Good Sunday Morning 5/23/04

  1. Good morning all! It was awful quiet on this thread yesterday. I hope everyone is just busy and that you are all doing okay! We haven't heard from Russell or Walter lately at all. hmmmmmmmmmmm.........hope we aren't scaring the men off! LOL!

    For those of you that haven't been posting, there is me begging for you to check in and let us know how you are doing! Cute, aren't I? LOL!

    We had the most horrifying thing happen in our community Friday at a local McDonalds. A two year old was killed in the parking lot when someone who apparently was upset with the employees inside for not getting his order quickly enough backed over the child, three other children and the babysitter. There are others in critical condidtion as well and I would ask for your prayers for all involved, especially the family of the deceased two year old and the babysitter, who I am sure is going to suffer with guilt.

    So, for the question today, if you are a momma or daddy, are you a paranoid one? Do you really keep a close rein on your kiddos or do you let them have some freedom? If you aren't a parent, what are your thoughts on watching children? How closely do we really have to watch them? and would you blame the babysitter in this instance? From all accounts, my understanding is that there would have been no way to avoid the truck.

    I am a paranoid mamma for sure. I watch my kids like a hawk. That's why I was so upset when Trey got away from me to go for his ride around the block. I have had people, including my MIL, tell me that I am too protective. Well, they are my children and I love them more than life, so being a little overprotective is okay as far as I am concerned. Where I have a problem, is that I am unsure of where to draw the line. I want to give Trey some freedoms. He is at the age where he sould start having some additional ones, but I worry about where to give them to him. Obviously, it cannot be outside when they are playing! LOL! Piper on the other hand, tries to run at every chance she gets. She really scares me. She would run right out in the road if I didn't run and grab her. The problem with this is that sometimes, I have Bryce screaming or doing something that I have my eyes on. *sigh* Mothers should have five sets of eyes going the whole way around their heads!

    Mickie....Congrats to the boys!!! Hope you are using the aloe, sweetie!

    I spoke to soon, there's Walter!!! YEAH!!!! Have a good time fishing and please let us know if you caught anything. Your funeral sounds like it would be a hoot! LOL!

    Chris...you are my kind of guy...cleaning and birds! LOL!

    Nekhismom....I have been thinking of not only a living will, but a will will...KWIM? I don't have any plans other than what I have stated to others about what would happen to my kiddos if something happened to me. I know I have to get on this. SOON!

    Diana....the talk that you had with your kids sounds great. Even at Trey's young age, if he asks questions about things, I am very honest with him and try to help him understand as well as I can. I don't know how much he retains, but it can't hurt as long as we aren't doing it in a way that will scare him.

    Leslie...I am worried about you girl!!!! Please tell us what's up! Or PM me if you wish!

    I ended up taking the kids to the park last night with the upstairs neighbor and her kids. By the time we got home, got supper and got rinsed off in the shower, it was 9 pm and way past the kids bedtime. I sent them in and then I did dishes and scrubbed the kitchen floor on my hands and knees. I'll try to get things done earlier today! LOL!

    Today's plans are bringing up more stuff from the basement for the yard sale and getting it priced. Doing a couple loads of laundry, dusting my bedroom and the office and finally getting to this dang floor! Thanks for all the tips, BTW. I have used Murphy's and it tends to be my favorite as well. I thought someone here might have an additional suggestion, but I guess Murphy's is the winner!

    Have a good one ya'll...

    Hugs all around...
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  2. 61 Comments

  3. by   WyomingRN
    Hi Kim and all,

    Love to read this thread. It is so nice to have just a chat over the coffee cup thread. Thought it was time I added my 2 cents worth to it.

    Last week was busy around here. Our youngest is graduating from high school this evening. This morning is busy cooking for his graduation reception. Since we live 20 miles out of town, his best friends mom offered her house for the reception this afternoon. Now to get everything cooked, loaded, and into town.

    I had to do the last high school athletic event ever last week. Spent 3 days at state track meet. DS came in 2nd in shot put and 4th in discus, must brag a little. Life isn't going to seem right not having football, basketball, and track to attend next year. Will have college basketball games to attend, but will have to drive farther to go to them and won't be able to attend all of them like we did the high school ones.

    In answer to your question, I was a very lenient parent, definitely not over protective. Being a single parent, doing ranch work, going to nursing school, and working after I got my degree, my 4 kids had to be extremely self sufficient growing up. At times it seemed that my plate was overflowing.

    Living in the country helped. They had a lot of area to roam and explore. They learned at an early age to always take a shovel with them in their explorations so they could kill rattle snakes if they came across them. The only things I was really strict about was that the kids couldn't go over to the reservoir alone until they were close to the teen years, and knew how to swim.

    What a horrible thing to happen at McDonnell's. Unreal how some people get upset over the littlest thing. No I wouldn't hold the baby sitter responsible for what happened, as it probably happened so fast she didn't have time to react to the situation.

