had no clue!!! So we hung out a few more times after school was over, started dating pretty quickly, and nine solid years later we got married. It was so strange - when we met each other's friends for the first time, we all knew each other. Our friends were friends, too! How we never met is a mystery. Or is it???


    It's very hard to meet people these days. I have a few very good friends who are about 30 and are having the worst time dating. They can't seem to find anyone no matter what they do.
  11. by   kids
    In the summer of 1998 I had ended a long term relationship that just wouldn't go away. It was making me crazy.
    I closed my eyes and pointed at a map of the US.
    Two weeks later I was standing in Stillwater, OK with 2 teenagers, a U-haul and $1800. I didn't even check into licensure before leaving I was so desperate to be gone.

    I had a brand new computer that I couldn't figure out and a coworker recommended a computer geek chat room on Excite. I went there and this really nice guy helped me a lot, it turned out we lived near each other and after a few weeks we went on our first date. To a computer store to buy RAM.

    His job eventually moved him back to the city I had left (and where all my family and oldest child lived) so we moved back with him. We got married in 2000 and he's been fixing my computers ever since.
  12. by   kids
    Oh, and this is marriage #3 for me and has lasted longer than the first 2 combined.
  13. by   tnbutterfly
    my husband and i were high school sweethearts. i can remeber the first time i saw him....i thought he was cute but kinda a show-off. he was very smart and very popular, unlike me. i was very shy back then. he was the class president, national merit scholar, etc., etc. we started dating when we were juniors, but didn't marry until 5 years later. we went to different colleges, but we continued to date. he actually proposed to me before we went off to college. he finished engineering school in 3 years (i told you he is a brain). we got married the summer before my senior year in nursing school, and he worked on his masters while i finished my last year. those were lean times, but we were very happy. now 2 kids and 30 years later, we are still happily married. we've been through alot together.
  14. by   SmilingBluEyes
    We met in the US Air Force, while stationed in Arizona. We were both active duty, working in the same engine shop---he was a jet mechanic, and i did the ordering of their parts and supplies. It was a shop of about 150 men and maybe, 6 women so I made it a habit NOT to date them as I was not interested in being the "topic du jour" among those guys.

    Now this is the funny part: Long before we had made acquaintance, (he did not even know my name), he pointed me out to his coworkers and said, "See that redhead over there? She wants me, she just doesn't know it yet!" They said "yea riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. Dream on, she is stuck-up".

    Well, 2 years later, we married. The thing that attracted me to him was his shyness around me, and not once did he flirt or hit on me.

    We celebrated the 19th anniversary of our first date last month!!!! No regrets.

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