Wow Lori - you win for most frazzled.
I just had what could have escalated into a huge fight with my daughter, who is 15. She wants to spend Friday and Saturday with a friend who lives 70 miles away. Friend is same friend who charged $1000 of phone calls on our phone card and never said I'm sorry or attempted to pay back. Friend has mom who is trying very hard to pull herself up out of a bad situation but still has zero driving skills (I've seen her drive) and a 17 year old daughter who is certifiably nuts . . . throwing tv's, breaking dishes, punching holes in walls, hitting sister with a broom handle, goes into these bizarre fits. Sis is not living with mom at this time but over the weekend was served notice to leave her apt due to drugs so she could very well show up. She is a foul-mouthed drug addict who has been in juvenile hall numerous times.
Ok so . . . I told dd that I would be glad to drive her to friend's town on Saturday but she can't drive down with the mom or stay the night. I don't trust the mom's judgment.
DD started crying "you don't like her because they don't have money, you hate them, you hate my friend, etc., as she ran to her room". I calmly followed her, took her cell phone, told her she was grounded and left the room.
This same friend was stranded up here over the weekend and I let her stay at our house and gave her a ride yesterday part-way home and was going to take her all the way home but another ride materialized.
So, I'll join you in that little drink . . all I've got is merlot but it will do.
Good luck Lori.