HELP ME!!..Write my online ad... Tee Hee

  1. okay, i was sitting here thinking of my new year's resolutions (yes, already) and i have decided to open the door, come out of my shell, and start dating again as of jan 2003. so, i thought i'd start by writing and posting on online ad.

    you already know i haven't had the best luck with dating, so i'm asking for your help in writing the ad. i am particularly interested in our men's input since, well, that's who the ad is targeting.

    here's my first shot:

    [font=century]professional lady seeking available man.
    greetings from las vegas! i'm a single/divorced 37 y/o, 5'7", in good health, have a "mini-me" of 6 years old. i'm very active in community and cultural events. i consider myself mentally, socially, and financially stable and secure. i'm not into games (life is too short) and have no drama. i don't expect any less of what i expect from myself, believing in the value of true friendship, family, and a traditional male head-of-household.
    we would be extremely compatible if you also enjoy the arts, culture, sports, movies, concerts, and are up to trying new things. the perfect match for me would be someone who is just as comfortable flapping with the crows as flying with the eagles. no racial preference, however i do prefer someone under 47 years of age, who is single or divorced, lives in southern nevada, and is also mentally, socially, and financially stable. you get an extra big smile from me if you have a motorcycle and love to laugh.

    k, what do you think? c'mon, don't be shy, i put away my purse.... for now...:d
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  2. 44 Comments

  3. by   shygirl
    Wow, #1, I am not a man
    #2, I do not live in Nevada
    #3, I am not bi-sexual



    If I was, we'd be a perfect match! This is a very sincere souding ad.
    Shygirl
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    sounds good to me. good luck!
  5. by   donmurray
    I'm no expert, But I suspect many men may feel they are "available" even if they're not! Otherwise, it looks fine, like yourself!
    ps. married, unstable x3, and not in Nevada, but I've got a motorcycle!
  6. by   live4today
    Originally posted by donmurray
    I'm no expert, But I suspect many men may feel they are "available" even if they're not! Otherwise, it looks fine, like yourself!
    ps. married, unstable x3, and not in Nevada, but I've got a motorcycle!
    HA! Donmurray......you took the EXACT words right out of my mouth! The minute I read Vegas ad, the first thought in my head was "hell....they are ALL available"........:chuckle

    So.......my advice to you Vegas is for you to write that ad more specifically to weed out the PITAS!

    As far as mentioning your child...........just stating that you are a single mother of one is more than sufficient.

    Also.....just as you stated that you are NOT into "drama"......state that you do NOT want a man.....single or divorced........WITH SAID DRAMA in his own life. Many a man....single or divorced.....has more drama than they care to reveal......I'm still learning about drama from the man I am currently married to......but, I'm sure you know this already......just present the specifics so they will know you mean business.

    Otherwise......your ad reads fine. I may be posting my own soon, so the practice is good to read here.

    After my first divorce, I went to a reputable dating service so I could meet men who had already been put through a vigorous screening process. I met some really nice men, but they wanted children.....understandable.......but I can not have children anymore......haven't been able to since age 28.

    Anyway.....have you tried this route before? :kiss
    Last edit by live4today on Sep 22, '02
  7. by   LasVegasRN
    Thanks all!! Perhaps I should say, "seeking single/divorced man" instead of just available (ha).

    Yes, tried the formal dating service years ago - Matchmaker (where I met my EX - yick) and Great Expectations where I met one of my best friends 12 years ago. Nothing came of any of those back then and I don't have the free $$$$ to do it now. So, trying the online thing as of the first of next year.
  8. by   live4today
    Wishin' you all the best my dah-lin! :kiss Keep our inquiring minds up to date now. :chuckle
  9. by   LasVegasRN
    I will. In fact, I'll do a test run after I get some more opinions and post the ad on a free site. I'll post the replies here so we can all get a good laugh.
  10. by   Sleepyeyes
    ummm.....
    just curious, but do you wanna church-going man?

    I'm gonna pray that you meet someone nice BEFORE you place the ad! (hey, it worked for me.... )
  11. by   LasVegasRN
    Yep, that would be great, Sleepy. But the average age of the men at my church is 62.
  12. by   live4today
    Originally posted by LasVegasRN
    Yep, that would be great, Sleepy. But the average age of the men at my church is 62.
    :chuckle :roll :chuckle

    Poor baby! :kiss
  13. by   researchrabbit
    I tried Matchmaker too, it was awful. I did much better with the personal ads (but I used a newspaper).

    Dating from personal ads was much more fun and much less scary than I thought it would be (and a little weirder than I thought it would be at times!).

    As far as the content of your ad, you should not give specifics about children, just in case there's some icky person lurking out there looking for single moms with small children (I did not mention children in my ad; brought it up after I thought the guy might be worth meeting. This was never a problem with anyone I dated).

    You might consider a perkier headline...here are two I used.

    First ad -- a lot of dates, most of them fun, but no keepers...

    Ex-bride of Frankenstein, 42, seeks mad scientist for electrifying times.

    The following headline got me lots of calls from guys who had been Eagle Scouts (which wasn't quite what I meant) and one keeper...

    I want a man with all the Boy Scout qualities!

    The keeper from this ad called and said, "I've never been a Boy Scout, but I've got a knife! {long pause} Um, that didn't sound quite right did it?" He's still making me laugh 3 years later. (neither of us quite ready to take the big plunge again, though...)

    A little humor is always great in your ad, especially in the headline because that's the first thing they see (and Vegas, you've gotta have a guy with a sense of humor!).

    I know I'm the eternal optimist. But I believe you'll find your perfect guy.
  14. by   Hidi74
    Hi Vegas!!!! Have you checked out match.com? It's wonderful. I have been a member for 3 mos now and have met some really nice Men. One of whom I will be meeting for the first time in less than 3 WEEKS yea!!!! this is after talking for 3 mos. He live 5 hours away. Any whoo check it out its FUNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!
    Good luck!!
    Hidi74

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