Have you or would you seek help for depression??

  1. In light of my recent posts and my sharing of my issues I wondered how many people actually face up to having a problem and get help? I know it was years before I first sought help....very destructive years and a suicide attempt before counseling and meds. Would you seek help if you needed it or have you sought help in the past? Share if you feel like sharing...if not then don't feel obligated. I write this in hopes that maybe others who have problems and really don't realize they need help or are scared to seek it may realize that there are others out there and that it is not a weakness to seek help....it could save your life...your family....your marriage....so many things. Please share if you would like....thank you.......
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  3. by   Q.
    I've often wondered this very thing myself.

    The only time I've sought counseling is 1) during a rough time in our marriage and 2) during my dad's very, very, very bad admissions to a detox unit, and subsequent 28 day program.

    I have to say both experiences were positive, in that the counselors had interesting perspectives and made me think about things differently. My first interaction with a counseling was with my dad, and that was because they were there, not necessarily because we sought them out. After that experience, the marriage counselor was initiated by us. And I think because I had a good experience before.

    But I'm not sure at what point I'd seek therapy when I think the problem is soley me or more of a chronic thing. Like if I'm depressed for no particular reason. In both cases above they were quite acute in nature so that may be why I felt counseling was more available or appropriate.

    These past 5-6 months have been hard, and I think I may have an element of depression myself, with irritability, crying episodes now and then, etc- but yet, I still function and go to work. Is counseling appropriate now? Hard to tell.

    "Therapy" of late also has a trendiness aspect to it; read any mag and stars talk of their "therapist" or you hear people saying "My therapist says..."

    Maybe this is a good thing, though.
  4. by   Robin61970
    I knew that I was getting to a very bad place within myself and because I had been so bad off before I knew.....you have not had that experience Suzy so in that it is up to you to choose if you need the help or not. I would lie down to sleep and my mind would race......not anything in particular, but everything..over and over....no sleep. Then when I finally fell asleep I would sleep for 12-14 hours and would not want to get up. When I got up I was snappy and mean to my husband and children..crying at the drop of a hat. My daughter got upset because I told her no and I actually looked at her and said...well I'm just a bad mom....I would not clean because I was so tired.....I would be depressed because I did not clean.....I could not sleep and would be more tired.....I would be more irritable because I could not sleep...It was a cycle that went on and on. This is just the tip of it. I am not even going into the self loathing I felt for not being able to control the depression and trying to make myself snap out of it. Anyway...these are the some of the things I go through when I get really down......sorry to ramble.....
    Wonderful thread about nursing and depression....


    I think that since my mom has always been a psych nurse and I've grown up with these types of issues being discussed at the dinner table, that there isn't such a stigma associated with depression and other mental health issues to me.

    For others, it's not so easy.

    Now, my mental health is the most important thing to me. Anything else on my body that fails me, I can replace, transplant, have removed, whatever. My mental health is what gets me through, and it cannot be replaced. I have to take care of it. I have a heightened sense of what is going on with it, due to my history, and I realize that I am at a higher risk for developing depression. And no, I won't have any problem seeking appropriate intervention when the time comes.

  6. by   renerian
    Yes I have sought a therapist for one of those assaults no woman ever wants to have happen to her. I was sexually assaulted in March. It helped me alot.

  7. by   Robin61970
    I'm sorry to hear that and wish you had not had to go through that.....doing okay now?
  8. by   Mattigan
    Yes, I've gotten help. It took a major meltdown to lead me to do it , though. I wish I'd done it years ago but didn't really know I was depressed- just thought I was weird and/or everyone thought things like that and seeing how my mom was bipolar and the rest of the family just plain strange- who knew???? I still take medication and probably will for life- however only see psychiatrist for med management , now.( He said he gave up- but I think he was joking )

    Literally , saved my life. PM me if you ever need to talk or have ??'s for me or---- heck!! we are just a Sunday drive away.
  9. by   Stargazer
    As I've posted before, I went through a situational clinical depression in college. I didn't seek help for it simply because it never occurred to me. By the time I realized how bad I was, I was a little too deep into it to effectively problem-solve, and since nobody in my immediate family had ever suffered a clinical depression or other mental health problems at that point, the concept was just alien to me. I would've thought myself as likely to have beriberi as depression.

    I was lucky in that it WAS situational and once I removed myself from the situation, it resolved quite quickly. As a result of that whole episode, though, I tend to monitor my emotional temperature a little more closely now and can usually "catch" myself if I start sliding.

    At what point would I seek help? Unsure. I think, generally, if I started having significant sleep disturbances lasting more than a couple of weeks, or real problems with ADLs--shopping, cleaning, laundry, bill-paying, work--I would seek help, probably with my company's Employee Assistance Program to begin with ('cause it's--ahem--free for the first 4 visits).
    Last edit by Stargazer on Dec 31, '02
  10. by   Robin61970
    It's nice to have that...I worked for Whirlpool and they had a similar program, but no one would use it....they were all afarid to be labeled. I guess that's one advantage to healthcare...some are more understanding......
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Short and SWEET:

    Yes I have; yes I would ....yes I do. Period. It's no different than seeking medical attention for any other ailment! Why live with a disease w/o at least attempting to treat it?
  12. by   renerian
    Robin yes I am doing fine with time and the love of my husband. thanks for responding.

  13. by   Sleepyeyes
    After I kicked my first husband out and pressed charges, I became very depressed. At the time I was unable to get to counseling, and frankly, I think that at the time, it may not have helped much--this was many years ago. So I got through it with the help of God and a few close friends. In hindsight, I think I may've had one enormous case of PSTD but at the time, only Vietnam vets got dx'd for that.

    Today, I see that there are many new medications and a whole new, more realistic style of counseling that tells me that there is hope and I would definitely go, if I had a problem.

    And today, I see depression as a harbinger of change in my life--not necessarily a bad thing, just a fallow period in which new ideas and new directions are contemplated and processed.

    Sorry to ramble---
    back to the question: i have seen today's counseling and today's medications work so well for people that I'm sincerely glad that this is available, and i would definitely get counseling if I needed it.
  14. by   Mkue
    I had a little post-partum depression after my last son 13 years ago, and yes I did seek help. And I would again, if the need arises.

    Help is out there and no one should feel ashamed to ask for it, that's the first step to healing, recognizing things aren't quite right.