Family member with depression- anyone with suggestions?

  1. Have any of you had any experience helping a family member seek treatment for severe depression? Where did you turn for help? How did it turn out?

  2. 11 Comments

  3. by   Angelica
    My mother has had moderate bouts of depression her whole life, related , I think, to an unbelievably horrible childhood. She has denied ever having had suicidal ideations. Nonetheless, I feel badly for her. Her physician prescribed Prozac for her a year ago. I was so happy. But she didn't want to take it, and didn't. I don't know how to help her when she gets depressed, other than just be there to listen to her. If I thought she was in danger of hurting herself, though, I would certainly take stronger action. I'm sorry I don't have anything better to offer. It's late, and I just finished a math final, so I'm not very mentally 'with it', but I'm sending positive thoughts your way.
  4. by   kjseam
    I agree that if there is any indication that your loved one would hurt themself then get any kind of help you can ASAP. But I dont think anti-depressants are always the answer. My father commited suicide about 2 years ago when I was 7 months pregnant. Well I went into an awful depression and then I gave birth and I had that whole post partum thing. My doc put me on an anti- depressant and I felt great but then when I went off of them I felt even more depressed than I did before I went on them. Sometimes there are things in life you just have to get through by yourself. But you know your loved ones situation better than us. Sorry I could not be more help. You and your loved one will be in my prayers.
  5. by   Disablednurse
    Kristie, I have problems with depression myself. I am on a couple of antidepressants and antianxiety meds. I still have episodes of anxiety and panic attacks. I also have problems with depression. I have in the past had thoughts of suicide, but when I had the thoughts, I called my pastor and went and talked to him right then because they scared me. I have episodes of crying and episodes of fear for no reason and my present situation has not helped at all. It is nothing fun and I think if you have someone in your family experiencing it, please get them help, they need it.
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am glad your loved one is at least trying to get help. I lived with TWO depressed parents who never would admit they had problems, and of course, and we paid the price for it as kids. It is VERY difficult living with a person who is depressed, I know. I hope things improve for you; I know how hard it must be. My best thoughts are with you in this rough time.
  7. by   P_RN
    I have a very close family member who battles depression...the girl in the mirror-me. When you are really down it seems the world is a shadowy tunnel..there's no way out. It took someone else to recognise what I was doing and saying and get me help. I still see a counselor and get my meds tweaked every so often. I look back and am able to see how it was, but back in the dark days I had no clue. Please get your loved one to the doctor.
  8. by   warrior woman
    As a persn who has struggled with depression for years, and have also struggled with crushing depression and suicidal ideations I implore you to find help ASAP!! I'm now in therapy, and have had my meds increased to Paxil 37.5 mg. and am feeling much better and less anxious. Plus I have a great job now, and I feel more in control than have felt in years. So, there is a light at the end of fthe tunnel. PLEASE DON'T BE AFRAIS OR ASHAMED TO SEEK HELP. It could save a life. Peace to you, WW.
  9. by   NICU_Nurse
    Thanks, all of you, for the suggestions. I was not referring to myself, though I appreciate the kind words! This person is a member of my family whom I am very close to, and she has suffered from severe depression for quite a while- at least six years, but I think it kind of got seeded a very long time ago. I'm related to her by marriage, and her mother was very mentally unstable (she had some paranoia problems that went undiagnosed, but I wondered for some time if she might have been completely delusional at one point) and suffered from severe depression as well as suicidal ideation and was actually hospitalized for 6 weeks at one point (her mom) for attempting to commit suicide with a shotgun (the gun went off, through the window, and into a car driving by about half a block away- no one was hurt). This family member was diagnosed with depression by a GP at one point, who gave her a prescription for Paxil. The Paxil had all sorts of side effects, made her very uncomfortable, and basically turned off her emotion. She seemed better to us, but she said later that she felt like a walking zombie- unable to really react to anything at all, just kind of...watching, if that makes any sense. She got a divorce and her husband's insurance company no longer covered her medication or tx, so she's been off of the Paxil and untreated for almost 2 years now. She doesn't work much, is in a really difficult personal position, and basically I'm really worried about her because the littlest thing can set her off and she's talking about killing herself over not being able to pay for a vacation she wanted to take. Then other days she's just fine and dandy, and is making attempts to move forward. Then bam! backwards, then forwards, and it's frustrating for all of us to watch. I just felt kind of helpless, and thought maybe there were groups where you pay on a sliding scale, or like, Depression Anonymous (do they have anything like that? I made that up..) or something where she could get help, have people to talk to, and afford it. She's so lonely and pretty isolated from other people, and I just don't know what to do. She's got other health problems that are untreated because of the lack of insurance, and it seems like that just piles on top of all the other stuff, you know? I feel like she's my sister, and she doesn't talk to either of her parents (her father is a whole other box of rocks altogether) and she confides in me, and I'm like, whoa, you know? Just....feeling overwhelmed.
  10. by   kjseam
    I am sorry Kristi. I know this is difficult to handle and very overwhelming. A friend of mine went through a little depression and she went to the health department because she doesnt have health insurance either. They have counselors there and she was seeing one every week and the base how much you pay by your income. Maybe you could check on something like that.
  11. by   MJ-12
    Try Psycho therapy, might help
  12. by   MandyInMS
    Had to deal with this situation last year with my grandmother..she has been depressed on and off for as long as I can remember..I went to visit her last August for her birthday, expecting a normal visit.All she could do was shake and cry..and then she mentioned how much better it would be if she were just dead.Scared the crap out of me.Called her local Dr and told them we would be arriving ASAP and to have a room waiting that she didn't need to be sitting in a waiting room the way she was.Took her to the MD's office and let them handle it from there...yes, I'm a nurse, but it's SO different when it's YOUR own family. I let her talk to the MD as I filled in the blanks..she denied saying she wished she were dead but glad I was there to inform the MD of that fact.We then took her to a treatment facility which I believe saved her life...yes, she was MAD at me for a while..but finally realised I only stepped in because I love her.I mean, how could I have left her in that shape? what if she had hurt herself? that guilt I couldn't have handled.True love is doing what needs to be done...even when that person hates you for it at the time......wish you best of luck with your family member Kristi (((hugzzz)))
  13. by   P_RN
    Look up the State Mental Health Centers. The one for NO is