Feeling Mean????

  1. Help! Come on fellow posters, what do you do when you feel mean, really mean? Do you pick a fight with BF or spouse? Do you get mouthy with friends or other family members? I just realized I was in a mean mood this afternoon, no special reason, I just am. I was wondering if any of you ever get this way and how you cope with it. I pray, but .....

    Thanks for the input, maybe we can save a lot of shouting this PM.
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  2. 11 Comments

  3. by   jnette
    Woooooot !!!

    Yes.. I occasionally find that for some UNKNOWN reason, I have a really grouchy or mean streak, and that I can't pinpoint where it's coming from.

    Later I find it has been some stress/frustration that has piled up, gone unconfronted, and not been released.

    Then I get silly. I find that allowing yourself to get really silly with a good friend.. the kind of literally ROLFL silly is the best release for this, and the mean streak just vanishes with teh laughter !
  4. by   dbsn00
    I can be REAL nasty when I'm in a bad mood. Past experience has shown me it's better to take the long way home & chill in the car, or let the hubby know not to mess with me. If I'm cranky for no apparent reason (& I think we all get that way ) I just try to bite my tongue because I'm aware of how sarcastic/mean I can be, it's not worth the the way I feel after I've snapped at someone. Of course this does not work all the time... :chuckle
    Try taking a walk (they say exercise is great for relieving tension & anger - I do marathon crunches & usually feel less tense after) or if possible some alone time or call a friend who can make you laugh no matter what kind of crap you're going through...good luck!
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I wall myself off and spend time alone. I try HARD not to be around others when I feel mean and my family is smart. They know when "mom is feeling mean" and know to leave me alone.
  6. by   Spidey's mom
    I leave the house and exercise.

    steph
  7. by   jnette
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    I wall myself off and spend time alone. I try HARD not to be around others when I feel mean and my family is smart. They know when "mom is feeling mean" and know to leave me alone.
    Yep... if no friends around to lighten the mood, no one to be silly with.. I "close myself off" to those around me, lest I offend them or be hateful toward them.

    Getting out and away if possible, like Steph said, is certainly another option. A good,long, brisk walk helps clear the head and heart.
  8. by   karenG
    oh yes......... I know what you mean!! sometimes I am in a bad mood... way past mean is how my son describes me!! I either make a big mug of tea and retreat mumbling to myself.. or if its monday.. go fencing and dig out a sabre!! the lads at fencing then get worried!!! but if youre feeling mean... nothing beats a good fight with a sabre (even if I do lose most of the time!)

    Karen
  9. by   Tweety
    With me it's never an unknown reason. I just have to dig deep enough to find it.

    It's usually manifested in some sort of self-destructive behavior like eating a bag of cheetos, followed by a candy bar, followed by dinner, followed by....LOL Or it's manisfested by me getting snippy with people.

    It's usually after the behavior that I realize somethings up. I don't suddenly feel mean and then act on it.
  10. by   Tweety
    With me it's never an unknown reason. I just have to dig deep enough to find it.

    It's usually manifested in some sort of self-destructive behavior like eating a bag of cheetos, followed by a candy bar, followed by dinner, followed by....LOL Or it's manisfested by me getting snippy with people.

    It's usually after the behavior that I realize somethings up. I don't suddenly feel mean and then act on it.

    Usually, I'm guilt ridden immediately, make my amends, see what's up inside and deal with it.
  11. by   CHATSDALE
    i have a tendancy to get mad quick and get over it...use to snap back at ex and then i would be over it and he would have to spend days showing his hinny...
    i am mellowing as i get older...somethings that would get me don't bother me at all now
  12. by   webblarsk
    I have felt that way today. I am just really quite and spend alot of time by myself so that I don't hurt anyone's feelings.
  13. by   live4today
    Yes, we all have spells of angry moments, moody moments....etc.. I usually take a walk, get away by myself to be alone, take a drive while listening to my favorite music, read my Bible and pray, call a friend to vent to, and sometimes I say my piece to the one I'm angry with, and then go do one or more of the things I mentioned.

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