Hey...C'mere.. Need Dating Advice!

  1. Okay, so I took the advice of some friends and joined one of those online dating service thingies. Got two replies from people I KNOW I am not compatible with!

    Gentleman A - 48, business owner, world traveler, does not want anymore kids. 6'1", highly educated, handsome. Talked to him on the phone. Our discussion seemed more like an interview and he was typing on the computer while we were talking (rude!). Said "I'm going out of town for a week on business, we could try to schedule to meet when I return, probably meet here at the clubhouse, what do you think?". I said, sure, why not, okay. I said, when would you like to talk again? He says, "Well I don't see the point of having a lot of conversations over the phone, what I tell you is exactly me and I don't see the point of talking a lot when it should be done in person. That is unless you have a comfort level in talking, then we can talk more if you like, but I don't feel it is necessary." Ewww. I just don't get the impression that he would be the carefree, have fun, can roll around in the floor playing type.

    Gentleman B - 37. I hate to sound shallow but there's just not a physical attraction there. Not at all. Nil. Nada.

    Now, I have to figure some way of getting out of meeting gentleman A. I'm just not interested. Gentleman B I need to send a reply to letting him know I got his email, thanks for your interest but no thanks kinda thing.

    Any suggestions?
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  3. by   sunnygirl272
    well..did Gent A set up a firm date with you? if not, just don't do anything...IF he calls upon his return, then you will have the obvious out-you'll be hooked up an dtaken by some deep voiced studmuffin!
  4. by   sunnygirl272
    Dear Gentleman B:
    Thank you for applying for the advertised position of LVRN's loveslave. We regret to inform you, however, that you were found to have fallen short of several of the requirements. Thank you again, and if a position should open up for which you would be a candidate, we will be in touch.
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    Yeah, Gent A had instructed me (that's what it felt like) to call him later this week to confirm a time to meet this Saturday. I can easily say I can't meet this weekend, I have family in town (which isn't a lie, my folks are coming in tonight from Toledo - YAY!), but I'm sure he's going to ask about the following weekend. < groan >
  6. by   kavi
    Hey, I just tried the online dating thingy for the first time this winter!. Don't get too discouraged, my first two were losers too. As far as the one who wants to meet, I went through that as well. With number three. Both as far as the phone, and meeting.

    I finally just told him that I really didn't like talking on the phone, and wasn't ready to meet him face to face. And that if he had a problem with that, I understood. But I had to take care of me, first. And at this point in my life, I needed to take things very slowly and carefully.

    Surprisingly, he wrote back a very nice and understanding note. And said that so far everything he had learned of me was very interesting and likable. And that he had learned in life that if something good comes along, don't let it slip away easily.
    So we're still corresponding (it's been two months).

    Of course, I have the added assistance of my location. Even though he lives about fifty miles away, the only way here right now is to fly in and half the time the planes can't fly due to the weather. Since he's been here, he knows the situation. But it's only been that way for three weeks, and he first wanted to meet before Christmas, so he has been patient too.

    My point is, don't settle. And don't let him pressure you. There are some real ***ssholes out there. So far, it seems about fifty-fifty of people i know doing things this way.

    Some great love stories and a few marriages. And some really bad ucky guys and girls.

    A tip I learned from a mainland friend. Always meet them at a restaurant that has a back door by the woman's room. Then you can always 'excuse yourself' for the ladies and bail.

    Good luck!
    Last edit by kavi on Feb 11, '03
  7. by   sunnygirl272
    DOOD..any man who makes you feel like you have been "instructed" (read ordered) to do something, doesn't even warrent a call...farg him. If he should call you, "geez, sorry slipped my mind...forgot to call you...too late now..i'm getting married/pierced/joining a convent/switching teams/washing my hair for the next 52 weeks...
  8. by   sunnygirl272
    The Mr. Right Rejection Letter Form
    Dear [____rejectee's name here_____],

    I regret to inform you that you have been eliminated from further contention as Mr. Right. As you are probably aware, the competition was exceedingly tough and dozens of well-qualified candidates such as yourself also failed to make the final cut. I will, however, keep your name on file should an opening become available. So that you may find better success in your future romantic endeavors, please allow me to offer the following reason(s) you were disqualified from the competition:

    [Check all those that apply]

    ___ Your breasts are bigger than mine.

    ___ Your last name is objectionable. I can't imagine taking it, hyphenating it, or subjecting my children to it.

    ___ The fact that our finest dining experience to date has been at McDonald's reveals a thriftiness that I find unappealing.

    ___ Your inadvertent admission that you "buy condoms by the truckload" indicates that you may be interested in me for something other than my personality.

    ___ You failed the 20 Question Rule, i.e., I asked you 20 questions about yourself before you asked me one.

    ___ Your legs are skinnier than mine. If you can FIT into my pants, then you can't GET into my pants.

    ___ Your "Putting on a few, aren't you babe?" comment, given the 9-months pregnant size of your beer gut, was inappropriate.

    ___ You failed the credit check.

    ___ I find your inability to fix my car extraordinarily unappealing.

    ___ The fact that your apartment has been condemned reveals an inherent slovenliness that I fear is unbreakable.

    ___ The phrase "My Mother" has popped up far too often in conversation.

    ___ You still live with your parents.

    ___ You mention your ex-girlfriend's name more than you mention mine.

    ___ Three words: Size does matter.

    Sincerely,

    [Your name here]
  9. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by sunnygirl272
    Dear Gentleman B:
    Thank you for applying for the advertised position of LVRN's loveslave. We regret to inform you, however, that you were found to have fallen short of several of the requirements. Thank you again, and if a position should open up for which you would be a candidate, we will be in touch.
    :chuckle :roll
  10. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by sunnygirl272
    DOOD..any man who makes you feel like you have been "instructed" (read ordered) to do something, doesn't even warrent a call...farg him. If he should call you, "geez, sorry slipped my mind...forgot to call you...too late now..i'm getting married/pierced/joining a convent/switching teams/washing my hair for the next 52 weeks...
    Yeah! I was too busy hangin' out at the airport...
  11. by   sunnygirl272
    Originally posted by LasVegasRN
    Yeah! I was too busy hangin' out at the airport...
    dat's my girl....:kiss :chuckle
  12. by   EmeraldNYL
    Wow, sunnygirl, you are REALLY talented at this! I would probably just do the passive-aggressive thing and avoid talking to him/try to annoy him.
  13. by   LasVegasRN
    I was actually thinking of setting up Gent A with a friend of mine - they would be a great match: they are both the serious-business minded types, both like to golf, both are business owners and commute from both of the same places..they are much closer in age and don't have to worry about young 'uns....
  14. by   sunnygirl272
    must confess...that form letter i stole from a site....had to do a search to find it..knew it was out there somewhere...
    my other posts on this thread are my own natural bytchiness...:roll

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