How are your kids coping with talk of war??

  1. Maybe this should go in W&T forum, and if any mod thinks so, please feel free to move it...

    Anyway, my 14 yr old tonight was asking if school would be cancelled tomorrow b/c of the fact that "We are gonna get bombed."

    She seems quite convinced that America is going to be nuc'd tomorrow.

    I hate to admit this, but most of what I have learned lately has been from this bb. My way of coping w the stress is to not watch the news, and only read the comics in the paper.

    I tried to reassure her, telling her when we were young we lived in fear of Russia dropping nucs on us, and every generation has it's issue, that starts to make us nervous when we get to be teens b/c we become more aware of the world around us. Also told her we should carry on, the never let em see you sweat theory, etc...

    She may be worried about it b/c it will mess up her hair, or she just had her first kiss, so maybe she is afraid she will miss what else there is to experience, but whatever I say, she seems fixated, and even anxious about it.

    Anyone else going through this??

    Meanwhile my son and his bandmates are downstairs practicing for thier first real gig on Thursday, so he doesn't seem to be too worried about it.
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  3. by   sunnygirl272
    Originally posted by hoolahan

    She may be worried about it b/c it will mess up her hair, or she just had her first kiss, so maybe she is afraid she will miss what else there is to experience, but whatever I say, she seems fixated, and even anxious about it.
    Have you asked her what specifically scares her about it? I would encourage ehr to talk....not to the point of 24/7..but allow her to let out her fears to you...
    i dunno...my daughter is furry, four-legged and clueless about all this...so take all i say with a large grain of salt...
    here are some links:
    http://www.ktvu.com/family/1991202/detail.html

    http://www.timesunion.com/AspStories...date=3/18/2003

    http://www.toledoblade.com/apps/pbcs...3160006&Ref=AR
  4. by   RNConnieF
    My youngest said the exact same thing and my oldest son is practicing for his gig on friday. Are we the same person? Sorry, needed the laugh after today. Evan admits to being scared about what will happen tomorrow. He's 11 so it may be more real to him. Anyway, we talked a little and he will be sleeping with me and his dad tonight, he just needs to feel safe tonight.
  5. by   hoolahan
    Well, she just started this before dinner, then again on the way to dance, when I pick her up, I will pursue it. Good links mel, thanks!! I already saw a few things that I should've mentioned, like the school has taken steps to assure her safety, etc...
  6. by   kids
    My 19 yo has spent the day at the Marine Corp recruiters office. He has some college credits, his transcript is being evaluated to see if he has enough credits to enlist if he takes his GED this week (instead of graduating from HS in June).
  7. by   aimeee
    My son is at outdoor education camp with his class this week so he is probably blissfully unaware. My daughter has been following the news daily along with hubby and I and part of our regular discussions on the subject so she is in the wait and see mode with us.
  8. by   Beach_RN
    It's funny you should ask.. Last night my H said the kids watched the President's speech intently! He didn't even ask them to watch, they came to the living room, sat on the floor and were completely silent for the entire broadcast.

    When I came home from school, I asked them about their day.... and they told me that the USA was going to war!

    So my H & I sat down with them in the living room, and asked them what did they understand, what did they know, did they have any questions or were they scared.

    My 8 1/2 yr old told me, "Mommy, war is not good, but we have to go because this evil man can destroy us with weapons of mass destruction. We have to protect ourselves, Mommy remember 9/11. MOm... the President is a good man, he is a good President"

    My daughter the 6 yr old "Well Mommy, I am scared, I don't want people to die, did you know that some of the soldiers are mommy's and daddy's, I want them to come home to their kids, so that their kids won't miss them and be orphans. Mommy the President looks tired and worried. Mommy... I am going to say a prayer for him tonight"

    Out of the mouths of babes.....My husband and I were so proud of our children, because they were able to articulate a pretty accurate interpretation of what they have heard in the media. I guess we as adults tend to believe that children don't really know what's going on. But my children proved me wrong yesterday.

    We will continue to tell them that they are safe, that Mom & Dad are here for them, that they should trust God, God will keep us safe! and when saying their prayers at night they should add our soldiers, our country and our President to the list. As things progress we will continue to ask our children what they think and what they feel?

