Home Sweet Home...?

  1. How many of you work in or nearby the same area you were born? I'm wondering how many of us have picked up our roots and gone West, so to speak, whether for personal reasons or career-related ones?
  2. Poll: How far away are you now from your hometown?

    • I live less than fifty miles away from my hometown.

      42.22% 19
    • I live 51-150 miles away from my hometown.

      6.67% 3
    • I live 151-250 miles away from my hometown.

      8.89% 4
    • I live so far from my hometown I've almost forgotten what it looks like!

      42.22% 19
    45 Votes
  3. 16 Comments

  4. by   kewlnurse
    I wish i could move south west or otherwise but for a while i'm stuck in hell, don't have to worry about dieing and going there, been living in hell for 33 years!
  5. by   aimeee
    While I am more than 250 miles away, its only because we have to go around the big lake to get there. Still thoroughly midwestern, and not much different in climate. I am a cheesehead at heart.

    Which reminds me of that great Joel Mabus song, "Hopelessly Midwestern". Think I'll go find the lyrics and post them in that old lyrics thread.
  6. by   pkmom
    Growing up, my grandparents and aunt -n- uncle lived a few houses down the street. now they are 2.5 hours away. I think I'm coping pretty well, all things considering
  7. by   Robin61970
    I was born in Fort Smith Arkansas ans except for my time in the Military Ihave lived within 25 miles of Fort Smith my whole life and will stay here probably til I die....We have a large family(Mom and Dad each have 9 brothers sisters) I have figured that I have upwards of 50 first cousins and at least that in second cousins, maybe more......all within a 50 mile radius of Fort smith so I will be here......
  8. by   NRSKarenRN
    Live 15 minutes from my hometown; moved into husbands 1950 homestead after death of mother -in law 10 years ago. Know where I'll be over the next 40 or so years. Teenage sons have told me THEY want the house, told em I ain't leaving anytime soon.

    My cousins that lived three streets away ALL over the country. Too many nursing oportunities in SE PA. LOL.
  9. by   prmenrs
    I was born in Hawaii; my mother and her mother were born there, too. I have lived and worked in San Diego since graduating from nrsg school in 1968; I also went to high school here.

    BUT, Hawaii is always "home".

  10. by   Whisper
    I moved away from home to go to Uni, so I can train to be a nurse, and the otherday I was very very gald that I only moved, 2 hours away from home. I got a phone call saying my mother was ill and in hospital.

    I don't know how I would have coped if it was further away, but I am from am from a very close family, we all live in adjoining villages. I am not sure whether I'll move back home when I qualify, but I know I won't move that much further away than I am now.
  11. by   Michelle_nurse
    Hi there,

    this post has brought back some "painful" hometown thoughts, I live less than an hour from where i grew up. My dad still lives in that area with my youngest brother Justin, who is 17 next week. My other younger brother who is 22, married with a son, lives 20 min. from me.........

    The big problem is that my mom lives in California. My parents split up 5 years ago after 23 years of marriage. My mom fell in love with a guy a work.......Dave. She changed sooooo much, her looks and her personality. I took the whole situation really bad, cause I saw it all, i knew all the details, i saw my dad hurting, and my mom was the "bad guy" . I didn't talk to her for 6 months, which was difficult also since i was living with my moms sister at that time, 5 min. away from mom and dave. Justin (my brother), who was 12 at the time chose to live with my dad, although he was seeing my mom once in a while in visits. They were on good terms, but he was still secretly hurting a lot!!! After 6 months, i called her and "accepted" it, although i didn't like it, I had to accept it, if i ever wanted my mom to be in my life, so i put on a happy face. I like Dave and his kids, but it all just hurt so much!!!!!!

    Dave has 2 kids and one step daughter (whom he raised as his own).In 1998, Just over a year after Mom and Dave got together "officially", dave applied for fun to a computer job in california. (we are all from Montreal, canada) He has experienced a lot and he is very intelligent. He got a great job on the spot, paying alot of $, although the area is very expensive to live in.
    I don't think dave would have moved if his kids couldn't go with him, yet mom just left her kids. I didn't expect to go too, I am and was at the time independent, but my brother was 12 when she left

    Now i am 25, my mom has become a grandmother since she left, justin is almost an adult, and we only see our mom at weddings and funerals. This year, i saw her alot, cause she got married here in june, My other brother got married in October, and my uncle died last year.........I don't feel like i have a mom anymore, she is missing out on everything! She is now the step mom of 2 younger kids, and she plays the role of their mom, yet she is my cyber mom and i hardly know her or her new family anymore. Daves x wife doesn't want anything to do with her kids, therefore my mom is now their mom, which would be fine if she didn't live in another country from her own kids!

