He's Clueless!

  1. My daughter and I are trying as hard as we can to help my grandson get the idea of how to use the potty, HE IS CLUELESS! He is 2 1/2 and sweet as can be. he will set on the potty and get up saying 'I peed" but nothing is in there ! He even looks so proud. I set him on the little potty about half an hour - hour after drinking and first its kicking, screaming,no not the potty, then he sits there and will tell me he peed but nothing zilch, finally I will let him up and don't you know then he pees or the other in the baby under pants eww , he don't want to mess up my potty chair. His sister is 3 1/2 and he sees that she uses it and that the potty chair has not consumed her yet! Me and my daughter are at our wits end and could use some ideas! I will take any clues on how to get this little booger out of diapers and into tidy whites! deb
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  3. by   MelRN13
    Maybe he's just not ready yet. My son was 3 1/2 before we were "fully" potty trained. Alot of times it takes boys longer to figure out than girls, according to my last peds class (yesterday). I don't know how much truth is in that, but I had a h@** of a time with my son.

    Good Luck!!!!

    My son was almost 4 before he did it, but boy did he do it! Never had a single accident.

    They just have to be ready. I used to freak out about it, and my mom would say that no boy ever graduated high school still wearing diapers.

    Just one hint though, try some underwear with characters he enjoys on them. Brian was never receptive to "tighty whities," but REFUSED to poopy on Spiderman!

  5. by   Jay-Jay
    Hmmm....for a moment there, Heather, I thought the last line in your sig was strangely appropriate: "Did you hear the "plop" yet?"

    Then I put on my glasses....:

    I suggested this to a friend of mine, and it WORKED! Give him a reward (a Smartie!! LOL!) for going in the pot. Of course, first you have to get him to actually DO something....

    Darn, KNEW there was a catch!
  6. by   CountrifiedRN
    My son will be 3 in march and I'm having the same problems. He actually did pee in the potty a few times and was very proud of it. But now it just seems he does not want to cooperate anymore. I tried putting him in "big boy" underpants, and he would sit on the potty, not go, then the minute he left the bathroom he would pee in his pants. Then he started throwing tantrums when we tried to sit him on the pot.

    So we decided to back off of it for a while. We gave him a week to rest, and now I try to put him on the pot twice a day when it is most likely he will go. First thing in the morning, and while I am running his bath water in the evening. When he does go pee I have added some M&M's to the heaps of praise we give him. (He only gets the candy if he goes though.) So far not much progress, but I am hoping that he will eventually get the idea. Once he "gets it", I am hoping that he will be a more willing participant!
  7. by   debyan
    I guess I will just have to be patient! We will give the poor young one a break I can't stand having him feel like he is failing potty! Glad to hear that it is so common, it's been 23 years since I potty trained my youngest son and can't remember much about it. Although you are right none of my kids still use diapers
  8. by   Mkue
    Poor guy, he just needs more time. My oldest son was like that also, he turned out fine, he's 20 now. More common in boys I believe.
  9. by   Beach_RN
    My Son was almost four, when he was finally potty trained..... MY daughter.... 2 wks shy of her 2nd birthday! I swear it's a boy thing!

    When my husband used to get frustrated.... I tell him.... don't worry he not going to his Sr. Prom wearing Pull-ups! When there ready..... they will let you know..... One day they will wake up and go to the potty all by themselves..... and then that's it!

  10. by   ShandyLynnRN
    My son got interested in his potty chair when he was 18 months! I thought for sure he'd be easy to potty train. Boy was I wrong. He was only interested in carrying the thing around the house. We tried everything from having him go around naked all day (summertime), an idea I read somewhere, ended up just cleaning up pee all the time, to threatening, to rewards, to taking him every hour..... nothing worked.... his third bday passed and he still was not trained, nor did he WANT to be. He would cry if we would take him to the potty... so we just stopped. We didn't mention it anymore.... then one day (ofcourse I was at work) on Father's day, he was 3 1/2, he just woke up and went to the potty.... never had an accident ever again. (except for those few times when he was playing and didn't want to take the time). Seriously, he did it all on his own!
    I DO believe that boys take longer, as well as first children.

    He'll get it... just let HIM decide when he's ready. He'll let you know. And it will save you and your family from all the stress involved as well!!!

    Good luck!
  11. by   RN2B2005
    My son is 19 months and just started being interested in the potty. Unfortunately, he takes the bowl part of the potty out and sits down in the chair, which means that he ends up winkying on the floor.

    I praise him extensively every time he sits on the potty--clothed, unclothed, whether or not he produces anything. I don't force him and I don't bribe him. Just like breastfeeding, potty training is not something that every baby does at exactly the same time in exactly the same way. We're still nursing at 19 months; the national average age of weaning is 6 months.

    When my mother-in-law makes some stupid comment about my son still nursing, I point out that no baby ever went away to college still nursing, so as long as he's weaned by age 18 it's all good. Same with potty training, IMHO. In Sam's case, he's doing it on the early end of the spectrum; your son is right smack in the middle. No worries. The only person who cares whether he's wearing diapers at age 4 is you, and you care about your son, so don't let it bother you.

    The only thing I can say is, don't force him. Don't make it a power struggle; you won't win, he'll be frustrated, and everyone will lose.
  12. by   Lausana
    I haven't even tried and probably won't until summer when he can just run around in undies -he'll be closer to 3 by then. He sits on the chair every now and then but thinks it's still more fun to pee all over the floor right before climbing in the bathtub

    The idea of PT would make me rip out the last 2 handfulls of hair still left on my head so I think I'll wait a while. :chuckle

    Good luck with the little one!
  13. by   susanmary
    This is not the battle to pick -- it will happen when he is ready. Lots of great advice on this board -- but ultimately, each child is an individual and will toilet train when they are ready. Hang in there it's not that he's "clueless" -- he's just not interested in potty training yet. Take a break from it, don't make a big deal ... and try again in a few months.
    Last edit by susanmary on Feb 13, '03
  14. by   debyan
    Thanks for all the comments, you are right don't want to get in a power struggle with a 2 yr old its a losing battle. I am not going to worry about it any more and tell my daughter if she wants to its up to her. I think you all are right he will do it like he does everything else, when he is ready. He is so cute just don't understand what we want. Went to the park today since it was warm the they had a ball, have fun with all your little ones they grow up so fast. Thanks deb