For those who are struggling...

  1. and it appears many here have had their share of trials and tribulations these past few months...

    this was sent to me in an email and i found it quite profound. allow me to share now with you who are in need of comfort and support. (((hugs)))

    it's a tad long, but well worth the read.


    carrots, eggs and a cup of coffee


    carrots, eggs and a cup of coffee... you will
    never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

    a young woman went to her mother and told her about
    her life and how things were so hard for her. she did
    not know how she was going to make it and wanted to
    give up. she was tired of fighting and struggling. it
    seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

    her mother took her to the kitchen. she filled three
    pots with water and placed each on a high fire. soon
    the pots came to boil. in the first she placed
    carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the
    last she placed ground coffee beans. she let them sit
    and boil, without saying a word.

    in about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.
    she fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.
    she pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
    then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a
    bowl.

    turning to her daughter, she asked, "tell me, what do
    you see?"

    "carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. her mother
    brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.
    she did and noted that they were soft. the mother
    then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it.
    after pulling off the shell, she observed the hard
    boiled egg. finally, the mother asked the daughter to
    sip the coffee. the daughter smiled as she tasted its
    rich aroma. the daughter then asked, "what does it
    mean, mother?"

    her mother explained that each of these objects had
    faced the same adversity ... boiling water. each
    reacted differently. the carrot went in strong, hard,
    and unrelenting. however, after being subjected to
    the boiling water, it softened and became weak. the
    egg had been fragile. its thin outer shell had
    protected its liquid interior, but after sitting
    through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
    the ground coffee beans were unique, however. after
    they were in the boiling water, they had changed the
    after.

    "which are you?" she asked her daughter. "when
    adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?
    are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

    think of this: which am i? am i the carrot that seems
    strong, but with pain and adversity do i wilt and
    become soft and lose my strength? am i the egg that
    starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
    heat? did i have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a
    breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial,
    have i become hardened and stiff? does my
    shell look the same, but on the inside am i bitter and
    tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

    or am i like the coffee bean? the bean actually
    changes the hot water, the very circumstance that
    brings the pain. when the water gets hot, it releases
    the fragrance and flavor. if you are like the bean,
    when things are at their worst, you get better and
    change the situation around you. when the hour is the
    darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate
    yourself to another level? how do you handle
    adversity? are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

    may you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
    enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to
    keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

    the happiest of people don't necessarily have the
    best of everything; they just make the most of
    everything that comes along their way. the brightest
    future will always be based on a forgotten past; you
    can't go forward in life until you let go of your past
    failures and heartaches.

    when you were born, you were crying and everyone
    around you was smiling. live your life so at the end,
    you're the one who is smiling and everyone
    around you is crying.

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  2. 11 Comments

  3. by   CarpeDiem2004
    Thank's for that jnette. I think I'll print it out and put it on my fridge where I can see it every day. It really puts things in perspective for me.
  4. by   live4today
    Quote from carpediem2004
    thank's for that jnette. i think i'll print it out and put it on my fridge where i can see it every day. it really puts things in perspective for me.
    me too, carpediem2004. i've been so down in the dumps having "woe is me" pity parties because i haven't felt like a woman in a year, been on a date in a year, or felt much like living in a year. reading this story made me feel more like that egg. at the beginning of 2004, i started out feeling like the carrot, then soft and weak after the carrot was boiled. now that the holidays are here, i've been feeling a lot like that boiled egg.

    i'm going to now work on becoming like the coffee.

    thanks jnette for posting that! i needed that more than you'll know! :kiss
  5. by   FranEMTnurse
    Quote from jnette
    and it appears many here have had their share of trials and tribulations these past few months...

    this was sent to me in an email and i found it quite profound. allow me to share now with you who are in need of comfort and support. (((hugs)))

    it's a tad long, but well worth the read.


    carrots, eggs and a cup of coffee


    carrots, eggs and a cup of coffee... you will
    never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

    a young woman went to her mother and told her about
    her life and how things were so hard for her. she did
    not know how she was going to make it and wanted to
    give up. she was tired of fighting and struggling. it
    seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

    her mother took her to the kitchen. she filled three
    pots with water and placed each on a high fire. soon
    the pots came to boil. in the first she placed
    carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the
    last she placed ground coffee beans. she let them sit
    and boil, without saying a word.

    in about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.
    she fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.
    she pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
    then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a
    bowl.

    turning to her daughter, she asked, "tell me, what do
    you see?"

