Fellow Nurse with a no moral compass - page 3

Hello, I have never done this but I figured this is where I could get the best advice. My best friend who is a RN is cheating on her husband for the last 3 months. He is retired military and works... Read More

  1. by   Julius Seizure
    Quote from hoochiemama1
    Rat her out. Use proof if you have it. If you dont, do it annonymously. At the very least it may make her think of her potential loses. I would also certainly report this to the State board of registry. Proof or not. It will be on file as a reference. You could also inv.olve a mentor to help with an intervention. Its a sad shame. Your FIRST responsibility is to the safety of her patients. How good a friend can she be if she treats her own husband and children with that little respect. Watch your back, sister (or brother)
    Would you like someone to "rat you out" if they didn't actually have any proof or firsthand knowledge of the fact? What it its not true and they were wrong? Too bad. Your career will never be the same.
  2. by   SpankedInPittsburgh
    "Rat" is the correct word for making allegations without proof. It's what a sewer-dwelling cheese eater would do.
  3. by   Davey Do
    Quote from SpankedInPittsburgh
    "Rat" is the correct word for making allegations without proof. It's what a sewer-dwelling cheese eater would do.
    C'mon now, Spanked- we're talking nurses, not lawyers!

    Disclaimer: I personally have nothing against lawyers. For real! Some of my best friends use lawyers.
  4. by   GaryRay
    Sorry poor terminology,
    'Misprision of felony' ... The federal definition of misprision requires that, "(1) the principal committed and completed the felony alleged; (2) the defendant had knowledge of the fact; (3) the defendant failed to notify the authorities; and (4) the defendant took affirmative steps to conceal the crime of the principal."

    It'll still be your ass if she gets busted and any proof you know about it surfaces... like this message board for instance.

    My sister did 3 years in federal prison for a similar scenario, any indictment would still be board reportable. If it were me, I would consider my need to maintain a license and career over her need to play bad girl. If you can get her into treatment to help her and save her license do it. But "minding your own business" puts you both (and her patients) at risk.
  5. by   Oldmahubbard
    This would make a decent plot for a movie, but it's probably already been done.
  6. by   SpankedInPittsburgh
    Doing nothing is not an affirmative step. Further we are back to 1st hand knowledge, Did she watch her friend fornicate with the inmate (sex is still not a crime)? Did she watch her friend sell or smuggle drugs? What "affirmative steps" did she take? Did she lie (silence is not a lie). Did she distract a guard of help with trafficking the drugs? It sounds like she suspects these things but she doesn't know them. Has this nurse been Impaired at work? What exactly is she going to report and to who? Idle talk is just that it proves nothing. I'm not even sure I believe this person.

    Say I reported another Nurse for all of these suspicions without proof. Is she supposed to "prove" her innocence? Say you or I were accused of selling drugs or having sex with somebody besides our spouse how do we prove that we didn't? I don't beat my dog or girlfriend but I can't prove that I don't. Empty allegations are what witch-hunts are made of. If all these things happened and she felt so strongly about why didn't she report it at the time? I don't know when it looks and smells like BS its usually BS
  7. by   wondern
    Wow, you also just happen to point out your best friend's husband's 'prestigious job' while you tear her down mercilessly including her 9 year job history in public.

    It sounds as if you're attempting to create a legal case against your supposed 'best friend' online.

    Just wondering are you his 'best friend' too?
  8. by   KelRN215
    Quote from wondern
    Wow, you also just happen to point out your best friend's husband's 'prestigious job' while you tear her down mercilessly including her 9 year job history in public.

    It sounds as if you're attempting to create a legal case against your supposed 'best friend' online.

    Just wondering are you his 'best friend' too?
    I don't see the relevance to the length of the husband's employment, the prestige of his job or the affair either. I'm sure plenty a nurse (and MD) has had an extra-marital affair in his/her day.

    OP, if your best friend was fired for trafficking heroin and/or meth into a prison, presumably her employer would have reported her to the BON when she was fired.
  9. by   DnCali
    Just mind your own business and keep her at very far distance.
  10. by   GermanCookie
    I personally would not continue a phoney relationship at this point. It sounds like some of these behaviors are deal breakers for you. So the question is, do you maintain your relationship as-is, end your relationship or Linda Tripp it?
  11. by   Scorchednurse
    Quote from Sour Lemon
    Why does a google search of your screen name bring up controlling vampire urges, erotic creative writing submissions, etc.? Coincidence?
    Wow...thanks for sharing. This was beyond odd and didn't look right from the get go. Just sounded disjointed and weird right out the gate!
  12. by   Ruby Vee
    Can't imagine why this person is your "best friend." If all of this is true. I think it's rather more likely that since most schools are on winter break, someone is left with nothing much to do.
  13. by   Mudpinesredneck
    Option #1

    Anonymous tip to local PD or nursing board

    If you want your identity to be hidden, go to a [busy] coffee shop a county or two over from you

    Then make the complaint. Tor Browser + TAILS, Kali, Whonix etc if you want anonymity

    Sounds hard, I assure you, it's as easy as doing a 12 lead.

    Tails - Privacy for anyone anywhere


    Option #2

    Payphone in a rural area. Have a friend make the tip using a transcript?

    Option #3

    Do nothing and have a patient at risk. Maybe I've just heard the terms "narcan" and "heroin" in the same sentence too many times.

    What are the legal ramifications if a patient dies, and you knew about the activities?


    My rationale behind #1 and 2 is that if she's getting into this kind of stuff, you don't know what she's willing to do to protect herself, or her lover from time/more time.

    Sorry, know a few people that got out of the drug business. They're clean for 20+ years now. The stories seem to be very engrained in their minds.

    Just saying. Be the better person in it. If your heart breaks over this happening now, I can only imagine your pain when manure REALLY hits the impellor
    Last edit by Mudpinesredneck on Dec 27, '17

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