Have you ever just wanted to pack up and go?

  1. I just feel like I've been in such a funk lately. If I didn't have my son, I would just pack up and go-somewhere where I wouldn't have to listen to the hipocracy of "so-called" friends.

    When do you come to the point in life where the high-school drama stops? I am 27 years old, and former acquaintances of mine still find time to run their mouths. I haven't even SEEN some of these people in five or six years, and they're still talking about me...I don't even know how they hear the things that they supposedly know.

    There is a point in life where you realize what is really important, and for some of us that seems to come later than for others. I think that we've all made mistakes, no body is perfect, but why are some people insistent on bringing up the past? Some of the choices that I made when I was 19 or 20 really don't matter anymore. I am not even the same person anymore. I have overcame so many difficult times--why can't people just let the past be where it should be, in the PAST?

    Sorry for the vent, but thanks for listening.
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  2. 20 Comments

  3. by   maddiecat
    I can relate. I sometimes think that no matter what happens people (especially family members and people that have known you for a long time) will always think of you the way you "were" For me, I know that no matter what I do some in my family will never see me as I am now. And I have come such a long way! Anyway, I am ready to pack up and go many times. I think it would nice to go somewhere where no one knows me at all! Hope your day gets better.....we're all in this thing together!
  4. by   MelRN13
    Thanks for the words of encouragement.
  5. by   Tweety
    Don't let the trolls get you down. It makes people feel better about themselves to bring up dirt. Let them get dirty and leave you out of it.

    To answer your question, yes. If I wasn't grounded in a happy home, with a spouse and pets sometimes I think I'd get on a train to anywhere.
    Last edit by Tweety on May 26, '04
  6. by   MelRN13
    I would prefer to be in a hammock on a carribean island somewhere sipping a frosty tropical beverage...
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Stress is so bad lately that a Greyhound out of town is sounding like day spa right now.
  8. by   traumaRUs
    Well - I do think that as you get older - the gossip regarding choices made while a teen dim in everyone's memory. Boy did I make some wild choices back then! Tee hee hee and now they live on only in MY memory! Good luck and take care.
  9. by   TBLPN
    i think everyone encounters these problems at one time or another in their life. my job isn't going as i want it too, family won't let old problems solve, and people gossip. people who are really insecure with themselves and are truly unhappy with their own lives have nothing better to do than to pick on and talk about others. don't let them get you down. you have to live your life the way it makes you happy. you can't please everyone and you shouldn't have too.
  10. by   susanna
    Quote from TeleNurse_02
    When do you come to the point in life where the high-school drama stops? I am 27 years old, and former acquaintances of mine still find time to run their mouths. I haven't even SEEN some of these people in five or six years, and they're still talking about me...I don't even know how they hear the things that they supposedly know.

    Sorry for the vent, but thanks for listening.
    I want to pack up and go all the time because my friends are gossipy and vicious. But, you know what? From what you say, I bet wherever you go and whatever friends you make and whatever age they are, "the high-school drama" is always there. I thought that it would definately stop after everyone went into college. WRONG! Then, I thought it would definately stop after everyone left college. WRONG!

    People always give the advice, "You got to live for yourself and your own happiness and not to make other people happy." But, if you're anything like me, I bet you're thinking, but I can't do that because it would make me happier if other people acted happier and not so vicious and if I didn't have to feel like people close to me were against me. So, I HAVE TO make people happier in order to feel accepted.

    What I try to do is not let my sense of ego(comfort and protection) rest on these people. Its hard because I need to feel comforted and protected by other people and I don't like pretending that I don't. But if you give that power to others, I think you leave the doors open for a lot of abuse. So, I try to rest my ego on something else that people can't attack, like school or work. This may be bad advice but its the only answer I know.
  11. by   PBAJS
    "When do you come to the point in life where the high-school drama stops?"
    With some people it never stops.

    "the gossip regarding choices made while a teen dim in everyone's memory." Maybe most but not everyone.

    After high school I stayed in contact with a 'friend' that had moved out of state. You know, the general stuff, husbands, kids, jobs, etc. About 15-20 years later, when her mother died, I saw her at the funeral home. She didn't forget the many things we did in high school and the few years following. Thank goodness my husband (who didn't know her) wasn't there. She and I have lost contact with each other.

    Try not to let the talk bother you. Not always, but most of the time, I just blow it off when I think "If they are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone."

  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    As you reach your 30s and beyond, you become MUCH more comfortable in your own skin and with the choices you make. All this angst of your teens and twenties fades as your kids become older and you focus on other things besides high jinks from high school and college.

    Don't let 'em get you down. It seems to me, you have OUTGROWN these people. That is painful and often sad. I remember, way back when I was in the Air Force right after high school, I would come home on leave and all my old friends were SO excited to see me. Coming home was such fun. Well, it changed as 2, 3 years went by.

    It got harder each time as I realized things were changing and we did not have much in common as anymore. The conversations became stilted and uncomfortable and boring! I finally realized who had changed was not them, but ME. I had grown, from my military experiences and living so far from home, meeting people who were so different than my circle of family and friends----- while they had pretty much stayed the same as they were in high school, living still with their moms and dads into their 20s. Nothing wrong with them, or me. Just changes happening for me.

    Such is life. You need not pack up ----but maybe make new friends, find new interests, and move on. It's painful, growing up and changing. I think my 20s were much tougher than my teens in that respect. So much angst.

    It may be painful for them (your old friends/aquaintances), to see your maturing and moving past them, too. It's hard to watch someone grow and improve before one's eyes if he or she remains unchanged. It forces one to look at some tough truths about his/herself and be challenged to either grow or remain stagnant.

    So worry not, but just know you the time is coming when you will not care not a whip what others say or think. You will make decisions based on what is right for you and your closest loved ones and leave the juvenile worries of others behind you. You realize you have neither the time or luxury of doing worrying what they think. And that, my friend, is liberating as HELL.
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on May 26, '04
  13. by   susanmary
    Be true to yourself and live your life the way you want. Obviously, some individuals are still very jealous/threatened by you and want to continue to tear you down. It only belittles them and anyone who listens to such gossip. Yes, some people never outgrow being mean. Ever hear the saying "mean, rotten kids grow up to be mean, rotten adults!"
  14. by   seanymph
    Feel like packing up and leaving right now. Really down right now with life in general.
    Never had the problem with friends after high school. I have 3 friends from school that I still keep in contact with and visit (one I've known since kindergarten!) anyone else I have no use for.

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