    She seems like her whole life revolves aroung him and when i talk to her she usually seems disinterested in what I have to say.

    I can accept that my parents aren't together anymore, i just wish she was closer, I have been to San Fran twice since 98, but i can't afford to spend all my vacation time going to the same place all the time. I went a year and a half without seeing her when she first moved.

    Not only did she give up on her kids, she also left her friends, she only knows people Dave knows, she gave up her right to work, she was not allowed to work in the USA, until recently, but she doesn't work, her everyday life consists of running errands for dave and the kids, cooking (which she hardly did with a smile when we were little), and going to the gym. She is just no longer the person that I knew, and thsi bothers me.

    Dave knows how I feel, we had a very long talk 2 days before the wedding, but he didn't tell my mom anything, and she didn't ask about it, even though my little brother was crying........His crying started my conversation with Dave.

    She is really in her own world, and I am happy that she seems happy, but aren't we important to her anymore???? She won't be there when I buy my wedding dress, or make any plans, she won't know my kids when i have them. My mom and I were very close before my parents split up, after I moved out of the house, she was starting to be more like a friend.

    The thing that has triggered these emotions is that time is going by......she thinks I am nuts for staying in Quebec cause my dad and family are here. I am now very close to my dad, and i would not move far away cause we never know how much time is left, and I want to see him as much as I can. My parents aren't old (20 years older than me), but no one knows what will happen in life).

    I returned 2 days ago from a trip to Mexico alone with my mom for 2 weeks. This was my nursing school graduation present, I am grateful for it, but it doesn't replace having a mom around to do every day life things with. We ended up having a fight after a few days in Mexico, I exploded telling her most of things that I have written in this post. She didn't say much, I did all the talking, so nothing was resolved, except now she knows why justin was cring a few days before her wedding and why I am upset.

    I know she is proud of me, but this trip upset me more than I thought, cause I realized how much she has really changed, and when we said bye at the airport, it was something, cause for the first time in a while, we don't know when we will see each other next, whereas in the last year, we knew the weddings and this trip was coming up. The next time I see her will probably be my wedding day, and I don't know when that will be.

    I get jealous when I see moms and daughter christmas shopping, and I cry all the time when I think about it.

    I just needed to let this out, I am hurting a lot!

    I need my mom as a friend now, as I get older........she was very close to my grandma before she died, my mom has robbed me of having that relationship........

    sorry, like I said I needed to let out the steam, any advice would be appreciated!

  12. by   nightingale

    I am sorry to hear about your sadness and frustration in your relationship with your mother. I did want to respond because your comments hit a cord (that I do not want to discuss).

    The only suggestion I can think of is, talk with your mother when you are not so angry. Perhaps in a letter that someone can edit. Your emotion on the subject, in talking with her, will only serve to distance you two.

    You are in my prayers.

  13. by   Whisper
    I hope you are able to sort out your relationship with your mother, and I am sorry that my early post brought back hard memories for you. I never intended that, and I truly hope you can come to some sort of better arrangement with your mother.

    I can not really offer you much advice, most of my family lives very close, to me, however when my Uncle went to Austrailia he kept in touch with his sister by arranging for her to do scheduled things to gether, like getting together for x-mas shopping in the summer, Just so that they could do it together, and at one point we had two Christmas dinners a year!! One in December, and the second was when ever ALL my family could get together. (Incluiding my uncle)

    Best of luck and you'll be in my thoughts
  14. by   nurseleigh

    I'm not really sure where "home" is. My dad was in the military so I don't have a hometown per se. I was born in Texas but spent all of my life packing up and moving every three years.

    I have been in this area for 6 years now and it is as close to a home as I have ever known. My parents live 150 miles away though.

    So I guess that I am now home in my new hometown with my husband and two beautiful daughters.

  15. by   rninformatics
    Originally posted by KristiWhite2377
    How many of you work in or nearby the same area you were born? I'm wondering how many of us have picked up our roots and gone West, so to speak, whether for personal reasons or career-related ones?
    I live less than a mile from my home town. In fact I purchased a condo that is 2 blocks from the first apartment I moved into after graduating from nursing school 16 years ago!

    I'd love to relocate to some place warmer but will have to wait until I finish graduate school.

    BTW, love your signature line.