    You are always so busy Kim. Want to come clean house for me? Summer time is always so busy here, that the house is the last priority. DH has his own lawn sprinkler installation repair business. So any time that I don't have nursing contracts to work, I am helping him out, daylight to dark. Much to tired when I get in to think about doing a good house cleaning. When we get home, one of us cooks while the other one does a token pickup of the house, paper work, throwing clothes in the washer and hanging them out on the solar dryer ( clothes line) etc. Of course have to have the priority of getting on here to check things out rather than clean house. LOL

    Need to get my buns moving, start cooking and get off the computer.

    Hope everybody has a great day. Love this chatty thread.

    Pat
  4. by   Energizer Bunny
    Quote from WyomingRN
    Hi Kim and all,

    Love to read this thread. It is so nice to have just a chat over the coffee cup thread. Thought it was time I added my 2 cents worth to it.

    Last week was busy around here. Our youngest is graduating from high school this evening. This morning is busy cooking for his graduation reception. Since we live 20 miles out of town, his best friends mom offered her house for the reception this afternoon. Now to get everything cooked, loaded, and into town.

    I had to do the last high school athletic event ever last week. Spent 3 days at state track meet. DS came in 2nd in shot put and 4th in discus, must brag a little. Life isn't going to seem right not having football, basketball, and track to attend next year. Will have college basketball games to attend, but will have to drive farther to go to them and won't be able to attend all of them like we did the high school ones.

    In answer to your question, I was a very lenient parent, definitely not over protective. Being a single parent, doing ranch work, going to nursing school, and working after I got my degree, my 4 kids had to be extremely self sufficient growing up. At times it seemed that my plate was overflowing.

    Living in the country helped. They had a lot of area to roam and explore. They learned at an early age to always take a shovel with them in their explorations so they could kill rattle snakes if they came across them. The only things I was really strict about was that the kids couldn't go over to the reservoir alone until they were close to the teen years, and knew how to swim.

    What a horrible thing to happen at McDonnell's. Unreal how some people get upset over the littlest thing. No I wouldn't hold the baby sitter responsible for what happened, as it probably happened so fast she didn't have time to react to the situation.

    You are always so busy Kim. Want to come clean house for me? Summer time is always so busy here, that the house is the last priority. DH has his own lawn sprinkler installation repair business. So any time that I don't have nursing contracts to work, I am helping him out, daylight to dark. Much to tired when I get in to think about doing a good house cleaning. When we get home, one of us cooks while the other one does a token pickup of the house, paper work, throwing clothes in the washer and hanging them out on the solar dryer ( clothes line) etc. Of course have to have the priority of getting on here to check things out rather than clean house. LOL

    Need to get my buns moving, start cooking and get off the computer.

    Hope everybody has a great day. Love this chatty thread.

    Pat
    Pat, WELCOME!!! and congrats to your youngest! I can understand more leniency in parenting when you live in the country. My MIL was very lenient with her children, but they also live in the middle of nowhere. So, I get it, but she doesn't. What's funny about her is that the minute one of my kids does something, I'm not watching them closely enough, but any other time, I'm too protective! LOL! I just can't win!

    Yep, I'm always busy! I would love to clean for you! I like cleaning...it's therapeutic for me. I don't know how I am goign to adjust in the fall when I don't have the time to clean so much anymore. You can bet that in August I will be doing the most thorough cleaning of my life before school starts! LOL!

    Have a wonderful day!!! Glad you joined us!
  5. by   suzanne4
    Had a great afternnon with my students today, just to see the improvement in them in such a short time is really heart-warming...............I think that we have the best track record of any program around, and of course ours is just for Health-Care Providers.

    Went back to my favorite hotel today, right next to my office, and yes I was going there before I got the office, for a great jazz brunch. Makes the day so much brighter. The pastry chef actually made some muffins for me using the Splenda that I gave them.....Yummy...........

    And actually the most beautiful day today, bright blue skies, and very sunny.
    Just perfect, wished it could last forever...........hopefully tomorrow will be a repeat of the same.

    Flying to Penang on Tuesday evening, so I may be MIA for a few days but I promise to return...........
  6. by   Energizer Bunny
    Suzanne...I wondered if you would check in before you went to sleep tonight. If you are still around...did you see my question the other day about how you ended up in Bangkok? I'm really interested if you don't mind sharing!
  7. by   suzanne4
    Good morning..............
    I actually came over here about 18 years ago to go scuba diving, fell in love with the country, but hated BKK back then, but loved the islands and the northern area.
    Started travelling over here more frequently and frequently, preferred it over here, rather than being back in the US......
    then about two years ago someone offered me a postion of setting up a school, but it didn't work out, nothing was every actually started.
    So I set up my own and have the first school of its type in the Kingdom, actually the only one in Thailand and SE Asia, and the rest is history.
    We have the best success rate with getting our students to speak English.
    They are able to do full presentations, as well as patient teaching, in just a few weeks and feel comfortable doing it. They also watch alot of American movies after class. Some of my students acutally stay until about 10 pm every night. One of my students is actually staying at my school this weekend watching movies, as much as possible, when not in class.

