Gift for wayward niece?

  1. Last year my niece announced to her mother, my sister "I'm running away with my boyfriend and I'm pregnant."

    Lost of drama but fast forward, my sister and her have reconciled and my sister even gave her blessings to the marriage (hates her son-in-law, but he's int he military and she wants her daughter and baby to have those benefits and to hold him accountable for his child). And we have a beautiful baby in the family.

    I barely know this woman/child as she always stayed at home whenever my sister visited me. It's been about 8 years since we've seen each other. Thanks to Myspace we're going to reconnect.

    My question is: Do I give a gift for the marriage, baby? Send money? Or because it was such a quickie wedding (Las Vegas style in Dillon, SC) and a teen pregnancy in defiance do I just ignore it and not give a gift/money?
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  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   ktwlpn
    I'm glad the family has repaired their rift especially for the sake of the child.Emotions really tend to bold over during that kind of crisis and people really say hurtful things that they can regret for the rest of their lives.Since you are planning on reconnecting with your niece and becoming part of the babes life why not a gift for the babe? Some kind of keepsake? But feel free to ignore my advice (see "wedding gift shame" thread)
  4. by   leslie :-D
    i never cared if family didn't acknowledge special dates for me.
    but i always, always appreciated gifts for my kids.
    i second the notion.
    gift for your niece...
    eddie's family always gave savings bonds.
    my side always gave personal gifts.
    i think it's just a matter of personal preference.
    tweety, good for you and your sister.
    i'm happy for you.

    leslie
  5. by   donsterRN
    Quote from earle58
    i never cared if family didn't acknowledge special dates for me.
    but i always, always appreciated gifts for my kids.
    i second the notion.
    gift for your niece...
    eddie's family always gave savings bonds.
    my side always gave personal gifts.
    i think it's just a matter of personal preference.
    tweety, good for you and your sister.
    i'm happy for you.

    leslie
    :yeahthat:
  6. by   donsterRN
    tweety's back...!!!




    and all is back to normal at long last......
  7. by   traumaRUs
    Tweety - what a kind and thoughtful gesture. I would give a gift to the child. I think a personal toy and perhaps a picture album of your side of the family? So that the child will have a sense of belonging right from the start?

    You are so kind.
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    I agree - a gift for the child. I like the idea of some sort of family keepsake along with a toy or clothing.

    My kid's grandparents made them "memory books" with stories about how they met, what their parents were like, how they felt when my kids were born, etc., with lots of old photos.

    Maybe you could start a memory book for everyone to contribute to - and write a special message to this little child who has such a wonderful uncle.

    steph
  9. by   jnette
    Quote from traumaRUs
    Tweety - what a kind and thoughtful gesture. I would give a gift to the child. I think a personal toy and perhaps a picture album of your side of the family? So that the child will have a sense of belonging right from the start?

    You are so kind.
    Great idea. I agree with the others, Tweety. A gift to the child would certainly be appropriate. Something personal.. a dated, engraved piggy bank from Uncle Tweety with a savings bond tucked in it.. or whatever.
    Like the idea of a photo album. As for your niece, sure... ask her what she needs in her new household... what she could use most, and go from there.

    PPL make mistakes. But haven't we all? No need to hold it over her head. A gift would be nice. Glad you're reconciling.
  10. by   VivaLasViejas
    I can't really add anything to this, except I think the memory book idea is a wonderful one! For now, though, I would definitely send a gift the baby can use now, and a card congratulating the new couple on their marriage.
  11. by   Tweety
    Thanks for the suggestions! I appreciate the input!
  12. by   NursesRmofun
    Sounds sort of simple, but I would say do what your gut tells you. If you want to...do....If you don't want to...don't. Congrats on your impending great unclehood. haha.
  13. by   DDRN4me
    Tweety.. another nice gift is a gc for photos at sears or a photo place... a little extra that most young parents dont have the $ for.. or a babies r us gc ..can buy both essentials like diapers and extras t here as well. A card or gc for a meal out is a nice gift for the couple too..something they may not always get to do. Congrats on being such a great guy!!
  14. by   rninme
    Tweety....agree with the other posters....definately send a gift!! Glad you and your niece are reconnecting....family is important. I would send a gift to the new baby and to the new parents.....as to what those gifts are....give something from your heart.

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