Help with Bookworm slob

  1. Okay Rusty and friends,

    What can I do with my 14yo who is SO intent on reading that the surrounding world is oblivious to him?? Never sees the plate from after school snack sticking under edge of sofa or 3 wrappers from slices of cheese, six tissues on floor next to wrapper, 4 glasses perched precariously on end of end table and the two juice boxes flattened on the way to the bathroom. FINALLY got sons to change in BR instead of Livingroom so discarded clothes only occasionally on floor too.

    Part of problem is Dad who doesn't see overflowing kitchen trach can and who passes the bedroom doorway but never looks in to see the tornado that has struck.... need advice STAT. Told him tonight that I will start deducting money from allowence for: putting away dihes from dishwasher that still are dirty or "forgetting" kitchen duty, failure to collect dirty glasses in computer room, forgetting to bathe, brush teeth, etc.

    I want to put a stop to this behavior so that when he gets own apartment won't be evicted due to it being a trash heep. Want to stop beening seen as a nag as soon as I get home from work---or when I restrain myself till after dinner.

    HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    He does best when given a chore list attached to TV, why can't it just become a routine!
    Last edit by NRSKarenRN on Apr 16, '03
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  2. 27 Comments

  3. by   Rustyhammer
    I hate to suggest this but I would put him on book restriction for a week!

    It has always helped to take away the thing they like the most.
    No reading for a week! and if he doesn't start getting his chores done then we can add a day or two.
    -Russell

    ps: I'm not going to make any suggestions on what to do to dad.
  4. by   NRSKarenRN
    Did that this week... No Play station OR computer games for several days too last week thru weekend.

    Well Dad doesn't fuss too much about the dust bunnies.
  5. by   shygirl
    How about tell him that he has to do his chores first, then he can read all he wants when it is done?

    Shygirl


    P.S. It IS nice that he reads though!
  6. by   RRMLPN
    egg timer when it goes off the book goes away and the chores get done..then when everything is finished, they can have the books back. I had to do this, with 5 teenagers the house looked more like a pig sty than a home. If they didn't comply , the book time became less and less, (or with them it was game time, friend time etc) maybe it will help, i feel your frustration, hope you find something that works for everyone.
  7. by   Rustyhammer
    Or you could hire a maid
    -R
  8. by   KaroSnowQueen
    Is he reading good stuff or comix???
    Either way, make an offer of chores related to book purchases!!!
    I drove my folks nuts reading everything!!! If Dad said no books, then I would sit at the kitchen table and read food labels, cereal boxes, etc. If he is a real reader and not just doing it to make you nuts, the thought of book money will make him hop like a frog through his chores.
  9. by   NRSKarenRN
    Hey the egg timer might work! Maybe light timer too!

    He's the only child that was disciplined by the Principal for "excessive reading"--reading at the inapropriate time:middle of math or religion class had paperback tucked inside. Libraian even ordered HS classics for him to read. Had most reading points in the history of school---free pizza every quarter and received reading award at graduation along with gift card to Borders. Read at recess and lunch time. Doesn't help that my office is next door to Borders!

    Oldest complete opposite--- till he had Mrs Fisher in 11th grade!
  10. by   NRSKarenRN
    Originally posted by KaroSnowQueen
    Is he reading good stuff or comix???
    .... If Dad said no books, then I would sit at the kitchen table and read food labels, cereal boxes, etc.
    Bingo---You mean there's a TWIN of him somewhere in the US!!! HE does the SAME thing!

    Read last 700+ Harry Potter book in under 24 hrs. Reading John Grishim, Clive Cussler and science fiction now.
  11. by   renerian
    I am an avid reader. People can talk to me in the same room and I will be so engrossed I don't hear a thing. I can read in a room full of people or with the TV on. Try the egg timer. I have problems getting my kids to do their jobs as well.

    renerian
  12. by   Spidey's mom
    Your kid reads!? He likes to read!? He is a good reader?!

    Count your many blessings. I can barely get my boys to pick up a book. Finally the eldest in college has decided reading isn't boring. The 18 y.o. refuses to read unless forced by his teachers and he tests above average in reading comprehension. Just hates to read. 13 y.o. daughter loves reading. Toddler loves books.

    I was like your son . . . I'm oblivious to the world when reading and my mom said I always had my head in a book.

    steph
  13. by   jevans
    I love the idea of the egg timer:chuckle Guess what is on my shopping list Now:chuckle

    As for your son Karen,[if I may be so bold] The reading is a good thing, I can not get my son to read anything except computer games. He has dyslexia..........and we tried everything until he got an interest in stratergy games. Now me being a crafty mum buys games that need more and more reading:roll :roll :roll

    The chore issue........it is the same the world over. No kid likes those things
  14. by   RRMLPN
    I want the maid thing rusty said... wonder if i quit cleaning house if dh would do that for me?? I'd prolly just get the egg timer treatment too !!

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