Let me throw something out here that may make one or two of you go hmmmmmmmmm, and piss off everyone else.
There have been 4 military spouses killed in Ft Bragg in the last 6 weeks, and two of the soldiers doing the killing also ended their own life.
IMO, there are a few things that keep a person away from their loved ones going on, and that is the thought that they will return to them. In most cases that is so. But seldom do the men come home to the same subservient wifey they left behind. While the soldier was gone his wife had to become much more independent, had to make sure the bills were paid, the chores were done, the kids taken care of, and had to do this with little or no contact with her husband. The soldier comes home to a very changed person. This alone is going to cause a lot of friction in the relationship. And, IMO, the army does not get it members from the sharpest box of tacks. At this point the soldier may feel threatened, his role as head of household, the breadwinner, the law of the house has been challenged, perhaps taken away.
Now, just supposing, the wife who is left behind needs someone to talk to concerning her fears for her husband. Or to relieve the stress of knowing he may not return, or just a helping hand around the house. And this good samaritan is a male, and the relationship goes much further than the woman had ever envisioned. She feels quilty, and when the husband return tells him and begs for his forgivness. This man, who has just been in an area where he could die at any minute, has just been told that the one thing that kept him going is a lie. Does he suggest counseling for the two of them? I don't think so. He goes to the bar, gets drunk and returns home, only to be confronted with the vision he cannot remove from his mind whenever he looks at his wife. So, he kills her, possibly himself.
Is this farfetched, probably not as farfetched as it sounds. I can weave this tale because I have seen it happen, although not to an ending of murder. But to the abuse stage several times. Perhaps because these men are not given time to decompress following their tour in Afganistan they are more apt to resort to violence, who knows. One day you are on patrol, waiting for the round with your name on it, and then 2 days later you are back in the land of the big PX, like nothing happened. These men have been under an unbelievable amount of stress, and asking them to come home and resume a normal life overnight is assinine. I am sure the Army has formed a committe to look into this, and in about 10-12 yrs will have recommendations that are nothing more than common sense.
Right now, the reasons behind the murders are nothing more than speculation.......and are likely to remain that. I don't think the Army will ever tell the truth, even if they could figure it out.
As always: The statements and opinions stated above are mine.