This is long and poorly written, and if anyone reads this, I do thank you.....
Ok I am FED UP!!!! My son is in the 5th grade, used to have such a desire to learn...not any longer......started with such a GOOD ATTITUDE THIS YEAR. He was gonna "work hard" and "do his best"......he was going back to school after we worked with all summer to help him catch up and be ready....renewed hopes...you know....well friends......it has been 5 years of struggle after struggle with the schools, (several of them now), teachers, etc. I feel like I am at the end of my rope. He got YET ANOTHER TEACHER who has decided to single him out and "get him"....before you say I am paranoid, please understand something.
As parents, my husband and I are VERY available. We go to ALL the open houses, I am a PTA member, I make appts w/teachers when there are issues so we can work them out early on and I am VERY OPEN to suggestions and points by the teachers. I always let them tell me what they see is going on and then I say my piece, diplomatically and politely. I also readily acknowledge I am NOT raising an angel and that we have our share of the responsibility to ensure his successful education. I am NOT in denial that issues exist. SO WHY-- OH-- WHY don't they work with me?
This will be year number THREE IN A ROW! yet another teacher who does not contact me when there are problems til it's too late...another teacher who pays lip service to me when he says we will work it out and they will work with ME on this??????? I have HAD IT, people!!!!!! HAD IT!!!!!! My son's wellbeing and education are at stake here, not to mention his self-esteem, which is in the toilet at this point. I feel like am at a HUGE precipice here and need to ACT before my boy is lost. HELP ME! WHAT CAN I DO? Working like I do, I cannot afford private school; it would require me to work fulltime and put my 3 year old in daycare full time; something I cannot do. She needs me, too. I have already considered I won't send her to school, at all, I cannot stand to see another child sacrificed to a lousy, half-cocked system that cares NAUGHT about our kids but more about "the status quo"!!!!! And if I offended anyone here, I am sorry, I respect teachers are working harder than ever for little pay, but MY KID IS WHAT MATTERS TO ME ok???
So, my friends, I turn to you for help/suggestions. Sometimes, an uninvolved party is what one needs to help see things w/new perspective. Any ideas are welcome.....I am truly at the end of my rope and in tears as I write this. Homeschooling is a STRONG consideration...... I feel like I am failing my son in a horrible way!
Sep 11, '02
Thanks so far for your replies, as I read them my tears flow more. Jeez, this whole thing makes me sick. I just want to help my son and re-spark his desire to learn. I see that light extinguished by crap like this and I cry. And research rabbit, I can relate w/your post too.....my son is "nerdy" also, in a different way........not allowed to watch R-rated movies, or access sexually oriented sites on the web, and would you believe so many at school DO THIS and make fun of him cause he does NOT????? Also, being military, my son will make friends, only to see them move away. The stress for him is unbearable at times. HE is NOT gifted (as one would label it; really his gifts are as yet, unrecognized by anyone except by his dad and me)...... so, there he sits in the "general status quo", another nameless face who means nothing to them. What is it all coming to?
I am truly fearful for this upcoming generation. Anyhow, thanks for your thoughtful posts, folks. It means a lot just to have someone read a even give a darn. The school sure does not.
Oh there WAS someone out there a while back I talked to who homeschools...I cannot remember who. Any info along these lines would be MUCH appreciated. It's looking more attractive all the time. I really have given up on the schools...I have been in principals' offices more times than I can count. We have had him in special classes to help his learning and with anger management...I have seen pediatricians about him who say he is NORMAL....I am sick of fighting bureaucracies that do NOT give a sh!t, frankly. I am sick of my kid being stuck in the middle of it all....I am just sick.....
Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Sep 11, '02
Sep 11, '02
You BETTER be scared, be very afraid. My experiences with the school system have been hell since kindergarten. Pure h-e-l-l And that I have waited this long, in inertia, hoping for change in new schools, teachers etc, makes me so angry w/myself I can SPIT TACKS!!!! I tell you, your kids' education is at stake......you have to fight for everything you need and then fight some more when all you wanna do is HIDE. NO EASY answers.
And yes, my ds was premature....by 6 weeks.....had a major birth defect and surgery and subsequent scar on his head that they all comment on and laugh at. But bless his heart, he just says "hey I was born with it; a dr fixed it, I was tough enough to live thru it at 3 months, so get OVER IT cause I AM"! Yea, it's a mean world out there, and you are reminded daily by your kids! it is SO hard to watch the light of learning and innocence get SQUASHED by rotten kids and an even MORE rotten school system that do not give a rat's patooty about your kid. You are a number, and good luck being heard.
Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Sep 11, '02