gasp!!! a girl!!!!

  1. Today I was at a womens' wellness expo when my cell phone was my 14 yr old son.......asking if he could go to a movie. With a girl! EEK! Did I let him? Yes. They took her sister and the sister's friend so it is not just the 2 of them. I have to go pick them up now.

    This is a FIRST for him. omigosh. A first for this mom!!!! LOL!
  2. 18 Comments

  3. by   night owl
    I have a 14 y/o daughter and I know what you're going thru believe me! I found one of her notes ..."He's hot"... OMG! They're growing up Mom. I just took mine and her girlfriend to the roller rink where she will skate her little heart... out I hope! Will pick her up at 10:30 and find out. God forbid you stayed there, you'd embarrass them to death!!!
  4. by   Mkue
    Hope they all had a good time !
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    i would let them go in a group. it can be GREAT fun in a mix. not on a one-on-one date, nope not at 14. but that is just me.
  6. by   BadBird
    It is so hard for our kiddos to grow up, of course when we were that we were so more mature !!!! Relax Mom, of course you could buy a movie ticket and sit in the back of the theatre, LOL.
  7. by   sphinx
    I geuss it went ok. Boy were these girls giggly! Whew! My son seemed a wee bit overwhelmed afterword, lol! But he said they had a good time, I'm glad, It was definately a trip, though. My son. With girls. Go figure.
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    "i would let them go in a group. it can be GREAT fun in a mix. not on a one-on-one date, nope not at 14. but that is just me."


    Yep, my thoughts exactly. I read somewhere that there was research that supported not letting kids one on one date until 17 or 18 because it lowered the chance for early sexual activity.

    I work with youth and I cannot believe the stuff that 6th, 7th and 8th graders have already done.

    So scary and sad that kids just can't have a real childhood but have to be bombarded with all the temptations.

    The girls are worse than the boys in some respects . . . . or maybe they have just caught up. They have web cams in their rooms and do strip teases for boys online. (Read some advice to NEVER let your kids have a computer in their room where you cannot supervise who they are talking to . .this goes for predators too).

    So dang scary having teenagers. My daughter will be 14 in August and has always been a "tomboy" of sorts . . riding horses, playing softball. But I've noticed stuff lately that causes me concern.

    Have to continue to make her realize that she is valuable and not to give herself away.

    sigh . . .

  9. by   sphinx
    Oh I agree about no computers in the rooms. No tv eithers, and mean old mom I am, no phones either. And no private phone line and no cell phone or pager. I managed just fine without any of the above. As a matter of fact, I was more "wild" than I'd prefer my kids to be, and I really think I was tame even for the time, and esp so for now! It's true, it is apalling the things I've read that young people do now!

    I am just happy my son had a good time, in a public place, with a small group. And I'm sure it was an eye opening experience hanging out with a bunch a girl and her girlfriends! LOL! They were very silly and giggly and hyper..... Really brought me back!
  10. by   Spidey's mom
    You are awesome sphinx . . . my house rules too. No tv or phones in their bedrooms. It seems to increase a feeling of isolation . . no one interacts.

    Girls that age are so silly and giggly . . my daughter and one of her friends just walked in acting silly and giggly after seeing a movie together.

    One nice thing about living here is the movie theatre is just down the street . . we live in the middle of nowhere but have a little town with a theatre and three restaurants within walking distance. I can keep a pretty good eye on things without embarrassing them too much.

  11. by   night owl
    So I pick up my daughter and her girlfriends. I'm sitting there in my car and my daughter yells out as she's walking out the front door, "Hey mom look!" And there's one of them kissing some boy good bye. "Oh please don't tell my mom, she'll kill me!" I think they were so glad they were home because I gave her the third degree all the way. "How do you know where he's been?" Does your mom know you have this boyfriend? "You're too young for this kinda of stuff." The place is chaparoned by parents of which one of them I know and they don't allow any "making out" of any kind.... Next Saturday night we're going to church!
  12. by   H ynnoD
    My daughter is only Ten,My son is 8.I'm alittle scared and hope I have instilled good values into my Kids when they start Dating.
  13. by   passing thru
    Spinx, one of the things he probably learned from his group movie date is something most adult males know..................

    don't approach a group of females.....don't approach more than one ............2 or more together can make life miserable for a guy....... they tend to communicate in their own "language" and part of that language is the giggling.....
    and the object of their joking is usually the clueless male...
  14. by   jnette
    You guys enjoy these years... some of my fondest memories are of my daughter and her friends at the 12-14 year age. While it is a whole lot of giggles and silliness, they are also dead serious about finding out about themselves, their bodies, and what makes them tick... very important time in their lives emotionally. And painful, too, for us Moms as we watch them distance themselves, but it is necessary.

    Time to start letting go, Mom ! Be available to them at all times, without pushing yourself onto them or into their privacy... just be open to them and available.