Had a bad day at clinical

  1. Hi guys, A classmate of mine and I got into a heated discussion in the breakroom at clinicals. No profanity or any physical stuff happened,but it was embarrassing for me,the school, and my instructor. My classmate was verbally attacking me,and instead of walking awaylike a sensible human being,I responded by yelling at her. I didn't personally attack her or anything,but my instructor was not pleased. We have to meet with the coordinator on Mon. Wish me luck. I'm so ashamed I could just die. I'm so sorry. I'm going to sign off for quite a while and not post. Going into a period of ripping myself to shreds. I cant believe this happened What a colossal idiot I am. I love you all. I certainly don't deserve your love. Theresa
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   shygirl
    Theresa,

    Calm down. Everyone looses their temper from time to time. It is a wise nurse who can hold her temper. You have to choose your words carefully. Think before you speak.

    My grandmother used to say..."Keep your words soft and sweet for you never know which ones from time to time you'll have to eat!"

    P.S. Maybe you snapped because of all the stuff that's been going on with your mom?
  4. by   BadBird
    Theresa,

    Remember you are only human and it is not easy when someone yells at you. Chalk it up to a life lesson and don't be so hard on yourself, no one died, no one was hurt physically. Hold your head up high, be proud of all your accomplishments , don't let this stop you. Good luck
  5. by   aus nurse
    Theresa hun, don't be so hard on yourself. So you did something in hindsight you wish you hadn't. We all do that...gawd knows I have to stop talking to change feet most days!!
    Accept you are human, along with ALL the rest of the human race....learn from the experience and take that positive with you. Ditch the negative stuff..so you lost your temper...sounds like you had provacation.
    You need to be nice to yourself...sounds like you are being harder on yourself than anyone else will be.
    Hugs:kiss
  6. by   bagladyrn
    Theresa - with all the stress you're under, I would have been biting heads off a long time ago! If your instructors are not aware of what has been going on with you please let them know - it may not excuse losing it, but it does explain.
    And you DO deserve all the love and support we can send your way - you are an awesome person.
  7. by   researchrabbit
    OH NO! NOT ANOTHER LIFE LESSON! AAAGGHH! Clinicals are terribly stressful. I almost dropped out in my last semester because my next-to-last rotation was so horrible. The instructor disliked me intensely and made it evident to everyone that she considered me a total failure. I talked to the head of the nursing school (who said "Deal with it") and then another instructor (who said "You know you're good at this. Ignore her and prove her wrong."). Eventually that rotation was over. Ugh. I cried in my car on the way home every night.

    My advice for your situation is to admit what you did wrong and apologize, right off the bat, before anyone says anything else in your meeting. Admitting, right up front, when you've done something wrong can often defuse a difficult situation.

    Plus if people know you can be trusted to admit when you are at fault, they are more likely to believe you when another incident is not your fault and you say so.

    Before you go in to your meeting, think of some things that you can do to prevent it happening again that you can offer to the powers-that-be.

    If you think it is warranted, you might prepare a letter of apology to the hospital nurses and present that as well (and maybe offer to bring treats. Chocolate donuts soothe the savage soul...).

    It is IMPORTANT at this meeting that you do not attempt to blame it on your classmate. Saying things like, "I know we are both to blame" "We did the wrong thing" "We made it uncomfortable for others on the floor" will show your maturity and might head off some of the censure you feel you will get at this meeting.

    Pay attention to your body language, too. Sit up straight, look people in the eye and don't cross your arms. If you don't look like a victim, you're less likely to be victimized.

    Remember, we have ALL done extremely stupid stuff (and continue to do extremely stupid stuff -- read the embarrassing moments posts, and those are the ones people are willing to admit to). I have "foot-in-mouth" disease myself. It's gotten better over the years but sometimes I wish I could just glue my mouth shut!

    Forgive yourself, and yes, you DO deserve love and hugs and compassion and caring!
  8. by   WashYaHands
    {{{{{Theresa}}}}}}}}. I don't know you very well, but try to remember that everyone makes mistakes. The good news is, we learn from them. Don't beat yourself up over it. Take care, this too shall pass.

    Linda
  9. by   live4today
    Theresa.......I SECOND everyone's advice to you here. ((((((hugs)))))) :kiss Relax this weekend.....do some soul searching.....forgive yourself because if you don't, why should those who wrong you forgive you? Love on yourself....ask your parents to give you their strongest hug, and move forward having learned a much needed lesson. Things DO happen for a reason......often times it's much later down the road before we see the WHY in it all, but just learn from it and move on. Apologize to yourself, the woman you were arguing with, your supervisor, the nurses on the floor, and your other classmates....AND...LET IT GO! :kiss
  10. by   duckie
    I cannot say any better what has already been said here but I do want to add, you do deserve to be loved, you are a very dear person and don't cheat us out of knowing you. We are all here to love and support each other, through good and bad. Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't you think this Indian, Dutch, Irish female has stuck her foot in her mouth and blew a few fuses too!!! Come on, come back and play with us......we miss you!
  11. by   l.rae
    Originally posted by warrior woman
    Hi guys, A classmate of mine and I got into a heated discussion in the breakroom at clinicals. No profanity or any physical stuff happened,but it was embarrassing for me,the school, and my instructor. My classmate was verbally attacking me,and instead of walking awaylike a sensible human being,I responded by yelling at her. I didn't personally attack her or anything,but my instructor was not pleased. We have to meet with the coordinator on Mon. Wish me luck. I'm so ashamed I could just die. I'm so sorry. I'm going to sign off for quite a while and not post. Going into a period of ripping myself to shreds. I cant believe this happened What a colossal idiot I am. I love you all. I certainly don't deserve your love. Theresa

    Oh Theresa, it is not as bad as it seems, l promise....sounds to me like you would make a good ER nurse.....LOL...please come back to the BB....this is the place to let it all hang out, we didn't love you because we thought you were perfect...we all care about each other in spite of our short commings.......nursing is stressful, and this will not be the only incident in your career...just learn for it and go on. We are all here for you......LR
  12. by   l.rae
    Theresa, had this real neat post bout how we don't luv ya cause we think you are perfect, we luv ya like you are.....and l lost it, by that time everybody says eloquently ...live...learn...go on....nursing is stressful, we all lose it from time to time...sounds to me like you would make a good ER nurse..LOL...we spat and kiss and make up all the time cause the environment is so tense....forgive yourself...it happens...your human...come back out and play.....luv 2 u.......LR........oops, guess l didn't lose it....just my mind......... l feel like an idiot now.....
    Last edit by l.rae on Aug 10, '02
  13. by   Nurse Ratched
    (((((((((Hugs))))))))))))) We've all been where we've said something we've regretted.

    Don't sweat it too much. I'm as much a fan as anybody of self-flagellating, but it doesn't really help the matter . Ask yourself, how will I respond to this differently in the future (because, believe me, you will always work with at least ONE moron! )

    May I suggest a phrase for future use? "I am not willing to have this discussion with you at this time." Repeat PRN (broken record technique) until the person who is attempting to attack you realizes you will not respond under the present circumstances. She can't have an argument by herself!

    I used this phrase with great effect this week. And I may well verbally tear apart the person in question at some point in the future, but at that moment it bought me the time I needed to cool down.

    And you are *not* a colossal idiot.
  14. by   Love-A-Nurse
    ((((((theresa)))))!

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