    It is so nice to see the change in my students who once were quite shy around a "farang"...Thai for foreigner...............

    Hope that this explains things a little better for you...........
  8. by   Energizer Bunny
    Suzanne...I think that is just fabulous!!! Maybe I'll look you up when I am older and ready for something new and exciting (and have no kiddos in the house! LOL!).
  9. by   nurseunderwater
    good morning all.....

    man this cough just won't go away :uhoh21:, i'd be worried but the kiddos have/had it too. We've had a weekend of b-day parties, another today - woo-hoo!

    tomorrow i do a day in the pacu and then I am off to the floor for 6 shifts...i am so psyched about getting a job and what that will mean to us...i mean, i stiil haven't paid rent this month :uhoh21: - not too worried, well a little. I know that by Aug 1 we will be on track and won't be late again whew!

    am i protective? - you bet. we live in a city of 6,ooo,ooo or so people. i am watchful i would say. i let them do crazy stuff w/ bikes, skateboards etc....i am more concerned about the "other" guy....when we lived in the country in CO it was a much different story.

    what i can't stand are the folks who look at a me when i am out w/ my kids with this look of disdain because they are not all lined up in a row with hands at sides and mouths closed....arrrgh. dirty looks when i am trying like hell to check out at the grocery store don't win points w/ me.

    the other day i ran into a woman that I knew from when keir was in pre-k-
    me- cart full of groceries - baby in sling and toddler in cart -
    she....pulled my cart to the checkout - unloaded my groceries and........followed me home to help me unload.

    she's the mama of 1 and was telling me how much she hates to shop period, let alone w kids in tow.

    what a cool experience. it was so cool to be "seen" by someone else. not w/ disdain but with mercy.
  10. by   Energizer Bunny
    Kate...now that is AWESOME!!! I know how you feel about the looks of disdain. OIY! Most of them are from people that either don't have children or had them so long ago that they forgot what it is like! Have a great time today! Glad people are finally waking up and getting around here before I gotta leave (which is sooooon)!
  11. by   Energizer Bunny
    Okay, I think I've been chatting enough on here. I've been on since 6:30 am and it's about time to get to work so dusting, here I come! Yippeee!!! See ya'll later! have a great one!
  12. by   leslie :-D
    good morning all!!

    KATE- are you still there? what was that list of courses the other day? have you even looked into med school?

    protective parenting: oooooohhhhh yes. to extreme. my husband who grew up in the city was the one that had to take over in the past couple of years because i was so afraid to let any of my kids do anything independently. when the kids were smaller, i was hypervigilant and neurotic in protecting them but they didn't rebel then. as tiff and josh came to age, they started begging for some independence. and living in the city, they need to know how to take care of themselves. so i had my paxil increased and handed the reins to dad. my daughter (14 yo) is stunningly beautiful and one time some guy around my age was checking her out. the rage swelled up inside of me and i stopped my car in the middle of a 2 lane highway, ran over to him on the sidewalk and PUSHED him.....with enraged mother spewing "what are you looking at you pig!" the guy went flying to the ground and i just returned to my car and drove off. talk about adrenalin.

    kim- to answer your question; close to 25 yrs. ago i had a dtr. that was killed in a car accident; the driver was my father who was drunk (which i hadn't known at the time). 23 yrs. later, i still dread going to sleep at noc because of unbearable nightmares. lately mallory has been calling out for me when i dose off and as her mother, i can't reach her or hold her. and i just can't get to heaven this very minute. but i need to find out what's going on with her. trust me i might sound sane on this board but i'm going over the edge on this one.....i'm sure my overprotection with my children here on earth has much to do with mal.

    when's jnette coming back??????
    dianah- thank you so much for the books. i actually ended up ordering one of them the other noc. i also have this book called the ADDed dimension which was wonderful for me but tiffany didn't want to read it.

    all right guys, peace, peace and more peace.

    leslie xoxoxo
  13. by   leslie :-D
    aaaawwwwwww come on guys!!!!! i didn't mean to leave my post as a downer.....come on, what's everyone doing today????? it's very drizzly here in boston. i have the house to myself for a couple of hours and unlike some of the op's here, i'm just looking at my messy house...so far i'm sitting here just thinking about how to clean it w/o doing major exertion. has anyone heard from richard's wife? does anyone still cook sunday dinners? if so, what's cooking today????

    leslie
  14. by   leslie :-D
    oh and one more thing. how about that tweety?? tell me he's not one handsome man; such a waste of my heterosexual frustration. don't get embarassed tweety, but you are too cute. you're the man.

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