    Brenda
    pray for our countyr and our Presidentand pray to God
  9. by   deespoohbear
    Originally posted by B_Matt
    It's funny you should ask.. Last night my H said the kids watched the President's speech intently! He didn't even ask them to watch, they came to the living room, sat on the floor and were completely silent for the entire broadcast.

    When I came home from school, I asked them about their day.... and they told me that the USA was going to war!

    So my H & I sat down with them in the living room, and asked them what did they understand, what did they know, did they have any questions or were they scared.

    My 8 1/2 yr old told me, "Mommy, war is not good, but we have to go because this evil man can destroy us with weapons of mass destruction. We have to protect ourselves, Mommy remember 9/11. MOm... the President is a good man, he is a good President"

    My daughter the 6 yr old "Well Mommy, I am scared, I don't want people to die, did you know that some of the soldiers are mommy's and daddy's, I want them to come home to their kids, so that their kids won't miss them and be orphans. Mommy the President looks tired and worried. Mommy... I am going to say a prayer for him tonight"

    Out of the mouths of babes.....My husband and I were so proud of our children, because they were able to articulate a pretty accurate interpretation of what they have heard in the media. I guess we as adults tend to believe that children don't really know what's going on. But my children proved me wrong yesterday.

    We will continue to tell them that they are safe, that Mom & Dad are here for them, that they should trust God, God will keep us safe! and when saying their prayers at night they should add our soldiers, our country and our President to the list. As things progress we will continue to ask our children what they think and what they feel?

    Brenda
    pray for our country and our President pray to God
    Brenda,

    Seems like your 8 1/2 year old has a better grip on the situation than a lot adults!!

    My 11 y/o hasn't said much. He just goes about his day being sweet and kind to everyone. Right now his world is pretty much his family, his home, his pets, the farm, and our church.

    My 13 y/o was talking about it today with me. Said last night at their 4H meeting the leaders let the kids listen to President Bush's speech. My 13 y/o didn't seem to be too concerned. He knows we are going to war and soon. He knows that Hussein is a very evil man. He also realizes that some of the soldiers will not come back alive. I am trying to impress in him what a privilege it is to live in the USA . And that with that privilege comes responsibility to defend our freedom.

    My 14 y/o is pretty quiet about everything in general, and this is no exception. He knows what is going to happen but he just keeps his thoughts to himself.

    Since my kids are homeschooled, they don't hear much from their peers in the week unless it is at 4H or some other event. We have watching the news with them and trying to answer their questions to the best of our knowledge. Tough times for everyone.
  10. by   zudy
    My 13 yr old son asked me if I thought the war would last so long that he would be drafted, and wanted to know if he would be drafted if he were any younger than 18. We had a long talked about that. I assured him that they weren't taking 13 yr olds. We also talked about Bush, and how innocent people were affected in wars.
  11. by   Rustyhammer
    My 15 year old daughter is worried about them reinstating the draft.
    My kids hear a lot of schoolyard talk and sometimes enlighten us.
    For example, the worries about bombs going off around the states should we attack Iraq. I hadn't really thought of that before.
    -Russell
  12. by   nightingale
    It was so odd sitting at the dinner table with one of my favorite meals and listening to the Presidents Speech. My children, ages 12 and 14, perhaps by the gay handling of the day, my favorite Holiday of St. Patricks Day, seemed untouched by the days announcements.

    Before they return to school, as we are on spring break, I will sit them down and try to answer any questions. I will have to prompt the whole dialogue but want as much answered at home before they go back to school on the 24th.
    Last edit by nightingale on Mar 19, '03
  13. by   eltrip
    I don't tell my 6 y/o much about this...only let her view bits of the nat'l news when I watch it.

    We had a military unit leave from our city yesterday. I'm fairly certain that one of her little friend's father is one of those who was moved out. Listening to the description of the the families' parting on the radio brought me to tears. We prayed for the soldiers & their families at the next traffic light.

    We're having a prayer service tonight at church. Even the children's class is cancelled. I'll see what my daughter has to say about it afterward.
  14. by   Furball
    My 10 year old seems to be growing up too quickly. We have a close family member in the military and will be in the thick of it so it's difficult to shelter him. He asked to watch the President's speech and we did discuss the situation in very simple terms. He doesn't seem too concerned at this point except worrying about his uncle. He falls aleep within a few minutes of lying down at night as usual, eats like a horse and enjoys playing with his many friends after school. He did have a headache the other day which is rare for him......

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