Quote from TeleNurse_02
When do you come to the point in life where the high-school drama stops? I am 27 years old, and former acquaintances of mine still find time to run their mouths. I haven't even SEEN some of these people in five or six years, and they're still talking about me...I don't even know how they hear the things that they supposedly know.
Sorry for the vent, but thanks for listening.
I want to pack up and go all the time because my friends are gossipy and vicious. But, you know what? From what you say, I bet wherever you go and whatever friends you make and whatever age they are, "the high-school drama" is always there. I thought that it would definately stop after everyone went into college. WRONG! Then, I thought it would definately stop after everyone left college. WRONG!
People always give the advice, "You got to live for yourself and your own happiness and not to make other people happy." But, if you're anything like me, I bet you're thinking, but I can't do that because it would make me happier if other people acted happier and not so vicious and if I didn't have to feel like people close to me were against me. So, I HAVE TO make people happier in order to feel accepted.
What I try to do is not let my sense of ego(comfort and protection) rest on these people. Its hard because I need to feel comforted and protected by other people and I don't like pretending that I don't. But if you give that power to others, I think you leave the doors open for a lot of abuse. So, I try to rest my ego on something else that people can't attack, like school or work. This may be bad advice but its the only answer I know.