My son had similar problems at that age. I found out from a friend that her friend had called the Board of ed and gotten a private tutor for her dtr, and now the dtr was doing great. I got the number and called her. She WAS great. She was a special ed teacher at the public schools
, my kids were in Catholic schools at the time. She said he was more of an auditory learner than a visual learner, and she taught him all kinds of little tricks to memorization, math, you name it. ON tutoring nights we were not to do any homework, she did it with David. We all learned soooo much! Even little things like using graph paper to do math HW since David's handwriting was soooo sloppy, when he was adding columns, they were not properly lined up, using the graph paper worked like a charm.
David went from special ed to gifted and talented math after 6 months of her help!!!! She only charged me $25 per hour! It was a bargain in the long run.
The sloppy handwriting, no caps, or periods, I see this in a lot of boys that age. Schools seem to have gotten lax about enforcing the basics anymore.
I wouldn't say all schools are cookie cutter, but some are definitely better than others. I pulled my kids out of Catholic schools when the Diocese said it was OK to have up to 36 kids per class. I noticed my children blossomed into great students when we left the Catholic school system. Not to put down all Catholic schools in general at all, just that in this case, it was a major source of the problem.
I also think that acting out is a way kids may demonstrate low self-esteem related to learning disabilities. They are embarrassed to ask for help in front of the class, and so they fidget or talk in class, to avoid having to face what they are having difficulty with. This could be a vision problem like the previous person said, or maybe a hearing problem.
Start finding a good tutor, it can be a Godsend to have the right one. Ask the pediatrician, teachers, board of ed, and friends about tutors, you want a good word of mouth recommendation. If there is a college near you, they may have an idea as well. I know a few people who have gone to Sylvan learning centers, some had good results, some not. Get a physical to r/o any physical problems. We got extremely lucky. I hope you can find the help you need too. Many teachers will also do tutroing from their homes in the summer for extra cash too.