Help me, I think I am in love!(and not with my husband) - page 8

Okay here is the deal... Everyone who knows me, knows that I am married! I have 4 wonderful kids and I would never do anything to hurt them! But, here is where the problem comes in...I think I am in... Read More

  1. by   SmilingBluEyes
    good luck
  2. by   sjoe
    "As long as you have this fantasy of the other man on the back burner, you have not truly commited to the relationship with your husband and it is doomed to fail because you have already planned your escape."

    Exactly. You are sabotaging your own marriage. If this is not your goal, then STOP doing it. If this is your goal, then don't pretend it is anyone else's doing but your own. So long as you continue to "lead yourself into temptation," therapy or not, you will continue to create problems. "Yo play wi' fire, yo' gonna get burned."

    IMHO.
    Last edit by sjoe on Jul 2, '03
  3. by   Spidey's mom
    sjoe . . funny. Sunday in church our pastor was talking about God's answer to lust. It isn't try to understand it and talk yourself out of it . . .it is FLEE . . .RUN . . .

    Sexual temptation is nothing to play around with.

    steph
  4. by   nowplayingEDRN
    Originally posted by nursetl2002
    OKay, this thread is now no longer needed! We are doing great and I want to thank all of you for your support and prayers! You are the best therapists in the world, and I didn't even have to pay the 300 dollars an hour that a shrink would charge me!


    WOOT! Glad to hear it.....you will still be in my thoughts and prayers as you all continue to mend.

    And Steph......I have one thing to add to your post: AMEN!!
  5. by   Level2Trauma
    we shall not grow wiser before we learn that much that we have done was foolich why do all do this do they not realized it will come back on them more????cheating is not good tilleycs right on she needs help
  6. by   ucandoit
    Hello in case you haven't noticed...IT IS OVER! pLEASE QUIT BEATING A DEAD HORSE! AND LEVEL2TRAUMA, GET A LIFE AND QUIT SENDING ME PM's about stupid stuff! You ain't nobody special to be calling me names! I am not messing with your husband so don't try to insinuate that I am! Get a LIFE!
  7. by   redwinggirlie
    I didn't read all the posts, so forgive if this has already been brought up: you said things have been going good except for the last two years. Now, does this timeframe coincide with when you started having more contact with your ex?
    You also said that you don't want to hurt anyone. I must be frank, you already are. Can you honestly say you are being faithful to your husband? It's my belief that when you enter a relationship, your ex's are just that - ex's, not best friends. If he were to read any of your emails to your ex, would it hurt him? I don't mean to be harsh, but, well, my husband could have written the same email you did. In the end, he thought life with her would be better.... he found out he was wrong, tried to reconcile, but the damage was done. I wish you the best. And, no comments on what happened to me, folks, I'm WAY over that mess!
  8. by   redwinggirlie
    Darn it! I should have read them all. Good for you two. I STILL wish you all the best!
    Cheers!
  9. by   Level2Trauma
    Originally posted by nursetl2002
    Hello in case you haven't noticed...IT IS OVER! pLEASE QUIT BEATING A DEAD HORSE! AND LEVEL2TRAUMA, GET A LIFE AND QUIT SENDING ME PM's about stupid stuff! You ain't nobody special to be calling me names! I am not messing with your husband so don't try to insinuate that I am! Get a LIFE!
    :roll sorry paxil lady i am a man i have a life it is you that does not it is nurses like you that gives us a bad name ?and i have not pm you ? stupid is you telling us this you get a life.
  10. by   ktwlpn
    Originally posted by Level2Trauma
    :roll sorry paxil lady i am a man i have a life it is you that does not it is nurses like you that gives us a bad name ?and i have not pm you ? stupid is you telling us this you get a life.
    Level2trauma- How does a nurse having marital problems "give us all a bad name?" Doctors,lawyers and Indian chiefs have gone through it...teachers,secretaries and clerks,too.....What's up with you? Furthermore-If nursetl2002 thinks this thread that she started is no longer relevent then SHE can pm the mods and have it closed.....Until THAT happens it isn't "over" -an active thread will continue to draw all kinds of opinions....
  11. by   Nurse Ratched
    OK - didn't see the most recent posts until now. Nursetl2003, if it's ok with you, I am going to lock this thread since you have indicated you are working on your marriage and you stated a little earlier the thread was no longer needed. I wish you and your husband all the future happiness, as I'm sure our fellow allnurses members do.

    Edited to add as a general reminder: harrassing or threatening pm's are not permitted. Please refer to the TOS and notify admins if you are receiving them.
    Last edit by Nurse Ratched on Jul 8, '03

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