Fellow Nurse with a no moral compass

  1. Hello,

    I have never done this but I figured this is where I could get the best advice. My best friend who is a RN is cheating on her husband for the last 3 months. He is retired military and works at a prestigious place for 9 years. She has had 9 different jobs in that time span. All nursing. Her last job she was let go for giving an inmate food. Little did I know she fell in love with the inmate and was doing more than just giving him food. She also brought in meth and heroine. I have tried talking to her but it Does no good. She has trafficked the drugs in front of her children. She claims she isnt doing it anymore but has a burn phone to talk to her boy toy. She is also goes to nj8rse practitioner school where i am an alumni too. question is that since I am a nurse, what should I Do?
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  2. 71 Comments

  3. by   traumaRUs
    Gosh - I would just dissociate myself from her. Eventually she will be caught - why get caught up in this drama?
  4. by   macawake
    Quote from kpondelicek
    Hello,

    I have never done this but I figured this is where I could get the best advice. My best friend who is a RN is cheating on her husband for the last 3 months.
    I don't think you should do anything at all about this. What happens in a marriage is for the involved parties to sort out. I keep my nose out of other couple's relationships on principle, they're none of my business.

    Quote from kpondelicek
    Her last job she was let go for giving an inmate food. Little did I know she fell in love with the inmate and was doing more than just giving him food. She also brought in meth and heroine.
    This was something her employer should have dealt with. Apart from letting her go, I would assume they would have informed the appropriate licensing body about this and perhaps also made a report to the police. I'm not from the U.S. so I don't know how situations like these are routinely handled, but either way I would think that the responsibility to act belongs to the employer that found out about what she did. That's just my opinion.

    Quote from kpondelicek
    She has trafficked the drugs in front of her children.
    How do you know this has happened? Has she actually trafficked drugs in front of her children and you? If not, it's hearsay/gossip and I would personally stay out of that one as well.

    Now all you have to decide is if you wish to keep her as a friend. That needs to be your decision.

    Best wishes!
  5. by   OCNRN63
    Why is she your best friend?
  6. by   Sour Lemon
    Why does a google search of your screen name bring up controlling vampire urges, erotic creative writing submissions, etc.? Coincidence?
  7. by   jennylee321
    I recommend you stay out of it and find a new best friend. Separate yourself from the bad seed ASAP
  8. by   SpankedInPittsburgh
    You should do nothing. If you find her actions immoral get a new friend. Besides that mind your business
  9. by   Davey Do
    Quote from OCNRN63
    Why is she your best friend?
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  10. by   Julius Seizure
    What should you do as a nurse? Irrelevant.

    What should you do as a "best friend" and perhaps as a responsible adult who knows that she is putting her children in those kind of situations?
  11. by   SobreRN
    Quote from kpondelicek
    Hello,

    I have never done this but I figured this is where I could get the best advice. My best friend who is a RN is cheating on her husband for the last 3 months. He is retired military and works at a prestigious place for 9 years. She has had 9 different jobs in that time span. All nursing. Her last job she was let go for giving an inmate food. Little did I know she fell in love with the inmate and was doing more than just giving him food. She also brought in meth and heroine. I have tried talking to her but it Does no good. She has trafficked the drugs in front of her children. She claims she isnt doing it anymore but has a burn phone to talk to her boy toy. She is also goes to nj8rse practitioner school where i am an alumni too. question is that since I am a nurse, what should I Do?
    My God, you nailed it when you said she has no moral compass. I have had inmates attempt to manipulate the hell out of pill call just to get a cracker and I tell them if it is not ordered they are not getting it. Tough situation, I would not get involved in the romantic side of her life if I were in your situation but I would say something about the meth and heroin if you know this for a fact. Is she still working in corrections? I hope not!
  12. by   SobreRN
    As noted by others why in the world is this your best friend? How would you know what, if anything, she takes into jail or does in front of the kids? If you are in a place where drugs are sold and that place gets busted you are going down with her so I hope the friendship is worth it!
    I find it surprisingly easy to have friends who do not traffic in meth and heroin...
  13. by   NurseCard
    Quote from Davey Do
    troll-p-post-
    Reminds me of a quote from my favorite comedian (RIP ), Tim Wilson:

    "Lizzie Borden! She brutally murdered both of her parents in cold blood,
    with an axe... but she seemed like a pretty good girl!!!"
  14. by   Bwfc07
    I would report her to nmc if in UK or your nursing council in what ever country u are in she should be disbarred from practice not a professional nurses practice dealing in drugs and having an affair with an inmate

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