Okay, so I took the advice of some friends and joined one of those online dating service thingies. Got two replies from people I KNOW I am not compatible with!
Gentleman A - 48, business owner, world traveler, does not want anymore kids. 6'1", highly educated, handsome. Talked to him on the phone. Our discussion seemed more like an interview and he was typing on the computer while we were talking (rude!). Said "I'm going out of town for a week on business, we could try to schedule to meet when I return, probably meet here at the clubhouse, what do you think?". I said, sure, why not, okay. I said, when would you like to talk again? He says, "Well I don't see the point of having a lot of conversations over the phone, what I tell you is exactly me and I don't see the point of talking a lot when it should be done in person. That is unless you have a comfort level in talking, then we can talk more if you like, but I don't feel it is necessary."
Ewww. I just don't get the impression that he would be the carefree, have fun, can roll around in the floor playing type.
Gentleman B - 37. I hate to sound shallow but there's just not a physical attraction there. Not at all. Nil. Nada.
Now, I have to figure some way of getting out of meeting gentleman A. I'm just not interested. Gentleman B I need to send a reply to letting him know I got his email, thanks for your interest but no thanks kinda thing.
Feb 11, '03
Hey, I just tried the online dating thingy for the first time this winter!. Don't get too discouraged, my first two were losers too. As far as the one who wants to meet, I went through that as well. With number three. Both as far as the phone, and meeting.
I finally just told him that I really didn't like talking on the phone, and wasn't ready to meet him face to face. And that if he had a problem with that, I understood. But I had to take care of me, first. And at this point in my life, I needed to take things very slowly and carefully.
Surprisingly, he wrote back a very nice and understanding note. And said that so far everything he had learned of me was very interesting and likable. And that he had learned in life that if something good comes along, don't let it slip away easily.
So we're still corresponding (it's been two months).
Of course, I have the added assistance of my location. Even though he lives about fifty miles away, the only way here right now is to fly in and half the time the planes can't fly due to the weather. Since he's been here, he knows the situation. But it's only been that way for three weeks, and he first wanted to meet before Christmas, so he has been patient too.
My point is, don't settle. And don't let him pressure you. There are some real ***ssholes out there. So far, it seems about fifty-fifty of people i know doing things this way.
Some great love stories and a few marriages. And some really bad ucky guys and girls.
A tip I learned from a mainland friend. Always meet them at a restaurant that has a back door by the woman's room. Then you can always 'excuse yourself' for the ladies and bail.
Last edit by kavi on Feb 11, '03