Hospice helped dying man lose his virginity

  1. Here's an interesting article from UK about a hospice that helped a young man with muscular dystrophy find a prostitute to experience sex before he died. The hospice is run by an apparently open minded nun.


    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.../nvirgin27.xml

    A young disabled man who receives care for his life-limiting illness at a hospice run by a nun spoke yesterday of his decision to use a prostitute to experience sex before he dies.

    Sister Frances Dominica gave her support to 22-year-old Nick Wallis, who was born with Duchenne muscular dystrophy. Sufferers usually die by their thirties.

    Mr Wallis told staff at the Douglas House hospice in Oxford that he wanted to experience sexual intercourse. He explained that he had hoped to form an intimate and loving relationship with a woman, but his disability had acted as a barrier.
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  3. by   NRSKarenRN
    [banana]

    "I know that some people will say 'You are a Christian foundation. What are you thinking about?'. But we are here for all faiths and none," she said.

    "It is not our job to make moral decisions for our guests. We came to the conclusion that it was our duty of care to support Nick emotionally and to help ensure his physical safety."
    [/banana]


    to enlightenment.
  4. by   leslie :-D
    it sounded like a carefully thought-out decision, involving all of nick's loved ones in the process.
    i think it's wonderful that morality didn't even come into play, but rather, fulfilling a dying man's last wishes.
    yay.

    leslie
  5. by   Grace Oz
    Talk about a thousand things to do before you die!!! LOL
  6. by   Spidey's mom
    Ick to the idea of a prostitute.

    As to his free choice . . . I'm not going to stand in his way.

    As to the Hospice getting involved . . . . I'm having trouble with that.

    Seems sad to me that sex is what you are thinking about instead of relationships.

    To me, there is a difference between sexual intercourse and making love but I guess I'm just an old romantic.

    steph
  7. by   GardenDove
    I like the way the nun calls this young man a "guest".
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    In thinking more about it, I've come to the conclusion that since I think prostitution is wrong and using prostitutes is wrong that I have to be evenhanded and think why should someone with a disability get a pass?

    I feel very badly for him that he has not experienced a loving sexual relationship but I think buying sex is not the answer.

    I would be appalled if my sons used prostitutes. No matter what the reason.

    Guess you could call me unenlightened but maybe there is room for disagreement here.

    steph
  9. by   bethin
    Well, experiencing sex isn't on my list of things to do before I die, but I can imagine it's number 1 on some men's lists.

    And sex with a prostitute is different than sex with a loved one.
  10. by   rainy scarlett
    Quote from stevielynn
    Ick to the idea of a prostitute.

    As to his free choice . . . I'm not going to stand in his way.

    As to the Hospice getting involved . . . . I'm having trouble with that.

    Seems sad to me that sex is what you are thinking about instead of relationships.

    To me, there is a difference between sexual intercourse and making love but I guess I'm just an old romantic.

    steph
    ~I'm with Steph~
  11. by   muffie
    until you walk a mile in his shoes or roll a mile in his chair...

    knowing you will die some day, maybe sooner than later...

    so she was a pro,,,at least he got a taste of one of the gifts of life
  12. by   leslie :-D
    he already stated he had wished to form a loving & intimate relationship with a woman but that his disability had been a barrier.
    we're all sexual beings and as a virgin in his young 20's, to me it's a perfectly natural curiosity.
    i think it's wonderful that he experienced it, even knowing that he didn't find it emotionally fulfilling.
    i wish he could have experienced both...

    leslie
  13. by   Spidey's mom
    I know he stated that he wanted a loving and intimate relationship and that his disability was a barrier.

    I just don't agree that a purchasing sex from a prostitute is the answer.

    Maybe the answer is just no.

    Sex is supposed to be the joining together of two people who love one another - one flesh. To make it less is sad to me. Whether you are disabled or a "spinster" or lonely bachelor.

    If I believe that prostitution is wrong for my able-bodied sons or for my daughter, why would I change my mind just because someone is disabled?

    I have to be consistent.

    steph
  14. by   bethin
    Quote from stevielynn
    "spinster"
    Please don't use that word. J/K. Pt called me a spinster because I was 25 and unmarried.

    Can we use the term "relationship challenged" instead?

    Don't we all or have had a disability that prevented us from becoming close to someone? I'm not talking only physical, but mental and emotional? Maybe using disability in that context isn't the right word but I think you all know what I'm getting at. I'm talking about that one bad relationship that made you leery of dating again.

    Or am I alone here?

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