Frazzled

  1. What a night!! Dog has suddenly gone insane, for the last 4 hours has been desperatly trying to get the hall closet open, will not lay down, panting. I could not find a thing wrong with her and the other dog was just fine. In frustration, I sent her out in the yard. She barks, I let her in, then she acts all crazy again. Dog out. Dog Barks. Let Dog In. Dog has been digging in mud....tracks mud all over my nice (formerly) beige carpet. Yell at Dog, clean paws and carpet. Dog freaks out again! 4 year old comes to me in tears because "Mango" (her stuffed animal that she loves more than anything in the world) has mud all over him. Take crying 4 yo and Mango to basement laundry room. Realize that smoke detector in basement is beeping periodically because battery needs changed. Decide this must be what is flipping Dog #1 out. Mango goes in washer. 4yo asks what smoke detector is for, explain it is to warn us if there is a fire. Now, much loved daughter asks what we do. Thinking this is a good time to go into the "just leave and meet in the backyard" speech, I go into full out Mommy mode. 4yo says, "We take Mango too, right?" I explain that when the alarm goes off, she needs to leave, even if that means leaving Mango. Now ensues the crying, freak out #3 for the night. Settle 4yo down and stress we cannot go after Mango if there is a fire. Promise if it happens we will get a new Mango, which of course, makes things worse. Come back upstairs, dogs want out. Let dogs out, go to bathroom for 5 minutes of peace. 4 yo lets dogs back in. Come out of bathroom to muddy paw prints on carpet again. Sent daughter to bed, put dogs in garage, cleaned floor, got a nice stiff drink and sat down to pc.

    Just WAIT til husband gets home tonight!! :chuckle
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  2. 10 Comments

  3. by   lil' girl
    Whew Lori!!!! I say you need that drink!!
  4. by   Spidey's mom
    Wow Lori - you win for most frazzled.

    I just had what could have escalated into a huge fight with my daughter, who is 15. She wants to spend Friday and Saturday with a friend who lives 70 miles away. Friend is same friend who charged $1000 of phone calls on our phone card and never said I'm sorry or attempted to pay back. Friend has mom who is trying very hard to pull herself up out of a bad situation but still has zero driving skills (I've seen her drive) and a 17 year old daughter who is certifiably nuts . . . throwing tv's, breaking dishes, punching holes in walls, hitting sister with a broom handle, goes into these bizarre fits. Sis is not living with mom at this time but over the weekend was served notice to leave her apt due to drugs so she could very well show up. She is a foul-mouthed drug addict who has been in juvenile hall numerous times.

    Ok so . . . I told dd that I would be glad to drive her to friend's town on Saturday but she can't drive down with the mom or stay the night. I don't trust the mom's judgment.

    DD started crying "you don't like her because they don't have money, you hate them, you hate my friend, etc., as she ran to her room". I calmly followed her, took her cell phone, told her she was grounded and left the room.

    This same friend was stranded up here over the weekend and I let her stay at our house and gave her a ride yesterday part-way home and was going to take her all the way home but another ride materialized.

    So, I'll join you in that little drink . . all I've got is merlot but it will do.

    Good luck Lori.

    steph
  5. by   WickedRedRN
    Wow Steph, bring the merlot, I've got the glasses and having a nice glass of White Zin, we can just sit back and relax!

    I don't envy you a bit, I know the teen years are coming and they are not pretty. Someday your daughter will understand, but I know today she probably cannot see past her reasoning. My youngest sister did the same things to mom, and my older sisters 14 yo is going through that stage now too. Her friend is in a bad home, so my sis is vigilant about limiting her daughters time at the friends house, however my niece does not see it like that, she turns it into a "look how snobby we all are" thing.

    Is it legal to make them hibernate through the teen years??
  6. by   leslie :-D
    lori,

    what's making your dog go nuts?
    the mud thing would send me over the edge; i freak when my kids come in with just snow on their shoes.

    tonight my 15 yo dd has 2 friends sleeping over. they were getting rather loud so i politely asked dd to keep the noise down.
    she politely asked me "why are you being so psycho?"

    i then politely asked the girls to get their stuff to drive them home.

    dd then immediately apologized and said "i'm sorry mom...you're not acting psycho tonight at all"

    wasn't too sure on how to take that but did give her one more chance even though apparenty she saw nothing wrong with calling her mother psycho.

    i SHOULD show her what psycho is but i'm still recuperating from last noc's psychosis.
  7. by   akcarmean
    did the dogs settle down after you changed the batteries ??

    After all my 1 1/2 yr old tantrums today I could use a drink but I just settled for dh to take him upstairs. I am just waiting for medicine to kick in so I can go to sleep.

    Leslie, I am reading these stories and thinking oh this is not to far off for me. I can just imagine what mine will be like they both have ADHD, depression, learning disabilities, right now at times their ADHD is enough to drive me nuts.


    Well I am going to look a little more and go lay down then maybe I will get sleepier that way.


    Angie
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from earle58
    lori,

    what's making your dog go nuts?
    the mud thing would send me over the edge; i freak when my kids come in with just snow on their shoes.

    tonight my 15 yo dd has 2 friends sleeping over. they were getting rather loud so i politely asked dd to keep the noise down.
    she politely asked me "why are you being so psycho?"

    i then politely asked the girls to get their stuff to drive them home.

    dd then immediately apologized and said "i'm sorry mom...you're not acting psycho tonight at all"

    wasn't too sure on how to take that but did give her one more chance even though apparenty she saw nothing wrong with calling her mother psycho.

    i SHOULD show her what psycho is but i'm still recuperating from last noc's psychosis.

    What is the problem with our daughters??? Mine came downstairs to talk and ended up saying her friends are afraid of me, that I always have a mean look on my face, that I'm bitter . . . . wth??

    Sheesh, next time her friend is stranded without a ride 70 miles from home I guess I'll just shrug, make a mean face and say I'm too bitter to let her spend the night at my house.

    Trying to be logical with a teenage girl is next to impossible. Maybe we should cut our husbands/boyfriends some slack . .. did we ever act like this???

    More wine please . ..

    steph
  9. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from stevielynn
    Maybe we should cut our husbands/boyfriends some slack . .. did we ever act like this???

    More wine please . ..

    steph
    is zinfandel ok?

    i don't understand what our dh/s have to do w/this? why cut them slack?
    WHY STEPH, WHY???

    speaking for myself, i definitely acted 1000 times worse than tiffany- no one could handle me. phew, i wouldn't wish me on my worst enemy. i told her that when she's grown w/children, i'll share my teenage yrs with her.
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    how are t hings today? I hope better.
  11. by   DDRN4me
    steph, leslie, angie...i promise they do eventualy grow up somewhat!!! There are still times mine drive me nuts, but at least now they are able to see my point of view...my younger one, who was a wild one at 14, now gets aggravated at her friends for being "stuck in adolescense") (she's all of 20!). They both still have their days, esp the 22 yo who i am convinced has ODD! but they have realized that the "mean mom" was there for a reason! Enjoy your drink, you deserve it!!!Mary
  12. by   maire
    I'm afraid. I have one on the verge of "teenagerhood" and one that will follow her into it a year after that. I think of how I was when I was that age and I cringe.

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