Guilt over calling in

  1. Both of my kids are sick. I admit it, I called in. Now I feel really guilty over the whole thing.
  2. 8 Comments

  3. by   TazziRN
  4. by   Roy Fokker
    Hi Southern LPN. A few things I've learned from the miniscule amount of time I've been a nurse:

    1. Staffing is management's responsibility. Not yours.

    Constantly letting management ride roughshod over staff is called enabling. If we constantly enable management to stuff us to the gills with work, the impetus for change shall never come and management will never stop and say "this isn't working. We need more nurses".

    2. The easiest way to burn out is to work too much.

    3. Family is important too. Your kids need you. Save the heroics for true emergencies - natural disasters etc.

    4. This isn't a frivolous reason. Your work mates will understand. If they don't, they don't need your respect anyway.

    Stop feeling guilty. I guarantee you, when you go to work tomorrow - the place will still be standing and there will be a full load of patients waiting for you!
  5. by   walkingrock
    Amen, Roy!

    You needed to call in, it was the correct thing to do. I don't know why we nurses tend to feel guilty for not being super-human... Anyone who's had kids expects it, from those who have children who are not grown up yet.
  6. by   CHATSDALE
    your kids will need you for the rest of your life, one week after you have moved on from this job they will hardly remember your face
    set your own priorities
  7. by   cariad
    i always feel guilty unless i am death's door, but then 5 weeks into a new job, and we need the money, got called off last night for a low census. they didnt seem to feel guilty about it.
    was told to use my earned time to get paid for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    what earned time? you know 5 weeks into the job i dont have any.
  8. by   nursemary9

    After 40 yrs doing this job, I've learned my Priorities!!
    Family is #1. They have to be.

    I know it's hard for us not to feel guilty, but try.
    After all, many of your co-workers are probably just like you & there turn will come, there kids will be sick.

    Don't beat yourself up over this; just don't make a regular thing of it.
  9. by   SouthernLPN2RN
    Thanks for the support! I really needed it! I told my grandma that they survived without me before I worked there, and they can survive without me tonight (I was extra anyway). I just wish I never felt guilty about things. I don't call in frequently, and I do my best while I'm there.
  10. by   KaroSnowQueen
    Don't feel guilty about calling into a job. It IS just a job. I have learned the hard way that jobs would not feel bad about anything they would do to inconvenience you in any way, so don't feel bad about calling in.