    "carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. her mother
    brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.
    she did and noted that they were soft. the mother
    then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it.
    after pulling off the shell, she observed the hard
    boiled egg. finally, the mother asked the daughter to
    sip the coffee. the daughter smiled as she tasted its
    rich aroma. the daughter then asked, "what does it
    mean, mother?"

    her mother explained that each of these objects had
    faced the same adversity ... boiling water. each
    reacted differently. the carrot went in strong, hard,
    and unrelenting. however, after being subjected to
    the boiling water, it softened and became weak. the
    egg had been fragile. its thin outer shell had
    protected its liquid interior, but after sitting
    through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
    the ground coffee beans were unique, however. after
    they were in the boiling water, they had changed the
    after.

    "which are you?" she asked her daughter. "when
    adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?
    are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

    think of this: which am i? am i the carrot that seems
    strong, but with pain and adversity do i wilt and
    become soft and lose my strength? am i the egg that
    starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
    heat? did i have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a
    breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial,
    have i become hardened and stiff? does my
    shell look the same, but on the inside am i bitter and
    tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

    or am i like the coffee bean? the bean actually
    changes the hot water, the very circumstance that
    brings the pain. when the water gets hot, it releases
    the fragrance and flavor. if you are like the bean,
    when things are at their worst, you get better and
    change the situation around you. when the hour is the
    darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate
    yourself to another level? how do you handle
    adversity? are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

    may you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
    enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to
    keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

    the happiest of people don't necessarily have the
    best of everything; they just make the most of
    everything that comes along their way. the brightest
    future will always be based on a forgotten past; you
    can't go forward in life until you let go of your past
    failures and heartaches.

    when you were born, you were crying and everyone
    around you was smiling. live your life so at the end,
    you're the one who is smiling and everyone
    around you is crying.
    definitely, girlfriend. i have always believed iin being the coffee. when posting, the recipients of my messages have no idea how i'm feeling. sometimes i get on the computer and reach out to others as a diversopm from the aches, pains, and illness this body is composed of. it isn't my spirit, and i aim to run with that as fast as i can as long as i'm alive, an able to get on this computer. god bless you, my sweet friend. i love you.:kiss
  6. by   Bjo
    Excellent concept. It certainly put things more in perspective for me, as I have been feeling down lately.
    Thank you.
  7. by   Katnip
    Yep, being the coffee is the only way to go. No matter how hard it is to get there.
  8. by   SarasotaRN2b
    Wow! I didn't realize how much I was like a carrot...I better change and work on being the coffee bean!
  9. by   FZ1Tom
    Well, seeing as I don't drink coffee (eeeewwwwwww, yuk) , can I be tea leaves instead?

    Tom
  10. by   talaxandra
    Jnette, like Tom I don't drink coffee but I like this so much I've changed my sig!
    Last edit by talaxandra on Dec 20, '04 : Reason: Didn't tick 'show your sig' - oops!
  11. by   jnette
    Quote from talaxandra
    Jnette, like Tom I don't drink coffee but I like this so much I've changed my sig!
    Glad you enjoyed. I thought it was quite true, myself.

    So... where's the new sig?
  12. by   prmenrs
    Nice one, Jnette!
  13. by   mattsmom81
    Thanks Jnette. I like the analogy of how the coffee bean assimilates and becomes one with its environment...and becomes better.

    Sometimes we go through bad times and just want to 'blot them out'...but they do become part of who we are regardless...one way or another.

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